Crazy Sexy Midlife Love, June 2, 2021
Show Headline
Crazy Sexy Midlife Love
Show Sub Headline
Learning something new... Yes, you can teach a midlife "dog" new tricks
Crazy Sexy Midlife Love with Devin and Morgana
Learning something new... Yes, you can teach a midlife "dog" new tricks
When kids leave the nest, you're world opens up. What have you always wanted to do?
Novelty is fantastic for relationship. New things make us feel alive. New experiences are an aphrodisiac.
Now is the PERFECT time to take up a new hobby, learn a new skill. And we have 9 golden gems to help you get out of your own way and get started.
We're reviewing and picking up where we left off on Devin's LIST. The list that he actually didn't lose. Miracle of miracles.
And we're taking calls. (Caatching up on caller "Priscilla" and her romantic progress.
Next week we'll be broadcasting live from Mexico, on our first trip since Covid. Call us with your love questions!
Archive Category
Crazy Sexy Midlife Love
Show Host
My husband and I are 25 weddings deep into getting married 100 times in 100 countries. 100% his idea. And honestly, when we hit 100 we’ll probably keep going, cause we’ve been in honeymoon mode for 5 years now. (He’s a smart man.) We met at 45. Started getting married at 47… back in 2014.
My philosophy is love gets better and more fun at midlife, especially for women. We’re smarter. Men are more relationship ready. (And if they’re not, it’s so obvious! Next!) I want to punch holes in all that negative, fear-feeding nonsense I grew up hearing about age and love for women.
Getting Married around the World
The reason for this is simple. Love and travel are two of our favorite things. By combining the two we unite the best of our worlds. Yes, at least, 100 weddings!
100 Weddings, So Far
Yes, we are aware that we are just getting started.
1. Los Angeles, CA USA — May 23, 2014
2. Puerto Vallarta, Mexico — June 5, 2014
3. Dubrovnik, Croatia — September 14, 2014
4. Kotor, Montenegro — September 15, 2014
5. Mostar, Bosnia and Herzegovina — September 18, 2014
6. The mountains above Sarajevo, Republic of Srpska — September 22, 2014
7. Belgrade, Serbia — September 26, 2014
8. Belgrade, Serbia — September 26, 2014
9. Bled, Slovenia — September 29, 2014
10. San Marino, San Marino — October 4, 2014
11. Rome, Italy — October 5, 2014
12. Vatican City — October 5, 2014
13. Gesi, Turkey — February 12, 2015
14. Norwalk, CA — May 27, 2015
15. Villa Del Palmar, Loreto, Mexico — June 17, 2015
16. Wizards Academy, Austin, TX — October 6, 2015
17. Sri Rahti, Penestanan, Bali, Indonesia — May 8, 2016
18. Toronto, Canada — August 10, 2016
19. San Miguel de Allende, Guanajuato, Mexico — June 15, 2017
20. Colima, Mexico — November 18, 2017
21. Sedona, Arizona — November 10, 2018
22. Paris, France — September 26, 2019
23. Brussels, Belgium — September 29, 2019
24. Madrid, Spain — October 11, 2019
25. Lisbon, Portugal — October 17, 2019
Show Transcript (automatic text 90% accurate)
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Morgana and Devin: hello, and welcome my name is gonna This is my husband Devon and i'm waving and he's waiting for those who aren't watching the video stream.
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Morgana and Devin: Before I forget because I always forget if we invite you to join our crazy sexy.
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Morgana and Devin: loving family over at crazy sexy midlife love calm and while you're there be sure to download devon's book, women are smarter than men.
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Morgana and Devin: Because they all because my husband says they are, and who would I be to challenge my husband not you i'm too smart for that that's correct now you're sounding like a husband.
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Morgana and Devin: you're sounding like a smart husband way to go, please say thank you, High five so Mary how many years now seven years we had our seven year anniversary in May.
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Morgana and Devin: And, and our six year legal marriage anniversary and made lots and lots of weddings when you get married I think we're at now 25.
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Morgana and Devin: In 20 countries on our way to get married 100 times 100 countries and honestly then keep going because it's a great thing to do and I highly recommend that you just.
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Morgana and Devin: run with it, you can take the idea use it in your own life carving out time from the day to day and honestly it's a hassle you have to like stop what you're doing make travel plans go somewhere gorgeous.
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Morgana and Devin: packs something wedding me if you choose sometimes sometimes we dress like we're getting married and sometimes we're just dress the way we're dressed and the main thing is just pick a moment to.
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Morgana and Devin: have some kind of ceremony to just look each other in the eyes and speak from the heart and and Center the marriage and just keep doing it it's delicious This is my husband's idea.
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Morgana and Devin: was to comment on it, I think it's a good time for you to comment occur, we come i've done this, a lot so.
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Morgana and Devin: i'm constantly rolling my eyes, or what have you but that said yeah no I mean I think what ends up happening is you get married.
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Morgana and Devin: And then you go about your daily life do your things and then, little by little, maybe have kids maybe you don't maybe have a lot of jobs or you don't.
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Morgana and Devin: go through your life and all the sudden one day you wake up and you know you and your partner have moved in separate directions in some way.
