dr. House

hello hello hello everybody good afternoon to one and all wherever you are in the world at this time welcome to reclaiming authenticity finding one's courage to reclaim that which has always always been in you are excited to be with you here today and every Friday at 3 p.m. Eastern Standard Time noon Pacific Standard Time each and every week these broadcasts really focus on the integration of spirituality and our mental health all within the context of our relationships and he's a relationship that we have with ourselves relationships that we have with others and certainly our relationship with God or the Divine Eye Doctor James how can if you would like more information about me or if you want to leave me your comments about Today Show invite you to visit our website it's www.pbs radio.com reclaiming off

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and I want to say from the outset that if you've never heard me say before I just want to share with you that I am a firm believer that all of us come into this world already equipped and graced with everything we need in this life terms of our butts they are giftedness or our skills or talents and strength of character traits and the very best parts of ourselves and really who we are so however you know as we go along in life and may be due to some unpleasant experiences we may feel like we need to hide those gifts within us are hide are skills or talents are our strengths or we're going to push the very best parts of ourselves way down so that others could not see it because perhaps in the past has those things were exploited maybe those things were never quite understood or maybe

you were told all your life growing up that you would never amount to anything or you know you're just not turning out to be the person I want you to be or whatever other voice we heard telling us that there's nothing special to us but at any rate when we do not realize our giftedness and we we end up listening to those voices just tell us that there's nothing special to us we go through life functioning from a place of wounded nests and the emotional woundedness maybe even physical woundedness psychological and spiritual and certainly that is not too far removed from then living our lives that you know and victimization and always considering ourselves like we could never really own our lives let alone follow our dreams follow our hearts but certainly when we are able to find the very

best parts of ourselves and we can reclaim our authentic selves we can certainly be in relationships with others from a place of healing wholeness and certainly embracing our chant toss our uniqueness and we allow others the freedom and the permission to be able to do the same well you know certainly there is so much more to us than what we have become so far and and this is what reclaiming authenticity is all about finding the courage first of all to go in and reclaim that which has always been in you and I'll be talking more about this specifically as we take that directly look at anger today and what's going on with that so how is your heart today in spite of what's going on in the world can do just one thing after another I hope your heart is

I'm doing well and I hope that you are well and if you are struggling today I hope that you'll be able to find the rest and the comfort and the piece that you need

well one of the things I've ever experienced in not only teaching but also counseling others is that given you know these conditions that exist in the world today many people are struggling to find you know their sense of meaning purpose and direction in their life and as most initial thoughts and feelings and behaviorist there's often underlying issues that kick up a sense of hopelessness or a sense of fear and angst in people and this is something I've been quite interesting ly enough I've been seeing a lot of over the past two weeks and I just asked a lot of anger and people in lot of fear and just woke up what what can we do and you know maybe it's the higher gas prices maybe it's with the hired grocery price

or maybe it's the state of the world but there seems to be this growing anger rage and angst among people lately and the underlying issues besides they just a tremendous difficulty in finding healing from just the wounds that we pick up is this loss of inspiration and where there is seemingly a loss of inspiration there also comes a loss of creativity as well as a loss of courage

so I thought it would be essential that we take a closer look at inspiration as well as it's how it's tied together with anger with the hope that you'd ReDiscover your inspiration for this show and I think one of the first things we need to acknowledge is the fact that really inspiration didn't go anywhere it's it's always within you it just needs to be tapped into it just needs to be encouraged it just needs to be looked at you know in different ways and I know you've you have it you know it's us to creative aspect of it that that's the critical thinking skills as well as finding the courage and this is something that we come into the world with this this inspiration you know just like we come into the world with our gifts and Graces and skills and talents

and as I said inspiration is always waiting you know for us to tap into it and to manifest something you know life inspiring and Life Giving to others may be to be able to see potential when perhaps it's hidden from the sight of others to be optimistic when those around you are sounding the alarm and able to keep your head when those around you are losing theirs

well certainly when will you become aware of our internal longing to be more authentic in relationships and to reclaim you know that those aspects of ourselves to reclaim our authenticity I guarantee you this will compel us to begin this process of

further reclaiming who we are when we will find our voice we will find our uniqueness we'll find our this mess we will Embrace this we will not settle for anything less and tell me where will our relationships be vastly improved but this also models for others for them not to settle for anything less than themselves you know unless I said earlier to give them permission to reclaim who they are and to find their voice their uniqueness there exists in his book The Return of the prodigal son it's Henry now and who wrote two people discover that there is a tremendous strength and healthy relationships now there are people who kill one another's wins or our people who forgive one another offenses there are people who share their possessions and Foster this Spirit of community and

