and now with over 25 years of experience.<br>all right well good afternoon everybody wherever you are in the world at this time welcome to reclaiming authenticity reclaiming your courage to find that which has always been in you and yes it does take courage because many times we want to hang on to the past or we simply just can't imagine something better in our lives alone discovering who we really are because this involves of us let go of things you know what the weather will be those attitudes or perceptions that no longer serve us or keep us wounded and then taking on something better more Life Giving more authentic to who we truly are so the reclaiming that which has always been in you and very excited to be with you here today every Friday 3 p.m.<br>Eastern Standard Time noon Pacific time these broadcasts are dedicated to the integration of spirituality and our mental health and so I place all of these within the context of our relationships with ourselves others and God or the Divine the universe and why I place this integration specifically in relationships because we are social beings we are social creatures we are relational beings and when you think about it it doesn't make sense at first but we often receive our deepest physical emotional psychological even spiritual wounds in relationships and then here's the part that doesn't quite make sense but it's probably one of the greatest irony is that are out there<br>we can also discover our greatest healing and strength and peace and forgiveness and love through healthier relationships and certainly as I've been talking for a longest time now that the these relationships just might be within our very own families or our co-workers and our friends because whenever we begin to reclaim our authentic selves we begin to transform we also transform others by our presence and just how we are with them how do we talk to one another you know through Grayson understanding but first forgiveness and kindness and compassion begins with how we treat ourselves cuz it this is something that I run into time and time again and counseling others it's like they say that the other day I could be forgiving of somebody else and if they do me wrong I can forgive them but I just can't forgive myself<br>try and so that opens up a deeper discussion of what does that mean that to be able to be kind to ourselves and then we could be more kind to others work way to be more compassionate with ourselves then perhaps we can be more compassionate with others and when were able to live in gratitude with ourselves we didn't discover how this opens our hearts to be able to see and to live in gratitude with others because transformation begins with us<br>well hey I am dr. James hauke and they said very happy to be here today with you and if you like more information about me or perhaps you even want to leave me your comments about Today Show just invite you to visit the website www. DDS radio.com reclaiming authenticity that's all one word so www.bts radio.com reclaiming authenticity these broadcasts are podcast in case you want to go back and listen again or if you can go back into the archives and listen to previous shows and I just wanted to before we get into the show today I just wanted to thank you all for your support over the past year and would just like to say that you now have an opportunity to continue your support by becoming a monthly subscriber now subscription is not required to listen to<br>he shows but it is greatly appreciated so if you go on the website you know the reclaiming authenticity website you'll see a place there where you can click on for subscription information there's a link there and take you right to it and you get to read a little bit more about that and there's also a dollar amount that you can click on if you feel lead or if you'd like to put in your own dollar amount just any amount you feel comfortable giving is just greatly greatly appreciate it so again just just filled with gratitude from the bottom of my heart just too many ways in which people have been supporting me<br>well speaking of heart how is your heart today I hope it is well and I hope overall you are well and I hope that if you are even struggling today even the slightest bit that you'll be able to find some rest and comfort and peace that you need a part 2 from last week the show last week I looked at just the Alchemy of authenticity and do you know what does subheading is transforming dimensions of our spiritual but this week I want to focus on transforming dimensions of trauma<br>because still this is an area which many people feel trapped many people just find themselves being in the wrong place at the wrong time and they become overwhelmed you know just their inner resources or even the outer resources just become exhausted and overwhelmed and you know that's kind of the textbook definition of trauma along with other clinical expressions of just how that plays out in terms of our peace or are depressive symptoms or anxiety or has it affects our moods or sleeping eating intrusive thoughts whatever it might be a start a response something that's that pulls us back into a tree very traumatic experience that we had<br>well I also want to talk about the higher dimensions in terms of just the Alchemy of authenticity and just how do we go about using those Dimensions to transform trauma in our lives okay so that's kind of ease into it here shall we well in school whenever that was for you how far back you went to go in school we may have learned in chemistry class that the physical Alchemy was and is concerned with altering and transforming chemical properties within solid matter such as the classic example changing lead into gold<br>but spiritual Alchemy is concerned with freeing your vast spiritual self which is being hindered Within You by the unrefined parts of yourself and this could be a nice things from our fears or are limited personal beliefs or are self-loathing or whatever it is we are struggling with and spiritual Alchemy is vastly more multifaceted it's it's more fluid in it since I'm going and it's a continuation of the purification within our hearts much like in the same way if you've ever seen a Smith turn up the heat beneath the hopper which contains of raw mineral or a metal in order to break it down into use it for something and so as the heat is being increased impurities come to the top if they'd often called Ross comes to the surface only just to be skinned off and just<br>put away somewhere else which that process just