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Morgana and Devin: And all of a sudden becomes really weird and awkward on how to return to that thing that was so normal and organic is now it's like well how do we get back, how do we move.
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Morgana and Devin: Back to that Center and I think probably the easiest way to go about doing that, I mean, certainly, you have to have two people that are absolutely committed in the relationship.
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Morgana and Devin: But I think more importantly I think what you have to do is kind of keep reinvesting.
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Morgana and Devin: In the relationship so you're not actually going in separate directions, you have to remind each other, this is why i'm with you, and this is just a great way to do it.
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Morgana and Devin: Right, I mean listen i'm a cheapskate so I have no interest, but he married me that's perfect yeah so what's really important is is.
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Morgana and Devin: That you don't sort of drift away and you don't let you know just working kid it's in life, take over and sort of allow it to kind of slowly drift you away.
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Morgana and Devin: Because I don't think people consciously make these choices, I think what ends up happening is is that you just get sidetracked you come busy life is busy life is unpredictable and all the things in our lives kind of drag us to and fro.
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Morgana and Devin: But you can't lose sight of why you picked this person, at least if you want a great relationship and because no matter how much you adore each other.
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Morgana and Devin: we're different people and that's crazy making and choosing to choose each other really re emphasizes, what we have in common.
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Morgana and Devin: Because we have a lot of things that we have different interests we have different opinions on stuff For now, I still have a lot of confidence, the devil come round no I don't I have zero.
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Morgana and Devin: That ya know he's a very, very stubborn wonderful person and no it's no are you are you're what you're like what Aries and Taurus and, like all these really.
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Morgana and Devin: enjoyable state that's the word I was thinking yeah right okay exact please go on now, if I if you were a pushover I would have been bored and gone so long ago.
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Morgana and Devin: So it's that's the crazy thing is that the things that attract the to you are also the things that sometimes repel me, and I know it's the same here um.
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Morgana and Devin: And that's that's just you know the craziness of love itself.
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Morgana and Devin: So we were talking about what we do now that we found each other, we found each other at the spry young ages of 45.
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Morgana and Devin: And then got married at 47 and now we're both 54 Devon, is about to have a birthday so we're flying to Mexico, where it is to celebrate.
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Morgana and Devin: really gets last really fast, and we are also you know it's a I like to talk a lot about.
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Morgana and Devin: about the process of meeting and choosing a partner now because we're here and it's live today.
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Morgana and Devin: Like last week we had fantastic guests highly recommend that you check out last week with Noah and BAT BAT and every other week roughly we have the guest.
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Morgana and Devin: Of, but what is just us, we want to hear from you like that's the conversation that we want So if you are out there, and you, for any reason, believe that you can't have love if somebody told you that you were to this to that or the other thing.
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Morgana and Devin: Or you heard it growing up or you've been really discouraged.
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Morgana and Devin: We want to hear from you, because hey we had like.
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Morgana and Devin: A total 100% success rate of total failure before we met each other, like an unbroken record of romantic failure for 45 years before we met, and I believe so strongly that midlife love is better.
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Morgana and Devin: For a host of reasons, mostly because we've been beaten up and we're smarter now and we make better choices now and we're more ready now so.
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Morgana and Devin: If you don't have the phone number in front of you give us a call at 888-627-6008 don't worry about interrupting us if you can't get more guys happy to interrupt me right, yes, yes that's clear yeah interruption is a very high value in our belief why.
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Morgana and Devin: Stop we're going to we we have some stuff to talk about, but you if it anytime you want to call don't worry about interrupting us our producer will just send us a signal that.
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Morgana and Devin: Hopefully, he will find out that they're not you know they're legitimate call, just in case so hopefully Doug if you're listening, you know that happened one or a little bit of screening that was just a year ago, I understand that, but i'm just saying just to confirm i'm thinking aloud.
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Morgana and Devin: he's laughing right just a little bit of screening, you know, are you on a medication right now stop.
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Morgana and Devin: Who isn't no that's true okay yeah so the number is 886276008 we are on your side, we are nice and if we buy we buy gentle.
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Morgana and Devin: So you drumroll wrote a list my husband wrote a list so Okay, so the list goes back to I think a couple weeks ago and we were talking about.
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Morgana and Devin: You know, once you hit hit into midlife it's really sort of a great idea I mean my kid is.
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Morgana and Devin: Now you know she's graduated school she's on her own she's doing her own thing saw her for the first time, so it's called but yes, we did was great.
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Morgana and Devin: Had a wonderful chat I love all that stuff but she's doing her own thing right she's a young woman she's doing her own thing she doesn't need constant parenting.
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Morgana and Devin: And if she does need parenting it's really going to be on her terms her availability she's doing so it's not like I just need to be sitting there waiting.
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Morgana and Devin: of time, so what that means is all of a sudden certain elements of life have freed up and so.
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Morgana and Devin: You know, I was talking about what doing new things like one of the running jokes on this show is that impossible buying guitars.
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Morgana and Devin: guitars which is true and I will continue to buy more guitars and books and books, I did I did I did buy some books, so you don't even try to pretend to apologize anymore, as if you ever needed to.
