E36 - How to Manage Uncertainty, Ambiguity and Chaos in Relationships, March 20, 2018

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E36 - How to Manage Uncertainty, Ambiguity and Chaos in Relationships
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Guest: Dr Dennis Merritt-Jones

Relationship Help Show with Dr Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor

​Guest, Dr Dennis Merritt-Jones

How to Manage Uncertainty, Ambiguity and Chaos in Relationships

#1 Introduction
What's coming up in this episode with Dr. Shaler and her guest, Dr. Dennis, Merritt-Jones, author of The Art of UnCertainty 

#2 How To Learn To Say What You Mean - Dr. Rhoberta Shaler
You're often taught to bite your tongue, right? Somehow, speaking your truth is discouraged, almost as though what you have to say has no value and doesn't matter. Then, you get in the way of not speaking up when you are discounted, degraded, or verbally abused. That leads to emotional abuse. So, these insights can help you find your voice...and use it! 

#3 GUEST: Dr. Dennis Merritt-Jones, author of The Art of Uncertainty 
Hijackals®, those toxic people who are impossible to please and difficult to live with make it their life's work to keep you in uncertainty and second-guessing yourself. Dennis gives another view of uncertainty that is much more positive and appealing. He offers spiritual views for dealing with practical matters in a refreshing way. 

#4 GUEST: Dr. Dennis Merritt-Jones
Would you like to know how to know when to let go of wrongs, worries, fears, and pain? In this segment, we talk about four important pillars: choice, faith, curiosity, and action. All help you to create a life that moves in positive directions and towards manifesting the relationships and dreams you most want. 

#5 Q&A: Should I Take My Partner Back Again? 
So many times, Hijackals® leave in a fit of righteousness to punish you. Hijackals must be right...always. You've likely noticed that. Then, they want to come back. They "love bomb" you: saying and doing all the right, loving things you've been longing to hear. Here's why you have to think clearly, remember well, and stand your ground. 

#6  Closing


Headlined, Relationship Help Show, March 20, 2018

How to Manage Uncertainty, Ambiguity and Chaos in Relationships
Broadcast Date: 
March 20, 2018

How to Manage Uncertainty, Ambiguity and Chaos in Relationships

Dr. Shaler talks in-depth with Dr. Dennis Merrit-Jones about "The Art of Uncertainty" (also the title of his book), and how to navigate relationships successfully and safely when there is chaos and disorder. 

Guest, Dr Dennis Merritt-Jones

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Dr Dennis Merritt-Jones
Dennis Merritt Jones  Is Unconditional Love Really A Thing? How Does It Work?
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Author, Speaker, Columnist
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Throughout his lifetime, Dennis Merritt Jones has been on a quest to inspire and lift people to a higher expression of life. His personal vision is to guide people to their purpose, knowing that when one fully awakens to who they are and why they are on the planet, they begin to naturally share their gift with humankind and, in the process, create an enriching life for themselves and the world around them.

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Relationship Help Show

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The Relationship Help Show:  Handling Hijackal® Havoc offers the insights, strategies, and skills you need to recognize what's really going on in the crazy-making relationships in your life. Relentlessly difficult people and relationships in can cause you to constantly second-guess yourself and question your sanity.

Get relationship advice directly from Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor. Learn from her expert guests. Each one has a very unique voice on solving relationship problems with particularly difficult people 

Are these relationship issues on your mind?

  • Are you with a Hijackal?  Free ebook, How To Spot A Hijackal, Hijackals.com 
  • Want to know how your relationship can shift and you can grow closer?
  • Or, need to know if it's time to leave? 
  • Need insights into troubling behavior patterns?
  • Want to deepen your emotional intimacy?
  • Need to distance yourself from toxic people?
  • Can't communicate...or someone won't?
  • Trying to figure out what's your problem and what is theirs? 
  • Does every conversation quickly become an argument?
  • Have you been discarded by a relentlessly difficult person, a Hijackal?
  • Are you with one? Or, leaving one? 

You will get help with those here!  

What is a Hijackal, exactly? 

A person who hijacks relationships–for their own purposes–while scavenging them for power, status, and control.

They make you question your sanity and second-guess yourself constantly. That’s their game…and, they are very good at it!

Every time you think of being near a Hijackal®, you get anxious. Why? Because the main purpose of Hijackal behavior is to win.

Recognizing chronically difficult people requires admitting that they not only like to win, they have to win. Yes, to win…and in all circumstances and at all times. Yes, they will give you the illusion of agreeing with you…but, only when it suits their purposes, or their longer “game.”

Know one? I’m thinking you must because you’ve found yourself here on this page with me. You’re ready to escape the Hijackal Trap.

It might be your partner, ex,  parent,  co-worker, or someone in any organization–family, workplace, government, court, church, community project, board, or association.

We have all had interaction - at some level, at some time - with a Hijackal... whether we knew it or not. They are unavoidable. AND being in a relationship with a Hijackal - whether at home, work or play - requires some insights and knowledge to navigate and keep yourself safe and sane. 

Those are the things we discuss a lot here. Join us.