makes the Metal Fury than what it was before actually it makes it stronger as well and then this process is repeated over and over again and again until the metal reaches its finest. E and greatest strength that it can we two are going through I believe a process of a spiritual Alchemy of authenticity you know that is a a call and an urging to moving to higher dimensions of our authentic selves<br>because I know how often does it feel like in today's world that the heat is being turned up through this a past and current events that are out there what's taking place throughout different parts of the world and therefore when going through this process of Spiritual Awakening you know sooner or later we are confronted with the fact that there seems to be so much more to ourselves than the reality we are living in and what we have grown accustomed to okay and we get those glimpses and it does require courage for us to to reach out and went to explore that and I instead of just saying well I don't have time to do this or what I don't know if I could follow through with this cuz I just you know be let into having to change my life and I'm not quite ready for that but still<br>how we are triggered by certain events in the world and yet at the same time we have a more intentional progression shall we say you know in our spirituality and finding the courage to to let go of like sign on life-giving perceptions and experiences in order to embrace more of our higher Dimension more of our authentic selves as well as a desire to live exclusively from that heart-space of pure light and unconditional love I was reading various things this past week and I came across a familiar passage in scripture the story about the the Apostle Paul describes a time when he was caught up to the third heaven and this is his writing is actually found in the stand the book of 2nd Corinthians in the Bible<br>and he described the whole story you know what he's talking about himself but he describes it into third person and he says I Know a Man in Christ who fourteen years ago was caught up to the third heaven now whether it was in the body or out of the body I do not know but God knows and I know that this man weather in the body or a part from the body I do not know but God does was caught up to paradise and heard inexpressible things things that no one is permitted to tell<br>and I was I was reminded of that that passage and thinking about these higher dimensions of our spiritual awareness I immediately thought about you know that's just like us human beings and we always want to quantify something you know such as describing it as a third heaven which we might just then assume well if the third heaven then it's probably better than a second heaven and then we we quantify things because well that's our language and that's how we then can measure something or we weigh it or are we compared its progress or regression and determine whether or not it places us with something better or worse than where we were before or what we had before<br>and there's something descriptions of sale 3rd 4th 5th Dimensions even higher Dimensions which are are not places per se but rather they are dimensional and more attuned perceptual awareness of the vastness of God and the universe and as we become more aware of this increase in our dimensional awareness or thought of vastness RV vibration changes to adapt and sustain and actually has to be able to change enough in order to sustain more and more vibrational awareness and this takes time to not only accept this but to allow it and integrate this vibrational awareness and you know if there were humans okay cool we think that well I can handle it all at once no problem<br>but truth be told is that we have to be able to grow into it as it were another story in the Bible Exodus 33 where Moses was up on the mountain and he had been commuting communicating with God for some time and Moses asked God if he could see God's face well God replied to him that no one can see God's face and live so what he did he accommodated Moses and he hit Moses behind or I should say a cleft in a rock and he allowed Moses to see just the tail end of the glory of God is God was passing by and even that was too much for Moses<br>so imagine what it would be like for us if we force while we cannot demand to see all of the glory of God you know it would just be something we could not handle but with every Dimension every vibrational are wearing as we become more and more attuned to it to be able to handle it we just can't handle it all at once but it takes time for that integration to set in<br> well each dimension of reality does have a different set of vibrations that govern what generally can and cannot be done by any individual so we're one who has the same waking consciousness that's in a particular dimension of a better description of a less attuned vibrational Dimension is said to be more diverse and and you know where we we find ourselves in that Dimension and I will have stronger feelings of or beliefs in this separation or a disconnection from other things in our lives may be a disconnection from I say structures or shapes or forms such as objects or even one another we just feel so disconnected but in other words<br> I believe that is human beings were separate from other living beings like animals and vegetation and even minerals and we just don't get the fact yet that we are interconnected to them and we are interdependent on these things or even think about it this way the Native American flute that you here at the beginning and middle and end of my show actually comes from different flutes that I play during my own meditation I can work these fluids into you know instead of just playing the flute I actually pray the flute and all native american flutes have their own key and ranges and some are attuned to a 440 Hertz<br> which in and of themselves have a beautiful sound<br> but there's one flute I play more often that has been a tune to 432 Hertz which 432 Hertz is mathematically consistent with the universe or in other words it's an Earth Tone It has more of connection to the dude that the tones that are going on in the Earth<br> add music and music that is tuned to 432 Hertz is is softer and brighter than 440 hurt and it's also said to provide greater clarity<br> and is easier on the ears<br> and ironically there have been scientific studies that demonstrate whenever we listen to music that has been tuned to 432 Hertz it has other health benefits such as it lowers blood pressure