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Morgana and Devin: A year I don't know for years, but I did sort of like oops.
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Morgana and Devin: Sorry bad news, good news and bad another book but yeah which is both good news or bad news, at the same time, so I bought more boats.
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Morgana and Devin: But, so I have more time to learn things and i'm you know if you're like me this is kind of like a perfect time of life we're still agile and active.
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Morgana and Devin: And there's lots of things I want to do, I clearly my wife is dying dying to say something, yes, I am, thank you for noticing my very unsettled cues.
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Morgana and Devin: From a relationship standpoint novelty is an aphrodisiac it wakes you up It makes you feel alive of bonds you together it's sexy it's also really, really good for the brain so.
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Morgana and Devin: You know now that we have a little bit of freedom and we have a little bit of money saved that we didn't have when we were kids now is the ideal time to start.
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Morgana and Devin: doing all the things you've ever dreamed of doing okay take it away Devon, at least until the next month, so so anyway My point is as we get older and, ironically enough.
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Morgana and Devin: My oldest friend that I have a guy that i've known longer than anybody a guy that I knew, since I was three years old, so other than my parents i've known this guy longer.
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Morgana and Devin: And so we went out, we went out together for lunch yesterday, I just want to I just need to say that he owns five guitars and he bought himself a piano.
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Morgana and Devin: But how many how many guitars is one piano worth like I don't I think it's just one to one it's one to one, which means that's room if he needs more piano she should go get them.
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Morgana and Devin: If that's what he's inspired to do, but the point that he was the point that all this came up because I was like you know going to grows budget detox where does he fit a woman, if he had if he keeps working on us Okay, you know, the one that RON.
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Morgana and Devin: RON i'm just saying that the woman's always around so it's now time to talk about guitars and we're not talking about guitar really what we're talking about is learning and falling through.
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Morgana and Devin: The things that you had never you know that you didn't have time for before, and now you can, and so a lot of you know, I think there is a line that gets caught in people's brains and it's.
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Morgana and Devin: You can't teach an old dog new tricks and I completely disagree with that, I think, if anything, we now have much more capacity to to learn take our time not be in a rush.
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Morgana and Devin: slow down do the fundamental ground, you know the lay the foundation for these kinds of things and move around it slowly, and so a couple weeks ago.
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Morgana and Devin: If you know if you are regular watcher of this particular channel, you will know that what ends up happening is we started doing a list of the 10 that i've written down we get to two.
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Morgana and Devin: And then I lose the list, but this time I remember the list, but I don't remember where we left, yes, you get through one and a half and then it's all we look at the time we'll finish it next week and then was the list, but OK, but so I made sure.
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Morgana and Devin: to know exactly where the list is so I have the list right, so we talked about things, so I want to kind of give a little bit of a review, I think it's like the first four.
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Morgana and Devin: yeah four or five four or five so maybe we'll do a quick rundown I inserted one right, but nobody nobody cares no I mean.
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Morgana and Devin: yeah I have my list all right, but I think in in check to interject away so that's if I couldn't like.
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Morgana and Devin: As if you were waiting for my approval that.
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Morgana and Devin: Please can I share something so that's not good.
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Morgana and Devin: So anyway, there is a list we're going to go through the first few when we're gonna remembers what she was going to interject she will interject that it colleen online to wait yay paulie I was just going to get the list.
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Morgana and Devin: Next week, all right okay so we've got we have Pauline online to hi Pauline, how can we help.
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Guest Speaker: hi i'm the last time I call maybe a couple of weeks ago and you guys told me, you have a blog on Sunday, I didn't write down any of your I guess website, or how to get to this that I really want to go to that why because the writers blog.
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Morgana and Devin: Oh it's a room it's in the clubhouse audio APP.
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Guest Speaker: And I don't know how to get to that, but i'll find out how.
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Morgana and Devin: Okay, so we will put a link in the show notes to to to get you into the clubhouse and, by the way this now that it's open to.
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Morgana and Devin: android android and iPhone out we actually have a special link for the last year it's been very hard to get in invitation only and they only give you one or two invitations at a time, but they've they have changed the system so that now, I can.
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Morgana and Devin: allow more people in, so we will post a an invitation link in the show notes to speed the process along.
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Morgana and Devin: And even better because it could take I don't know exactly when the show notes go up, so what I what I would like you to do Pauline.
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Morgana and Devin: Is if you haven't please go too crazy sexy mid left love COM download my husband's ebook and this, because what will happen is then I can, because the ebook is email to you, I can find your email, and I can email you directly.
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Guest Speaker: I thought I want to update you guys, I called your way very first time I don't know how long ago.
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Guest Speaker: Did years ago and I think I asked you guys because I had somebody who I had didn't involve with them to the year 2000 and I was like trying to.
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Guest Speaker: Get back with him, we were kept missing each other and finally he's having lunch with me tomorrow with like two years ago that he did, but he wasn't finished with that relationship, and then I remember mentioning that he's afraid.
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Guest Speaker: That the ghost of my late has been with I heard him.
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Morgana and Devin: Right right I.
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Guest Speaker: You guys suggested you suggested, he speak to his spirit, so that it's Okay, but I already got the Okay, but I would that's a good, I still think you should ask you never know.