break the gifts that they have received and live in constant anticipation of the full manifestation of God

so whether it is covid fatigue or higher gas prices or higher grocery prices of the state of the world realize that there are far greater things that we can provide each other and that is authentic relationships that is celebrating what we have and to live in a spirit of gratitude of not just where we have come from but where we are right now and with that assurance and reassurance that The Best is Yet to Come As we discover more and more about the gifts that live within us

well back in the day you may recall a gentleman by the name of Steve Irwin maybe you recognize his his name from the show the crocodile hunter but that's who he was Steve Irwin was known for his ability to pretty much grab crocodiles and snakes and other animals by their tails in order to get a closer look at them or maybe even the capture them for the camera and it was just fascinating to watch him and his show which included his family his wife and then his daughter than the sun the show is widely popular and it's unfortunate that he died in 2006 after being pierced in the chest by a short tail Stingray

and they said what it was fun and entertaining watching him track down and catch various animals was also very dangerous you know he would just reach into some hole in the ground and pulled out something interesting you know something interesting but equally dangerous animal made it look so easy and I do have to take into consideration that okay I might have loved what he was doing but he was also a highly skilled and trained and I doubt any of us would have the courage to do what he did for so many years well I'm sure we've all heard of the expression I've got a tiger by the tail

and this colorful metaphor brings to mind the image of grabbing this powerful and fierce Animal by the tail to have it turn on you and then we got problems okay I mean tigers can weigh up to a thousand pounds maybe more I mean that's think about this that that's thousand pounds of power speed agility and the times so all in all not a good idea to go messing around with tigers having a tiger by the tail could also mean that we become involved with either some water or something that is powerful and could become Troublesome later on

well the contemplatively Monk and poet and peace activist thick not Hahn often referred to Humanity's anger as a fierce tiger now this this force that resides in everyone in fact he often caution people not to take lightly when managing you know that their anger because if you're not watching closely it's going to turn around it's going to start managing you in fact he even once said that one of the main causes of our suffering is the seed of anger inside of us and the key to Transforming Our anger is then to have an awareness in ourselves that we are more than our anchor and we are more than our suffering

and her anger can be very powerful like that of a tiger and it can cause great damage to ourselves and cause great damage to others

and furthermore our anger can certainly eat away at us if we if we're not dealing with it and eventually it can destroy us and it's no accident that the physical body is typically the first place where we noticed that our anger is now managing us and we have symptoms such as frequent headaches or hypertension or heart disease and stomach ulcers just to name a few and yet we all possess this strong emotion is something that we come into the world with it's like Joy but we have anger and this could be very very destructive

and since all of our emotions are energy anger is not something that can be destroyed

but rather you know our anger Ted be transformed and tomorrow life-giving ways of building healthier relationships and this is where we strive to find the balance in our lives

WhatsApp not how I'm also said that when we hate another person and we are angry with them it's because we do not understand their circumstances you know the circumstances they come from

gets by practicing deep looking we realized that if we grew up like them you know and they're set of circumstances and then their environment we would be just like them

that kind of understanding removes you do your anger and suddenly that person is no longer your enemy then he says you can love them but as long as they remain love is impossible

there was a time share this story with you there was a time when I remember working with a woman whose husband died and they have been married for a long long time I think it's like 35 maybe even 40 years of marriage and when he passed you know indeed she was truly grief-stricken and clearly struggling with severe depression and very angry at her husband for leaving her cuz she looked at it and as we continue to work together we have to wait the more of her story of loss and pain anger started to come out

and there was even one time when we met where she started to get a glimpse let me just the tiny tiny glimpse of a healthier life and where she stopped put her hand up to me and she just said wait I can't do this anymore I feel like you're taking away my grief I'm not ready to let go of it

and now I knew where statement like that was coming from and you know not that I could ever take away something that another person wasn't ready to let go of what's in that one statement she was saying I would rather live in my anger and grief and pain and sorrow then embrace the possibility that she could live a life of all the while being able to hold onto the wonderful memories of her husband and other words in her mind if she let go of her grief she had nothing else better to take on

