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3 POWER ANCHORS FOR THE 21ST CENTURY EMPATH

Tuning out of others' fear

• How to tune out judgments

• In the end, Mell will share a powerful guide for responding with grace

As an empath how can we be oblivious to the drama and outside distractions?

How can we know we have the power within and believe that we’re capable of anything?

No one is born a failure and no one is born a success. You have the ability to be what you want to be. You just have to keep believing. Be aware of your intuitive red flags and make sure you don't overlook them for long.

You are here on earth for a reason, this is your unique opportunity to express yourself as a droplet in the ocean of life. Knowing your dharma or life purpose or soul’s journey adds to the faith that struggles and tribulations are part of what you NEED to go through.

What are empathic red flags?

Sadly red flags are one of those things that people put on the back burner, and only think about when it's too late. You've probably heard all the clichés about looking out for the red flags in relationships or business, but maybe you're not quite sure what they are.

A red flag is any topic, issue, or behavior that is a sign of bigger problems to come. Some of these red flags can be small and personal to ourselves, such as being late to an appointment,

And of course, it can also be something more severe like addiction, narcissism, or abuse.

The key is to be proactive, and that means avoiding red flags before they have the chance to escalate. This will protect your energy reserves and help you to have a more positive outlook on life.

Everyone has a gut instinct - a feeling about something or someone that tells you something is wrong or that something is not quite right. Sometimes we ignore these feelings and we regret them later. Sometimes we listen and take action and we feel vindicated.

So it's best to just take the time to pay attention to the red flags, so you know if this is something you can handle or if you need to back away from the situation. If you ignore the red flags, you could

HOW CAN WE AMPLIFY THIS AWARENESS?

Let me share a bit about emotional contagion with our Mirror Neuron system.

Say you’re hanging out with somebody who loves to gossip and is a little catty about others and you don’t know how or can’t change the subject.

The part of humanity that empathy is based around is the connection to others. As children, we learn how to reach our mother's facial expressions.

Studies have been done of depriving baby chimps of connection with other chimps, and they grow up psychologically damaged from the lack of interaction.

Humans are the same! Studies have shown that when we are interacting with others, our own matching brain regions become activated and cause us to respond involuntarily. The more facial expressive the other person is, the more we mirror their movements and expressions.

It also activates the emotional centers that correspond with those facial muscles, so we start to FEEL the same way as them!

DOES IT MATTER HOW CLOSE WE ARE TO THEM OR IF THEY ARE STRANGERS?

The more you respect, admire or look up to that person, or the more empathy they show you, the more ‘open’ you are to them, therefore the more likelihood of ‘catching’ or matching their state.

However temporary the bond, the ‘influencing’ direction of the state depends on who is the stronger expresser of their emotion.

The calmest stressed, the angriest, most loving state will win over the other less expressed emotion.

An evolved, masterful, healer is somebody that can maintain a state of calm AND empathy in the company of their client's or patient's discomfort and emotions.

IS THIS WHAT THE POWER ANCHORS ARE?

SLIDE 1 - intro

Yes, I’m going to explain 3 of the most common ones I come across working with EMPrs.

SLIDE 2

ANCHOR STATEMENT Doubting your ability to make the impact you desire is causing you to work harder.

How does this show up in business with your empath preneurs?

PROBLEM You’re working 60+ hours per week, but keeping less than a McDonald's clerk would take home.

TONI BEHAVIOURS Putting in more and more hours, believing it will make you successful

MELLS EXAMPLES serving for free and lowering your prices to make it work.
Staying in the content creation rat race

FEAR I won’t be successful and make an impact unless I work harder (to get more clients)

ACTUAL LIMITING BELIEF / SELF ESTEEM - afraid of ‘Who AM I” to chase this impact goal, results in self-doubt that they will make an impact on the world

SO WHAT IS THE SOLUTION TO THIS RED FLAG?

switching and trying new things before truly testing and ‘failing fast’

& pay attention to your intuitive guidance system

SLIDE 3

ANCHOR STATEMENT / Prioritising the happiness of others is the cause of your business plateauing.

How does this show up for empaths?

PROBLEM Each day you’re distracted with 2 unnecessary tasks and barely ticking off the important, urgent tasks

TONI BEHAVIOURS not doing the consistent actions and tasks necessary to grow the business

MELLS EXAMPLES you’ve tidied the sock, kitchen, and office junk drawer rather than put a call out to attract new clients or
Feel they need to run it past a business or marketing coach first

FEAR I’m not/ it’s not ready to be released into the world (failure or success)

ACTUAL LIMITING BELIEF I have self-doubt that I’m knowledgeable enough, or it’s good enough for people to buy.

RED FLAG SOLUTION? = watch for self-sabotage through avoidance
& pay attention to your intuitive guidance system

SLIDE 4

ANCHOR STATEMENT / Your fear of being trolled is stopping your growth

How does this show up in business with your empathic clients?

PROBLEM You’ve not had 2 new clients consistently for 4 months

TONI BEHAVIOURS you’re playing with Canva rather than making the follow-up sales calls. Not doing the tasks you know you should be doing to attract new clients and to grow their business

MELLS EXAMPLE feeling it needs to be perfect before people will buy or offer to way more people for free, rather than beta launching at a lower price.

Who am I to be charging more, to be sharing this information at this level?

FEAR I’m afraid I’ll get trolled

ACTUAL LIMITING BELIEF / They’re afraid of their own success, also what the extra work (overwhelm) the extra success will create!

RED FLAG SOLUTION?

= stop comparing to others or constantly deferring externally to coaches for the ‘right’ answers.

Catch when you’re listening to advice that doesn’t align with your value, purpose or desires

pay attention to your intuitive guidance system!

LAST SLIDE

How to tune out the judgments of others?

• don’t switch to new things before truly testing and ‘failing fast’

• watch for self-sabotage through avoidance

• stop comparing to others or constantly deferring externally

YOU PROMISED A POWERFUL GUIDE FOR RESPONDING WITH GRACE

If love were a person, how would they respond?