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Guest Speaker: It doesn't hurt I like that what your suggestion, so when I see him tomorrow, I will bring this up, because I know that the.
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Guest Speaker: best thing to do, I think it is get a blessing that I know you got blessings from his ancestors in mind.
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Morgana and Devin: immediately.
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Guest Speaker: So I just feel it.
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Morgana and Devin: I think that's great and see and see your meeting tomorrow.
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Morgana and Devin: yep.
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Morgana and Devin: I think that's very exciting.
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Morgana and Devin: I think I think we'll say a prayer for you later yeah so just to have fun and have an enjoyable time.
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Guest Speaker: have fun, but I have other plans in mind, because I know we have a big mission, because we both are and now i'm coming forth and.
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Guest Speaker: Clearing up all my shadow stuff and I hope he does too, but being with me, I think, will shift in that way is I don't really want to force them to do anything I really want to have fun, for now, and like.
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Morgana and Devin: yeah I would.
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Morgana and Devin: Hope is it okay if is it Okay, if I make a couple of suggestions polly.
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Morgana and Devin: Sure um so I love that you've had a couple of years to get to know each other, so you already have sort of a relationship.
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Morgana and Devin: And when you meet in person that changes so it feels like you have a soul connection, but I would enter with complete openness non attachment and simple curiosity to what really what the divine wants to have happen, and I would continue to go slow.
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Morgana and Devin: And really just be open to the person and and you said something really, really important, I think you said not force and not push and I think that that's that's really, really important here, especially as women.
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Morgana and Devin: um it's so delightful to just allow the man to take charge and go at his own pace we fit and, by the way, i'm a total feminist so it's not.
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Morgana and Devin: Like if it doesn't work for you just throw it out, but.
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Morgana and Devin: very nice about.
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Morgana and Devin: us not having to do the heavy lifting a friend of mine said that if you want to know how a guy feels about you do nothing.
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Morgana and Devin: Like don't call them don't chase them just if you do nothing he will show you how he feels.
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Morgana and Devin: It can I add a little one thought.
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Guest Speaker: haha.
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Morgana and Devin: So, as you said, as you said a few moments ago, that you guys, have a lot of work to do together, and I think that's fun and exciting and you don't have to do it all in the same day so allow those things.
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Guest Speaker: To go and I know that it's something that I.
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Morgana and Devin: know I think that's great I think that's great.
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Guest Speaker: You love what you guys travel as I get married oh i'm really going to share this story with them, I really find it fascinating what you guys do.
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Guest Speaker: And I already feel married to him, he sort of he doesn't remember me saying Western she married you know I told him that, and he said he agreed and we never talked about it again, so I don't know married.
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Morgana and Devin: yeah.
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Guest Speaker: We don't even have to do this, we already know where we're spiritually connected and I said that out loud and he might have maybe went over his head, maybe i'm not even sure if you remember me saying.
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Morgana and Devin: Well, you know listen tomorrow or you just having a cup of coffee right.
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Guest Speaker: Now we're having lunch.
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Morgana and Devin: Okay, but.
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Guest Speaker: we're celebrating his seven years, and my sixth year.
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Guest Speaker: We didn't get what else.
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Morgana and Devin: I think that's lovely that's lovely have a great time.
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Morgana and Devin: Please, we will we are going to be live again next week we're planning we're going to do our first episode of the show from another country.
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Morgana and Devin: I would love it if you would call us back and tell us how the date goes.
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Morgana and Devin: courtship is lovely courtship is it's fun it's romantic it's sexy I think hat start with lunch and let him Lou you just just.
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Morgana and Devin: Pulling take care, Paul by and for anybody else who wants to call in we'd love to hear from you the phone number is 8886 to 760082 if you have if you're celebrating something.
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Morgana and Devin: If you are challenged in a relationship you're going to hear you know from me you're going to hear from Dev and one of us will probably say something useful usually Devon.
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Morgana and Devin: And let's get back to your list oh right, so we were so we were talking about.
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Morgana and Devin: Just this idea that you reach a certain age and all the sudden you have this more kind of free time and you still have passions and desire and and like you want to accomplish stuff so the list that we were working on.
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Morgana and Devin: was how do you start doing it because I think a lot of us are carrying around this baggage of you can't teach an old dog new tricks and i'm going to completely.
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Morgana and Devin: dq that So how do you dq it right just qualify or disqualify is that what the kids are calling it well that's what the kids who are in the 70s okay we're calling.
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Morgana and Devin: So number one is lose the mindset that you can't, which of course is easier said than done, but really you know, at some point you just have to a slight shift in perception leads to great change.
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Morgana and Devin: Number two and, by the way, you can apply this to having a relationship, well, I think this applies to all kinds of things within life and other words, especially listen, if you are in midlife love.
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Morgana and Devin: You could still apply that old dogs and new tricks to anything that may make you feel uncomfortable doing it right and starting things starting things are new.
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Morgana and Devin: at any point, time is going to be uncomfortable it's going to be awkward I mean you know we we took dancing we started dancing a few years ago, and you know I looked terrible I saw myself in the mirror, I saw myself on film I was horrendous i'm not saying i'm way better now you are.