and as we explore our painful memories we often catch a glimpse of what healing and wholeness might look for us and when this Insight occurs we may be tempted to resist the change we may be tempted to run away from transformation or even sabotage ourselves by falling back into the old ways in order to invoice to avoid and bracing what thorough healing requires of us you know things like it just acknowledging a wrongdoing or asking for and receiving forgiveness

or letting go of anger and bitterness and resentment and taking on responsibility or living in gratitude then then so forth whatever is needed to let go of where we are up to take on something better

even when you know we have an opportunity to forgive and reconcile with another person who has caused us great pain and suffering and maybe we're the ones who caused them great pain and suffering whenever we had that opportunity whenever that's presented because bitterness has so entangled our soul it's often impossible to let go of the pain and the anger we might even believe that to let go of bitterness well this is just simply a sign of weakness but just the opposite negative energy of anger and bitterness and resentment doesn't make us stronger

it only makes us weaker because it's steals healthy energy from us

and all and all sometimes both the victim Survivor and Defenders envisioned taking hold of something better it's just too vulnerable of a place for them to go it's beating people where they live live meeting people where they are is the first step understanding where they have come from understanding what has brought them to this moment and understanding ourselves what has brought us to this moment

there's no game out there may be played at this week or not but when folks sit around I get bored or something you have pits or later somebody's going to toss out the question well if you had to go back and do it all over again in your face would you go back and just start from the very beginning and I mean it's one of those questions were there is no right or wrong answer. It's just a matter of what I do this but I'd be willing to go through it all again and let me think about it you know this some people would say what I had a great childhood had a great adolescence sure I'll go back and do it all over again and you know for the stay the rest of us may be like I don't think so we barely got out the first time but I think about it if we would go back on what we know now

we would probably make completely different decisions and then who knows where our lives would have ended. Would we be drawn to the same people would we find our spouses would we have our same children I would we go into the same career field and so on and so on and so on but I think about every decision that you have made weather was it worked out or whether it didn't get out of the positive ones that negative ones the lessons that we learned the hard way and so forth all of that has brought us to this moment in our lives and we have this wisdom of having gone through some things and hopefully the lessons that we have learned

and although each person walks you know his or her own path in this life embracing forgiveness and healing and Grace and and love curse as each person is ready

nobody can do this for somebody else we might want to encourage somebody or you might say you know you really should forgive or you know don't you know that I love you and so forth but yeah when every person is ready they're able to hear the hear this variable to embrace it and so forth and we can do everything everybody as shown their door of healing more or less but you know were then given the key and we have to open the door and then we have to walk through that's our responsibility

and most of the time there is a strong connection between this perception of fear of change and proceed powerlessness and a lifetime of struggling with self-loathing and flow to or no self-esteem through various hurtful experiences people have internalized society's definition of them you know I'm just like well because society says it then I must be dirty I must be worthless I must have no voice I must be in my must be dispensable I must be I must be no good or backward or maybe I won't amount to anything or whatever

and although it's difficult to say when people started to internalize such messages something perhaps easier to pinpoint from whom these messages came

and maybe you've heard such things from parents or teachers or friends or perhaps these messages Raven reinforced by Society itself

well as I said before anger and hatred towards another causes tremendous tremendous damage to ourselves and others so here's a little exercise I just want to share with you I mean guarantee this is one of these life-changing exercises take a large piece of wood like the singer wooden post that's stuck in the ground okay then take a hammer and start driving One Nail after another into the wood but as you are hammering these nails into the wood however far you want to do that I think about your thoughts your words and behaviors towards somebody you hate or somebody you're angry with somebody that you have a hard time forgiving or somebody who's really betrayed you

Kay and continue driving One Nail after another until there are no more nails

and then step back and look at all the nails in the wood

then after a while turn the hammer around and with the claw and pull out each one of those Nails one by one

and then just lay them aside

and when you have remove the last nail exam of the damage that was done to the post as a result of all those Nails being driven into it by your anger

see the holes

look at the split pieces of wood splitters for the couches and the Damage that exterior brought on by the way you know you drove those nails

I didn't even look at the nails that remain stuck in the wood because they've been driven so deep too deep that they can't be pulled out

now just imagine the wounds in the scars that's we have inflicted on others by our destructive thoughts words and actions or even what wounds and scars have been inflicted on us by others

and that's just what we can see they would if we were to take this wouldn't real this with this wooden post and split it into then we would really see the damage our nail driven anchor has done on the inside

and the same is true you do with the humanity

and we have to really ask ourselves where do we hold our wounds on the inside so carefully so discreetly that nobody can see let alone find them

well I'm sure you've remember the old saying that sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me

well there is actually a movie called sticks and stones that came out in 1996 and this is something even today you can go back and watch it through Roku either on Amazon Prime or apple this movie Sticks and Stones is about a little league baseball star and his two buddies and I won't tell you the whole story I'll let you watch it but they but say they put their heads together and they decide to do something about the school bully when adults want

and all at all you know the message comes through and this movie it were true courage consists in doing what is right despite the jeers and the stairs and the ridicule and shaming you know of love others

