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Relationship Help Show with Dr Rhoberta Shaler

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The Relationship Help Show:  Handling Hijackal® Havoc offers the insights, strategies, and skills you need to recognize what's really going on in the crazy-making relationships in your life. Relentlessly difficult people and relationships in can cause you to constantly second-guess yourself and question your sanity.

Get relationship advice directly from Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor. Learn from her expert guests. Each one has a very unique voice on solving relationship problems with particularly difficult people 

Are these relationship issues on your mind?

  • Are you with a Hijackal?  Free ebook, How To Spot A Hijackal, 
  • Want to know how your relationship can shift and you can grow closer?
  • Or, need to know if it's time to leave? 
  • Need insights into troubling behavior patterns?
  • Want to deepen your emotional intimacy?
  • Need to distance yourself from toxic people?
  • Can't communicate...or someone won't?
  • Trying to figure out what's your problem and what is theirs? 
  • Does every conversation quickly become an argument?
  • Have you been discarded by a relentlessly difficult person, a Hijackal?
  • Are you with one? Or, leaving one? 

You will get help with those here!  

What is a Hijackal, exactly? 

A person who hijacks relationships–for their own purposes–while scavenging them for power, status, and control.

They make you question your sanity and second-guess yourself constantly. That’s their game…and, they are very good at it!

Every time you think of being near a Hijackal®, you get anxious. Why? Because the main purpose of Hijackal behavior is to win.

Recognizing chronically difficult people requires admitting that they not only like to win, they have to win. Yes, to win…and in all circumstances and at all times. Yes, they will give you the illusion of agreeing with you…but, only when it suits their purposes, or their longer “game.”

Know one? I’m thinking you must because you’ve found yourself here on this page with me. You’re ready to escape the Hijackal Trap.

It might be your partner, ex,  parent,  co-worker, or someone in any organization–family, workplace, government, court, church, community project, board, or association.

We have all had interaction - at some level, at some time - with a Hijackal... whether we knew it or not. They are unavoidable. AND being in a relationship with a Hijackal - whether at home, work or play - requires some insights and knowledge to navigate and keep yourself safe and sane. 

Those are the things we discuss a lot here. Join us. 

Talk Show Program Archives for Podcasting

Relationship Help Show , April 3, 2018 with Dr Rhoberta Shaler
E37 - Is Your Family History Ruining Your Relationship Life?, March 27, 2018 ​Guest, Johanna Lynn, Clinical Hypnotherapist
E36 - How to Manage Uncertainty, Ambiguity and Chaos in Relationships, March 20, 2018 Guest: Dr Dennis Merritt-Jones
E35 - Is that Passive-Aggressive? Men, Relationships & Having It All, March 13, 2018 Guest, Dr Ganz Ferrance
E34 - Do Hijackals Become Wonderful in a New Relationship?, March 6, 2018 Guest, Bree Bonchay
E33 - Can I Trust? Recovering from Relationship Trauma & Betrayal, February 27, 2018 Guest, Dr Michael Wayne Regier
E32 - Saying NO! to Toxic People Requires Saying YES! to Yourself, February 20, 2018 Guest, Laura Rubinstein - Why Loving Yourself Means Saying No to Hijackals
E31-Love Yourself, Tune Up Your Self-Confidence, & Step Out! , February 13, 2018 It Happened To Me - Wendy Newman, Relationship Expert
E30 - CHANGES: Is It Time to Change? Yourself? Your Approach? Your Relationships? , February 6, 2018 Guest, Filippo Voltaggio
E29-BULLYING: At Home, at work, at School. What to do to make it stop. , January 30, 2018 Guests, Dr Gary Salyer and Dr Nekeshia Hammond
E28: Call It What It Is: Abuse!, January 23, 2018 Guests, Liberty Forrest and Christine Baumgartner
E27 - When Attachment Goes Sideways... , January 16, 2018 Guest, Dr Gary Salyer
E26 - Intuition, Loving Yourself and New Beginnings , January 9, 2018 Guest, Liberty Forrest
E25 - Hijackals, Conflict and Tough Conversations at Home and Work , January 2, 2018 Charmaine Hammond - Conflict & Tough Conversations
E24 - How to Spot a Hijackal and Stop the Toxic Dance , December 26, 2017
E23 - Hijackals Have a Love/Hate Relationship with Church and Spirituality, December 19, 2017 Guest, Dr. Dennis Merritt-Jones
E22 - Relationship Predators Who Pounce on Unsuspecting Prey, December 12, 2017 Have You Become the Unwitting Prey of a HIjackal® Predator?
E21 - Hijackals, Co-Parenting and Keeping Your Sanity, December 5, 2017 Guest: Karen Covy
E20 - How to See Red Flags and Avoid Wasting Time, Energy, and Emotional Well-being, November 28, 2017 Guest, Lorna Poole
E19 - What To Do About Difficult People You Can't Get Away From at Work, November 21, 2017 Guest, Judy Hoberman
Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor
San Marcos
CAUnited States
Relationship Consultant. Speaker. Author.

The Relationship Help Doctor, Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, provides urgent and ongoing care for relationships in crisis. Even the United States Marines have called on her for help!

As a relationship consultant, mediator, and speaker, Dr. Shaler particularly helps the partners, exes, and adult children of the relentlessly difficult people she calls "Hijackals®"  to save their sanity and stop the crazy-making. She defines Hijackals as "people who hijack relationships--for their own purposes--while relentlessly scavenging them for power, status, and control."

Rhoberta offers the insights, strategies, and support you need to reclaim hope, confidence--and your sanity--when dealing with the constant uncertainty and jaw-dropping behaviors of Hijackals in your life, at home and at work.  The author of sixteen books, including her new Hijackal ebook series, Escaping the Hijackal Trap: The Definitive Guide to Dealing with Relentlessly Difficult People, Dr. Shaler is the host of two popular podcasts:  Transforming Relationship with Emotional Savvy, and, Save Your Sanity! Help for Toxic Relationships

Dr. Shaler’s work has been featured on FoxNews, PsychCentral, Cosmopolitan, Good Housekeeping, The Good Men Project, eHarmony, Care2, Greatist, Pulse, and The Needs, among many others. Her YouTube channel, ForRelationshipHelp, is an evergreen source of practical insights and tips for relationships with over 275,000 views. 

Featured Guests


Guest, Scott Kimbro April 03, 2018
Guest, Johanna Lynn March 27, 2018
Guest, Dr Ganz Ferrance March 13, 2018
Guest, Bree Bonchay LCSW March 06, 2018
Guest, Laura Rubinstein February 20, 2018
Guest, Filippo Voltaggio February 06, 2018
Guest, Dr. Nekeshia Hammond January 30, 2018
Guest, Christine Baumgartner January 23, 2018
Guest, Liberty Forrest January 23, 2018
Guest, Dr Gary Salyer January 16, 2018
Guest, Liberty Forrest January 09, 2018
Guest, Charmaine Hammond January 02, 2018
Guest, Dr Dennis Merritt-Jones December 19, 2017
Guest, Karen Covy December 05, 2017
Guest, Lorna Poole November 28, 2017
Guest, Judy Hoberman November 21, 2017
Guest, Shirlene Reeves November 14, 2017
Guest, Dr Lee Baucom November 07, 2017