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Morgana and Devin: I am fairly bit I am better and better I will go with them never taken a dance class in your life I didn't know really well I took a took.
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Morgana and Devin: But neither here nor there, there is a there is that phase and we'll talk more about that phase, a little bit, but for the time being.
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Morgana and Devin: If you are doing that thing immerse yourself in the thing like it say, if you want to and i'll use guitars just because I know that.
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Morgana and Devin: immerse yourself in the thing right and maybe that's learning that maybe it's also listening.
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Morgana and Devin: And maybe it's also reading and maybe it's all discussing it, but the idea is you start developing that thing inside of your brain inside of your heart of this thing that you're trying to accomplish.
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Morgana and Devin: Right so it's not merely like I want to be a great writer terrific that's a big thumbs up if you want to be a great writer, but in order to start becoming great writers, you have to read.
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Morgana and Devin: Great writing welcome to say, the first step is to join our clubhouse room every Sunday at 10am Pacific time oh right Okay, so we needed to go back to that, so we do have a clubhouse room if you don't know clubhouses an APP.
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Morgana and Devin: That you can get for either android or iPhone I don't know if there's other systems out there, but those two are the primary one download it for free download it for free, and you can look at it, as sort of.
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Morgana and Devin: A talk show it's like a million little talk shows it's all audio only it's all interaction.
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Morgana and Devin: it's like really easy to was it the 80s that used to have those chat rooms or party lines or something yeah I mean so there's a certain party line element to this, but I think it has less to do with dating and far more to do with.
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Morgana and Devin: To religion, I think that there are some dating rooms to oh yeah there's no question yeah yeah but you know all the all the dating stuff that i've kind of i've checked out tends to be.
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Morgana and Devin: that there are some very, very strong opinions about stuff I mean, and so what I would suggest is that, for me, you know again when we talk about sort of like the crazy sexy part of the crazy sexy midlife love.
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Morgana and Devin: thing they're they're amusing they're they're kind of interesting a very, very passionate I don't carry a lot of it very passionate um it's very negative a lot of things, but that said that's not our room that's not how real is podcasting for authors really sweet soothing.
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Morgana and Devin: you're gonna be great so it's a yeah so podcasting for authors and as part of club pod, which is a.
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Morgana and Devin: sort of it's just basically it's a group for podcasters and I think it's the largest podcasting club club inside the APP right and we just hit like 60,000 Members right so there's a lot of people in it.
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Morgana and Devin: And so, really, what we're talking about is how do you write better, how do you write a memoir, how do you write fiction, do you write a how to book and then, how do you utilize a podcast in order to help promote yourself and promote your message, because really give readers.
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Morgana and Devin: Those kinds of things so it's a lot of tips, so if you're a writer or podcasts are certainly show up and, by the way, it's a great place to kind of like fine podcast guests.
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Morgana and Devin: And things like that, particularly if you're be found or be fat right because we found we've actually found a bunch of people.
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Morgana and Devin: On clubhouse who have appeared right here on this show on this show favorites yep so all good stuff so that all said.
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Morgana and Devin: there's all kinds of groups that you can join there's things that you can do to kind of immerse yourself into a mindset of getting better at this thing right like So are we still in number one of 10.
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Morgana and Devin: Get the first five know we now move to number to listen don't rush, as long as we have 110 minutes of dead air so that will never happen, no because it won't.
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Morgana and Devin: But so we're on number two so number three is to reset the room.
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Morgana and Devin: What we're talking about is how to start new things I just heard you say try to life, because we have more time right the kids are out of the House because you're doing your own thing great for relationship doing new things is sexy it's alive.
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Morgana and Devin: And can I just say one of my favorite things about being my age is I don't have to be perfect anymore.
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Morgana and Devin: Like when I was studying ballet or I would study drama or I would you know try new things, when I was young, and I had to be perfect, I had to look perfect I care.
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Morgana and Devin: And now you know we take a dance class and we're doing it for us, which I think is is so mind blowing liberating different way of existing in the world is is that just the permission to suck.
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Morgana and Devin: Because we all start out not having a clue what we're doing, and you just keep doing it and keep doing it and keep doing it, whether it's writing or dancing or anything and then one day you're good.
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Morgana and Devin: But it's less a painful journey, when you weren't beating yourself up all the time, and I think we'd be I I observe that there is a tendency to.
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Morgana and Devin: Not have to beat ourselves up as much as we get older okay take it over Devon so so number three on the list is to do it consciously.
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Morgana and Devin: And unconsciously so it's sort of three A, and three be so the conscious part is is that you really sort of like focus on the thing that you're attempting to do.
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Morgana and Devin: And then the three be of it is allow that thing, of whatever it is that you're doing to wash over you and other words if you were to be.
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Morgana and Devin: Learning blues guitar maybe it's just an opportunity to listen to blues you don't have to focus all your energy on what bb King did, but you can kind of just like let it let great blues music wash over you so you get that blues vibe into your hearts.
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Morgana and Devin: So it's a great time to think and other, you know as an example i'm always i've been trying to learn Spanish for years and i've gotten i've gotten better at that, like, I can have my little conversations and.