I went to ranker is left unchecked whether it's in our thoughts are words or actions it can really damage another person as well as ourselves

so where does it end

how does it end

when we are filled with anger as a result of Injustice has and bullying our excetera in feel like we really have a tiger by the tail

and in a split-second we surge into our sympathetic nervous system and our adrenaline is pumping our pupils are dilated her muscles are tense and we're ready for a fight or flight

afterwards

when will you calm down we may be less with the remorse or regret and embarrassment as we realize how the nails of our anger and rage have external and internal rip through and broken ourselves and others

hurt people hurt people

wounded people wound people

dismissing the pain and horrific suffering experienced by victims by no means do not get me wrong, we should have Society work to stop the psychological and emotional and physical and spiritual violence you know the wounding the one thing that people commit against one another and I'm not encouraging you know any wounded person to become a doormat as a word that allows others to wipe their feet off when them in their arbitrarios or lies or deceit or continued physical sexual than the most emotional abuse even prove murder and violence and cruelty

but when is enough going to be enough

when does the healing begin

how then can we transform our anchor into something better

like compassion

well for centuries in centuries Humanity has often built walls after walls in order to you no have protection from people from getting in but how often do we build walls within ourselves to not only keep people out but also to keep ourselves sealed off from the world

and just as we may have constructed the external and internal walls Brick by Brick so too can our anger be transformed brick-by-brick one by one

and therein lies the key to Healing

forgiveness is the process transformation is a process Brick by Brick

I really love to hear your heart on these matters so again if you would like to call in the number is 888-627-6008 and I'll be taking your calls after the break again and you are listening to reclaiming authenticity and I'm your host talked to James house be back with you in one minute

alright welcome back everybody Welcome to reclaiming authenticity I'm your host dr. James just want to share with you just a quick word about next week's show it's entitled weathering the storms the courage of the Buffalo

my date of American friends share this image with me a long time ago when I was visiting them in South Dakota and out there you know Buffalo or just free to romp and while I was marveling at the impressive size and strength of the Buffalo out they corrected me by saying that the true strength of the Buffalo doesn't lie and its size or its physical strength or its swiftness but rather its true strength lies in its courage

you see we're as most animals will turn tail and run away from Fear storms the Buffalo will put its head down and walk directly into the storm

it doesn't give up it looks danger right in the eye and walks towards it

so I advise you to tune into a next week show right here on PBS radio.com station one Friday March 18th 3 p.m. Eastern Standard Time noon Pacific Standard time for weathering the storms the courage of the Buffalo

well earlier in the show I was talking about how we all possess within ourselves anchor a very very strong emotion and since all of our emotions are energy anger is not something that can be destroyed you know we just going to say well we're going to get rid of it once and for all it's like we can't do that but but rather because anger is energy it can be transformed into more Life Giving ways of building healthier relationships

and I want to share with you again the quote from the book not Han who also said that when we hate another person and we are angry at them it's because we do not understand their circumstances that they come from yet by practicing deep looking we realized that if we grew up you know that if we grew up in like them and they're set of circumstances and in their environment we would be just like them

what kind of understanding removes you know your anchor and suddenly that person is no longer considered your enemy and then you can love them but as long as they remain Anatomy love is impossible

way back in 1960 for the Student Nonviolent Coordinating Committee the snacc in Selma Alabama was met with violence and intimidation by the band Sheriff Jim Clark who waited at the entrance to the county courthouse and he was beating and arresting people who wanted to register to vote at the slightest provocation and at one point Clerk of rested around 300 African-American students who are holding a silent protest outside the courthouse and then forced March them with cattle prods to a Detention Center about 3 Mi away

and that's another point he was punched in the jaw knocked down by a demonstrator her name was Annie Lee Cooper whom he was trying to make you go home by poking her in the neck and the chest with a cattle prod after she stood for hours at the courthouse in an attempt to Simply register to vote

