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Submitted by Douglas Newsom on 18 May 2021

Relationship Help Show with Dr Rhoberta Shaler

The Relationship Help Show:  Handling Hijackal® Havoc offers the insights, strategies, and skills you need to recognize what's really going on in the crazy-making relationships in your life. Relentlessly difficult people and relationships in can cause you to constantly second-guess yourself and question your sanity.

Get relationship advice directly from Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor. Learn from her expert guests. Each one has a very unique voice on solving relationship problems with particularly difficult people 

Are these relationship issues on your mind?

  • Are you with a Hijackal?  Free ebook, How To Spot A Hijackal, 
  • Want to know how your relationship can shift and you can grow closer?
  • Or, need to know if it's time to leave? 
  • Need insights into troubling behavior patterns?
  • Want to deepen your emotional intimacy?
  • Need to distance yourself from toxic people?
  • Can't communicate...or someone won't?
  • Trying to figure out what's your problem and what is theirs? 
  • Does every conversation quickly become an argument?
  • Have you been discarded by a relentlessly difficult person, a Hijackal?
  • Are you with one? Or, leaving one? 

You will get help with those here!  

What is a Hijackal, exactly? 

A person who hijacks relationships–for their own purposes–while scavenging them for power, status, and control.

They make you question your sanity and second-guess yourself constantly. That’s their game…and, they are very good at it!

Every time you think of being near a Hijackal®, you get anxious. Why? Because the main purpose of Hijackal behavior is to win.

Recognizing chronically difficult people requires admitting that they not only like to win, they have to win. Yes, to win…and in all circumstances and at all times. Yes, they will give you the illusion of agreeing with you…but, only when it suits their purposes, or their longer “game.”

Know one? I’m thinking you must because you’ve found yourself here on this page with me. You’re ready to escape the Hijackal Trap.

It might be your partner, ex,  parent,  co-worker, or someone in any organization–family, workplace, government, court, church, community project, board, or association.

We have all had interaction - at some level, at some time - with a Hijackal... whether we knew it or not. They are unavoidable. AND being in a relationship with a Hijackal - whether at home, work or play - requires some insights and knowledge to navigate and keep yourself safe and sane. 

Those are the things we discuss a lot here. Join us. 

Talk Show Program Archives for Podcasting

E18 - Why You Get Hooked on Hope & Hijackals, November 14, 2017 Guest, Shirlene Reeves
E17 - More signs of abuse you should know; and when it's time to leave (or not). , November 7, 2017 Guest, Dr Lee Baucom
E16 - Is Your Relationship Difficult or Dangerous, October 31, 2017 with Dr Rhoberta Shaler
E15 - Trauma-Bonding and the Cycle of Violence in Relationships, October 25, 2017 Guest: Dr Gary Salyer
E14 - How to Recognize & Create Emotional Safety in Your Relationship, October 18, 2017 Guest: Antia Boyd
E13 - Secrets to Stepping Up and Speaking Up, October 11, 2017 Guest: Betsy Chasse
E12 - Recalibrating Your Relationships, October 4, 2017 Guest: Filippo Voltaggio
E11 - Unleashing (or not) Greatness. What's enough?, September 27, 2017 Guest: Jonathan Mitchell
E10 - Compassionate Communication, September 20, 2017 Guest: Laura Jack
E9 - The Need for Intimacy, September 13, 2017 Guest: Dr. Lori Beth Bisbey
E8 - Why Focus Matters in Your Relationships, September 6, 2017 Guest: Laura Rubinstein
E7 -TEENS: Finding the Joy, Facing the Challenges. , August 23, 2017 Guest: Donovan Dreyer
E6 - How Do You Know That It's Actually Abuse? and From Broken to Blissful, August 16, 2017 Guest: Susan Ball
E5 - Hijackals: Why Your Radar Might Not Pick Them Up , August 9, 2017 Guest: Michelle Ann Owens
E4 - Settling is for Buildings; and Why Your Ideal Partner May be Eluding You, August 2, 2017 Guest: Lori Peters
E3 - Divorce Advice To Help You Keep Your Sanity...and the other stuff you want., July 26, 2017 Guest: Karen Covy - 07/26/17
E2 - When Bad Things Happen to Good Children, July 19, 2017 Guest: Christine Baumgartner - 07/19/17
E1 - Should You Stay or Should You Go?, July 12, 2017 Guest: Dr. Karen Finn
Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor
San Marcos
CAUnited States
Relationship Consultant. Speaker. Author.

The Relationship Help Doctor, Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, provides urgent and ongoing care for relationships in crisis. Even the United States Marines have called on her for help!

As a relationship consultant, mediator, and speaker, Dr. Shaler particularly helps the partners, exes, and adult children of the relentlessly difficult people she calls "Hijackals®"  to save their sanity and stop the crazy-making. She defines Hijackals as "people who hijack relationships--for their own purposes--while relentlessly scavenging them for power, status, and control."

Rhoberta offers the insights, strategies, and support you need to reclaim hope, confidence--and your sanity--when dealing with the constant uncertainty and jaw-dropping behaviors of Hijackals in your life, at home and at work.  The author of sixteen books, including her new Hijackal ebook series, Escaping the Hijackal Trap: The Definitive Guide to Dealing with Relentlessly Difficult People, Dr. Shaler is the host of two popular podcasts:  Transforming Relationship with Emotional Savvy, and, Save Your Sanity! Help for Toxic Relationships

Dr. Shaler’s work has been featured on FoxNews, PsychCentral, Cosmopolitan, Good Housekeeping, The Good Men Project, eHarmony, Care2, Greatist, Pulse, and The Needs, among many others. Her YouTube channel, ForRelationshipHelp, is an evergreen source of practical insights and tips for relationships with over 275,000 views. 

Featured Guests


Guest, Dr Gary Salyer October 25, 2017
Guest, Antia Boyd October 18, 2017
Guest, Betsy Chasse October 11, 2017
Guest, Filippo Voltaggio October 04, 2017
Guest, Jonathan Mitchell September 27, 2017
Guest, Laura Jack September 20, 2017
Guest, Doctor Lori Beth Bisbey September 13, 2017
Guest, Laura Rubinstein September 06, 2017
Guest, Donovan Dreyer August 23, 2017
Guest, Susan Ball August 16, 2017
Guest, Michelle Ann Owens August 09, 2017
Guest, Lori Peters August 02, 2017
Guest, Karen Covy July 26, 2017
Guest, Dr Karen Finn July 12, 2017