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Morgana and Devin: and make sure that I get what I want, and all those kinds of things so it's good.
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Morgana and Devin: And then there's there's sort of like the action sort of the conscious part of it is is me conjugating and understanding verbs and verb tenses and.
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Morgana and Devin: And those kinds of things, and then the other side of it is i'm just going to watch a new avella and sort of immerse myself in the Spanish language and allow the sound the sound of the language to come into me so hopefully that you know over time.
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Morgana and Devin: My my accent, you know, like listen, I will always sound like some guy oh always sound like an American guy.
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Morgana and Devin: But the idea is that you start working on that accident by little to immerse yourself in the sound of the wind interesting you'll start building walls with your shirt off, just like the the man, and then the fella oh yeah sexy.
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Morgana and Devin: That will bring them together, they have to stay apart so it's really it's like it's Romeo and Juliet times three I can't even as Ray.
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Morgana and Devin: it's really kind of remarkable and then of course there's a fiendish person who's just looking to ruin everything and they're running everywhere so because it's times three there's all kinds of foolishness going on, so it's sort of brilliant so number four.
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Morgana and Devin: You know i'm learning just little bits and pieces Oh, I want to understand quantum physics and it's just going to start with kind of like understanding one idea one thought of one particular.
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Morgana and Devin: Of one particular individual right and just kind of just getting a taste of it and understanding of it and then allow that thing to not have to be figured out a day.
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Morgana and Devin: Right so break it up into really small bites and then be patient with yourself on the small bites but here's the thing you will you'll start getting it's kind of a basic.
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Morgana and Devin: But let's get specific on the practice part of it, because what most people do this is why they don't get better is they practice, the same thing that they've gotten pretty good at.
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Morgana and Devin: Over and over and over again, and so they may be practicing things that you really don't want to be practicing that anymore, so you want to spend most of your time doing the things you don't know how to do.
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Morgana and Devin: which for us and dances everything that's true for everything, for us, but what it means is we just want to keep adding to the process of working on the things and then you want to take a portion of that time of sort of like me, investing in sort of.
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Morgana and Devin: You know, working on things like technique on things that you already kind of know what you've got it in your brain you've got it under your fingers you've got a little bit you know you've got you've got.
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Morgana and Devin: But even though you know those phrases now it's like okay well how do I work with my accents, how do you start working developing the technique so so the person who may be speaking to in a foreign language understands what you're talking about.
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Morgana and Devin: And they can I just want to bring it back to mostly for myself is that really learn to enjoy it and have fun, even when you're not good at it.
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Morgana and Devin: yeah no, you have to have it, you have to have fun with it, but again, remember that first thing we talked about is lose the mindset that you can't because part of what my lovely wife so astutely talking about is that.
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Morgana and Devin: The mindset that we can't comes out in all kinds flights, it comes out in frustration comes out in fear it comes out and disappointment and it comes out all kinds of ways.
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Morgana and Devin: And we have to kind of trace it back to it Oh, this is that part of my brain saying that I can't do this thing right, so there is of course they're supposed to be a little bit of struggle.
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Morgana and Devin: Right okay so you're not that bad it was counseling and we danced at the US open, we did we did I was seriously, though.
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Morgana and Devin: I was absolutely the worst answer no you weren't no baby baby, these were little because these are the best dancers, in the world they've been dancing a lot longer all of you have moved you have style you have personality.
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Morgana and Devin: Private classes and they are teachers actually pushed up to us to the front for a reason oh right because you can name names or no, I did not, I didn't know that my not not not out loud anyway.
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Morgana and Devin: The phone number to call and interrupt and I want you to interrupt and ask us anything about love or life or money call 8886 to 76008 just to annoy my husband okay okay okay so 20% of your practice will be a review.
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Morgana and Devin: And so, that means that if you are going to do something on a Tuesday you don't wait to the following Tuesday to try to the thing the second time.
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Morgana and Devin: Right do something consistently over and over again, like getting married right we're practicing we are working on a relationship by getting married and, by the way, it's working out so that's a good thing okay so so do it consistently.
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Morgana and Devin: So, but you practice reading very quickly and see how much you can gain from that and but or save really, really slow, with as much.
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Morgana and Devin: Clarity and consciousness, to the accent and again, you can apply this and a whole variety of whatever it is that you're learning.
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Morgana and Devin: You can apply these concepts to anything you will do so, in other words if you're practicing a tennis serve, you may want to start that that.
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Morgana and Devin: That tennis serve like as fully stretched out as possible and as slowly as possible right using the best correct form of you train your muscle memory as you're doing as slowly as possible.
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Morgana and Devin: And then, of course, you know other things you can do it backwards and forwards, you can do it sort of like every other one.
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Morgana and Devin: they're just about how do you how do you start really getting the thing that you're trying to learn inside of him so it's like really like definitely interesting yeah try different teachers.
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Morgana and Devin: Different understanding different perspectives of how you learn stuff and so hopefully you just keep trying to do it different ways to keep it fresh fruit.
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Morgana and Devin: Right so you're still learning, maybe the same word or the same server or the same technique.