well sometimes later in a debate with William F Buckley at Cambridge University I believe it was like 19 65 66 James Baldwin at the time he was a writer playwright's poet and activist he made this remark he said now Sheriff Clark and Selma Alabama cannot be dismissed as a total monster oh I'm sure he loves his wife and he loves his children and maybe he even likes to get drunk and one has to assume that he is a man like me

but he doesn't know what drives him to use the club to Menace with the gun and to use the cattle prod

something awful must have happened to a human being to be able to put a cattle prod against a woman's breast

cuz what happens to the woman as ghastly what happens to the man who does it is in Subway's much much worse

their moral lives have been destroyed by the plague called color

now those who were in attendance for the debate listen to these words and we're reminded that the offender and oppressor suffer from a greater tragedy of inner pain then the one who suffers outwardly again hurt people hurt people wounded people win people

again I'm not dismissing the pain and suffering experienced by the people who are being victimized you know I'm certainly as a society we need to work together to stop any kind of wounding whether it be psychological emotional physical even spiritual than the other wounds that people didn't flicked on another person but what James Baldwin was concern was saying is for us to consider what must have happened in that person's life their own pain their own suffering their own sorrow that has seared they're painful traumatic experience into their emotions that then they are able to commit such violence against others not Blake and I walk away and maybe even sleep soundly that night

what is the depth of an other's scarred soul that would allow them to do this

cuz that's an even greater tragedy

and until their pain is healed they will more than likely continue to wound others consciously or even unconsciously

and the scoring is not limited to Those who commit physical violence there are plenty of other people who use their psychological or emotional or physical and spiritual wounds to perpetuate their need to control others were to intimidate others or it's a guilt trip others were to use economic abuse or coercion and threats or shifting blame or or whatever the context is

and this is where the term emotional and psychological self deflected wounds come from

think about it this way we think that if we say something harmful or we we do something harmful that it will never come back on us

but it does

every negative thought

everything negative we say every negative thing we do comes back to us often reinforcing the wounded parts of ourselves

we have any ways to understand this concept and we may never have thought of this way before but how many times have you said what goes around comes around or what you sow you will reap

and even karma is another way to understand you know that no matter how you say it Humanity lives in an echo

that what comes out from us

will return to us just like we hear the sound of our own voice echoing back in our ears when we're in a tunnel and we shout hello

everything we think and say and do is energy

and unless we transform that energy through healing our own wounds it will come back to us exactly how it went out from us

everything we think say and do his energy and unless we transformed the energy to Healing our wounds

everything will come back to us exactly how it went out from us

this is a phenomenon by running running to time and time again counseling clients who want to heal from their past and improve their relationships

that whatever a person is struggling with you know from other relationships more than likely is struggling with the same issue in themselves

you know what negative energy is being sent out going to Echo back sooner or later here's a good example of a person who is filled with bitterness from let's say our previous hurt or betrayal will more than likely view everything and steal everything from Allen's of bitterness

or a person who has experienced tremendous hurt from broken trust in a relationship unless this is healed and transformed will view everything and everyone with suspicion they will not be ready to trust

this is very difficult for people to understand about the phenomena of emotional and psychological self-inflicted wins what goes out

has first to have come from within

let me see how many of these you identify with sometimes you might hear a person say I never going to forgive that person

Well that took a plea means I'll never be able to forgive myself

or I can never trust another person because

which might mean I have difficulty trusting myself or I can't stand it when a person says or does this

usually means I really can't stand myself when I say or do this

and I just can't love that person because

typically means I also struggle with loving myself at times

how we are with others is often how we are with ourselves and vice-versa how we see others is often how we see ourselves

unresolved or unhealed wounds distort how we View and interact with the world

I got healing can occur on various levels not just the physical not just the emotional but also the psychological and even the spiritual

well there was

let's see a very beloved song let's put it that way that was written almost two and a half centuries ago back in 1772 and the words for this beloved song We're actually born from the heart and mind and experiences of the Englishman John Newton and knowing the story of John Newton's Life as a slave trader and the journey he went through before writing this him will help to understand the depth of his words and his gratefulness for God's truly amazing grace

and he definitely had a very colorful upbraiding he lived through a rather unfortunate trouble childhood his his mother passed away when he was just six years old and Newton spent many years fighting against Authority and going so far as to trying to Desert to the Royal Navy in his 2004 and later he was abandoned by his crew in West Africa and he was forced to be a servant to a slave trader but was eventually rescued and on our return voyage to England a violent storm hit that almost sank the ship and this prompted Newton to begin his spiritual conversion as he cried out to God to save them from the storm