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Morgana and Devin: But you're learning it from different angles, so you really get your handle around that thing that we should take that West Coast Plaza Mexico, maybe sure this just another another person's perspective of of what they think we should do and how we should do it.
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Morgana and Devin: But I mean if it doesn't work that that's Okay, too, but but yes okay so number eight we're almost done, you should be happy, and then we can talk about things.
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Morgana and Devin: We have ordered, something that we always have more to talk about all of that, I guess, I guess, it will be talking about that so number eight.
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Morgana and Devin: record yourself.
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Morgana and Devin: and watch the gruesome playback.
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Morgana and Devin: So this does so, this does two things it does two things, it really is okay so it's really hard to necessarily gauge how your progress is doing from within yourself.
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Morgana and Devin: Right I don't have any perspective of how I learn incremental that doesn't happen.
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Morgana and Devin: You know, maybe if I deal with the teacher one on one all the time, the teacher is going to be able to see your progress.
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Morgana and Devin: You are probably not because you just you're just going to be paying attention to the mistakes that you made the things that you don't understand.
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Morgana and Devin: The things that you don't do particularly well the teacher certainly helps that because they're going to be able to see.
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Morgana and Devin: Your progress and say hey you're doing great, but why don't you work on this exercise more it's.
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Morgana and Devin: amazing what teachers see.
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Morgana and Devin: ya know teach on fantastic yeah right now, we have just from our dance teachers, they are mindful well because.
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Morgana and Devin: They just know they know the subject so much better than you do, in most cases they know that if you like, move your hand full from here, just like fingertips to like more the full length of the fingers, it will change like your entire body your entire connection to each other it's really.
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Morgana and Devin: Obvious to them and, and so you know mind blowing to us right, so this wasn't about having a teacher, although I think the teachers great.
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Morgana and Devin: A great way to do this, but for your own visualization watching you do something watching yourself do a thing you can really start seeing the difference in other words, if you take yourself from day one, you record yourself.
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Morgana and Devin: playing an instrument or practicing Spanish or or dancing or whatever that day one tape will really help you see where you're at in that moment, and of course you're gonna you know what we're about to well I am I am going to bring back the idea of the teacher.
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Morgana and Devin: This is, this is where coaching comes in handy like for me when I first started dating I hired a coach because I needed outside eyes that weren't like in the middle of it to tell me how the relationship was going.
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Morgana and Devin: Especially somebody who understood men, so I hired a guy coach so I could say Devon did this, what is it me and my coach would say it means he likes you and you can relax.
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Morgana and Devin: And I just needed like outside eyes to kind of be able to tell me how how I was doing.
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Morgana and Devin: And how the relationship was progressing, because I was in the middle and all of my feelings are coming up, so I do think that.
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Morgana and Devin: Having when you want to learn a new skill having a new teacher having a coach who can, who has the experience to give you the perspective that you don't have can really, really help I think learning how to have relationship I wish I realized that years earlier, but I really.
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Morgana and Devin: Working with coaches really helped my experience I started way way way too late with that because I think it just seemed like something you should already know so.
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Morgana and Devin: yeah you know tracking the progress and either observing yourself as an outsider through recording and also maybe having outside eyes, who can because you keep hiring guitar teachers to help you see how you're doing and we.
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Morgana and Devin: I have, I have, I have one good, I have one teacher who actually broke his arm.
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Morgana and Devin: which would drag that it yeah anyway amazing amazing amazing amazing musician but like, if you want to get better at relationships are making money or get health, I think, can also having a coach I know that is on your list.
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Morgana and Devin: Now it's not on my list i'm helping yeah well no i'm glad.
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Morgana and Devin: we're yeah having alzheimer's always a fantastic thing, but so the reason why you record yourself is because, then you get to see what's actually taking place at the moment.
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Morgana and Devin: And then you can compare the recordings from day one, because a lot of times if you're let's say you're at home and you're practicing whatever it is that you're practicing.
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Morgana and Devin: And you don't have a recording you're not recording yourself and you're not going to watch it back, but will probably end up happening is, you will be judging yourself from an emotional place and that emotional place will probably kind of manifest in either wow i'm the greatest.
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Morgana and Devin: or i'm the worst.
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Morgana and Devin: And if i'm the greatest I don't need to practice and if i'm the worst why bother.
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Morgana and Devin: Right so either way you slice it if you're dealing with that emotional component.
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Morgana and Devin: If you're a regular human being you're probably going to lead yourself into a place where you don't actually need to continue practicing and that's why a lot of people that's why there's a million guitars in somebody's backyard garage.
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Morgana and Devin: Because they just stopped playing right.
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Morgana and Devin: or they it's the living room, but they don't have the heart to move it into the garage because they haven't picked it up in six months and, by the way, if it's gorgeous and it's in great condition.
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Morgana and Devin: And you want to get rid of it for a great price, you should probably shoot enough to my head oh yeah no.
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Morgana and Devin: i'm all for that right, if you have a guitar and you're like ooh I need to get rid of this, let me give me the first the first chance to to make it up to take it off here.
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Morgana and Devin: And so, so yes record yourself wherever you can, and I think it's actually a brilliant idea and i've heard that a lot for dancing and for other things yeah Now we have another five minutes so number nine our last one to roll go ahead, no good.