now upon his return however Newton became a slave ship master of profession which he served for several several years now he was his job was to bring slaves from Africa to England over in the multiple trips and he admitted to sometimes treating the slaves abhorrently and 1754 you know after becoming violently ill on a sea Voyage Newton Just Surrender and he abandoned his life as a slave trader and he abandoned the slave trade and he actually gave up seafaring altogether and wholeheartedly devoted his life to God's service

later on he was ordained dozens of Angela can Priests and the 1764 and he became quite popular as a preacher and hymn writer and he penned some 280 hems and among them is the hymn Amazing Grace which first appeared in the oldie hymns printed by Newton and poet or a fellow writer William Cowper

and then years later it was Newton who fought alongside William Wilberforce leader of the Parliamentary campaign to abolish the African slave trade describe the horrors of the slave trade and attract he wrote supporting the campaign and he lived to see the British or the British passage of the slave trade of 1807

I just imagine these lyrics that he penned from those experiences I once was lost but now I'm found I once was blind now I see and what about others such as through many dangers and toils and snares I've already come to his grace has brought me safe thus far and Grace will lead me home

well he was close to death of various times and he was really blind to the reality of others and would not have written Amazing Grace if it wasn't for his tumultuous past you know and many of us would then be without you know these words are so aptly describe our relationship with the with God in our lives

I know if you know twice Grace Grace that taught my heart to fear and Grace my fear is relieved how precious did that Grace appear the hour I first believed

well I don't know what caused the horrendous storm off the coast of Ireland that in which you know Newton cried out to God but the cargo miraculously shifted to fill a hole in the ship's Hull and the vessel eventually drifted to safety and Newton writes that he took this as a sign from God and he mark this as the moment of his conversion to Christianity and he didn't change his ways all at once his is Total Transformation is Reformation was more gradual and later he wrote in his journal I cannot consider myself to have been a believer in the full sense of the word until a considerable time afterwards

well consider the words of Amazing Grace that these are words this is a hand the tune and so forth are very familiar even to people who may not consider themselves to be religious but we all know the tune it was something very special to hear and to see that the following the days and weeks after September 11th the tax that's when the crowds would gather and the military would be honored in the firefighters would be honored and at the various sporting events like Mike baseball that

Amazing Grace was often hurt and it's a it's a very comforting him it's a him that you know gives us the reassurance that it doesn't matter you know where we beginning life it matters where we end up it doesn't matter the struggles it matters where you're going

like the Buffalo puts his head down and walk straight into the storm but at times we have to do that too

all the times that we have to keep going a lot of times we have to rely on the grace of God

I'm regarding our anger this is something that we certainly need to work through and heal from

there is a lot of pain and suffering in the world going on today a lot of its resulting from anger greed or some other emotion

we can't destroy those emotions we can transform it through kindness and through through Grace and through understanding to learn from another person their life to see where they have come from to understand where they struggled in their life and so forth

I guess it's something that is very precious indeed when people share stories like so after a funeral you know at the luncheon or wherever and you don't be surprised that I see stories are shared that you hear a lot of laughter you see a lot of Tears you you don't hear a lot of crying and that's how people remember others true stories

do the things that they did or how they struggled and so forth and the ones who really modeled life changing behavior for us they to also struggled with their faith they to just question like what the world's going on here They too had difficulty making sense with very difficult times in the world in which they left but they never gave up hope and for those who have really worked through their anger we have tremendous transformational stories of how they were over be able to overcome and live their life from from a place of deep deep deep compassion and themselves for themselves and certainly for others

so if you have never thought about undertaking the task of dealing with your anger I invite you to think of your anger as that analogy I shared earlier about a wall and just what is that Wall constructed out of is it bricks

okay well then imagine how thick that wall is imagine how high that wall is

imagine the different times in your life and which you added more bricks to the wall

who were the ones that you were trying to keep out

what books were added in order to keep you safely protected

how much do those bricks were put in place so to speak from your anger

and just as we have constructed external and internal walls Brick by Brick So to that anger of ours can be transformed brick-by-brick one by one

this is certainly the key to our healing forgiveness is a process Brick by Brick

even listening to reclaiming authenticity I'm your host dr. James how I invite you to join me next week as we take a look at weathering the storms the courage of the Buffalo and the until that time everybody be safe behave yourselves and may God Hold Us in the palm of God's hands take care bye bye

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