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Morgana and Devin: interrupting okay from roll again all right, if you are doing Okay, no are you my wife all of her talking is distracting know that the hardest part.
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Morgana and Devin: is going to be when you're the beginning.
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Morgana and Devin: So when you're going to be awkward when it's going to be weird when it's going to be discouraging.
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Morgana and Devin: that's going to be the hardest time to learn so just know that the first periods from the starting point from day one forward.
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Morgana and Devin: it's just going to keep getting easier, but you have to get over that little bit of a home.
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Morgana and Devin: Where you're going to get the dividends right like if you're playing guitar you're going to have to learn a couple chords and you're going to have to play them poor with.
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Morgana and Devin: If you're learning language you're going to have to you're going to be saying all the words wrong if you're dancing you are not going to know you're right from your left foot, but it's all going to be good.
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Morgana and Devin: Right you just have to keep working at it just know, but if you know that, from the beginning and you follow these other things, so let me read quickly i'm just going to read through them.
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Morgana and Devin: lose the mindset that you can't to immerse yourself three do consciously and unconsciously for break it up into really small bits five practice spending most of your time doing the things you don't know or aren't good at reviewing 20% of the time.
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Morgana and Devin: Six make it a priority consistently keep doing it seven change up how you practice in some way do it forward and slowly or backwards and fast, or just do it really quickly from beginning to end.
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Morgana and Devin: read it, listen to it all that kind of different stuff eight record yourself and watch the gruesome playback and number nine know the hardest part of it is just being a beginner.
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Morgana and Devin: One of my favorite statements from our friend Alex is your first is your worst just now that the first is your worst.
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Morgana and Devin: And then he likes to say and you're not as good as you think you are right now it's was on this show you're better.
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Morgana and Devin: that's the other half the statement you're not as good as you think you are you're better and yeah he was on the show, if you look in our archives yeah yeah Alex man, really, really good good good guy good stuff so anyway go after that thing i'm.
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Morgana and Devin: A producer it's just writing the funniest stuff to notes does yeah um yeah.
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Morgana and Devin: So do we have anything else what's happening what's happening next week we're leaving town, we are leaving town, we are going back to San Miguel de Allende Mexico because.
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Morgana and Devin: I love it, yes, we just that's that's our like where do we go I don't know okay well go to San Miguel default place kind of a second home.
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Morgana and Devin: I shop almost daily through like the real estate listings I just i'm a total like real estate pornography at it that's what the real estate porn that's what it's being called now.
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Morgana and Devin: By the cool kids I guess and yeah and i'm leading my 11th ultimate money goddess retreat this year in September, this has been like.
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Morgana and Devin: My favorite thing that I do, and probably has produced more millionaires in this program than any of my other programs plus these lifelong sisterhood.
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Morgana and Devin: Of these women who, until now, have flown out to Bali i've always done it in Bali, but this year.
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Morgana and Devin: Bali is closed for safety because of cold they're not taking foreign travel so i've had this fantasy of doing it in San Miguel since maybe 2016 and yes Doug it's only for women, yes, so dex notified it sorry he means well, we will post beautiful photos though okay and.
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Morgana and Devin: So, ever since I went to San Miguel, which has a very similar like what I love about Bali is it's very spiritual and it's very.
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Morgana and Devin: artsy and it's also different but beautiful and San Miguel has that similar quality where San Miguel is described as the heart of Mexico and it's so much art best the beautiful vibrant one people, and it has a similar energy so i'm going to do my retreat there and in September.
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Morgana and Devin: But i've dialed in the Bali retreats so.
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Morgana and Devin: Like you know so well i've done it 10 times now, and I know exactly what we do with whom, and when and who my drivers are and like.
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Morgana and Devin: down to the last meal I just know it photographers and I just wanted to visit honestly I wanted an excuse to visit San Miguel as soon as possible and, just like find the things that I need.
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Morgana and Devin: To create a new retreat in a new place that has all the bells and whistles and it's also devon's birthday and since Devon loves to travel we're going to go somewhere we're going to go somewhere and then we'll go some more places to get married.
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Morgana and Devin: Lots.
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Morgana and Devin: I think we're looking at what chill a Costa Rica now Uruguay Argentina next year, China, South Korea, maybe Japan so life is good yeah, we need to start.
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Morgana and Devin: Bringing I think tour guides to the Shell, because one of the things that we really want to do is encourage everybody to get out there and travel and get married if you're with somebody and have fun and see the world because that's you know part of this crazy sexy mid life.
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Morgana and Devin: So.
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Morgana and Devin: Any last thoughts Devon no I think that's it I think we're good Okay, so we will see you from Mexico next week Wednesday June 9.
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Morgana and Devin: Are at 5pm Pacific time and then we have a really, really sexy guest it's like we've done a lot of crazy on the show and we're going to finally have a sexy show.
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Morgana and Devin: Two weeks from today, which I guess is the 16th of June.
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Morgana and Devin: So stay tuned for that, and if you have any questions about love crazy sex and midlife love and also money because that's kind of my wheelhouse then give us a call next week and we will tell you all about Mexico and we'll see you next week.
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