it relieves stress and allows people to experience deeper more peaceful sleep even if they haven't listened to 440 Hertz to compare or just I'll have to play a flute for you here that you know you'll be able to hear just a subtle difference between listening to music or tuned to 440 Hertz and then listening to music at tune to 432 Hertz and certainly 432 Hertz is healthier for us to listen to but we ourselves have to become attuned to listen to this vibrational level<br> and the same is true when we apply this understanding to our spiritual awareness dimensional World science has pointed this out to us you know long long long long time okay we can measure things in you know the width or the height or the depth we get that three dimensional or let's say in and we think of three-dimensional as living at a 440 Hertz vibration doesn't work and a three-dimensional world is governed by time and space and structures in form again we can measure those things and we also live in chronological order of a linear time that consist of past present future and we experienced all of these things through our five senses of sight soundtouch smell taste<br> and yet at the same time at this vibration we often find ourselves you know just how easy it is for us to be pulled in the direction of opposites such as do we consider ourselves to be loved or not loved<br> do we think that we have value and worth because of what we have done or what we have not done or what we have or do not have or how we connect or how we disconnect or are we all good or all we all bad that's just a very basic you know just just pulled into a polarity of it's either this or it's that and you can get almost hear the disconnect of of you know whenever we use words like that and just this is how we might perceive our world at these lower vibrational awareness is and we perceive things and people also this way you know I was being good or bad or right or wrong or 52 all of this and all that not all of that but it's all in this duality<br> and these polarities are actually a state of being or a limited perception okay and then perhaps we often want to connect with God on this lower level of awareness and you know what that's actually fine because one thing that we're reminded of over and over again is that God is more than happy to meet us where we are is looking for at this lower level vibration you know you know that's not going to say well I'm going to wait till you get your act together and you kind of raise your vibration dad not to reach out to you and it doesn't work that way you know God is certainly able to reach us wherever we are<br> however<br> this is not God's ultimate desire for us to remain at these lower vibrational levels of awareness<br> because there's so much more for us to realize about God and the universe and even ourselves you know because to put it another way we ain't seen nothing yet you know there's so much more that we just haven't even clued into<br> but the first step in raising our awareness that is becoming attuned to let's say the vibration of 432 Hertz is the understanding that we're not the body<br> yeah but rather we are souls within the body<br> may God knew us before we are born and knows everything about us and yet we have yet to realize that you have these things in ourselves and and to see ourselves as Souls living in this world and this is certainly more in line with who we truly are and and you know what kind of shift does that take us through in in coming to the realization that yes I do know the body is the bottle but I am a soul that's where my identity lies<br> and this might be especially difficult to grasp at first because no matter how high are spiritual awareness or spiritual Attunement becomes we still have to contend with this physical form<br> the form that gets hungry for Matt has to contend with illnesses and diseases physical form that feels pain and a physical form that certainly needs to bathe and in fact there there's still work to be done any food has to be grown or food has to be harvested then distributed prepared and then enjoy medicines are needed to be developed continuously and people need to be educated and trained and Bellamy knowing how the body works but also how then do we treat the body when it doesn't work<br> I mean we certainly need to take care of of the body as that vessel that houses are so<br> but still what makes the difference between identifying as merely I have physical form rather than a soul is that we no longer choose to live in fear of everyday life let alone the dying process because we are Eternal I mean those fears lie in the physical form but when we realize we're Souls we are Eternal first and foremost fear doesn't stand a chance and I will still experience pain but we don't have to live in that fear and the fear death that's that's taken away too because of where Eternal it's it's more of a transition for us and we can walk each day and interact with others knowing that there's more to this life than what our senses can identify because in reality what we see here touch taste and smell is very beautiful very good<br> but these things are also temporary they're always changing but everything else that we do not see and hear and touch and taste and smell those things are eternal<br> and it's true our bodies also go through a change as our heightened spiritual awareness increases<br> and we need to honor that because we will go through shifts in our own awareness that you know what may cause us to become more tired of times or more sensitive towards light and sound temperature we may go through states of hunger or we may go through states of diets don't have an appetite or we might even think we're going crazy like how do we make sense of all this<br> but all of these experiences in the body just means that we're shifting into higher Consciousness and and the body has to adjust in order to handle you know just a greater vibration so I can think of it in terms of the flute Union something tuned to 440 Hertz is good but to reach a higher vibrational awareness or a higher Consciousness 432 Hertz requires that adjustment to be able to pick it up I'll be it ever so subtle<br> right now for me it at times you do it feels as though at times you know everything is just speeding up and I often become more sensitive to noise it's just more intense for me or things might just be brighter you know but we can also feel lighter you know what you really has nothing to do with the bathroom scale so we don't have to keep weighing ourselves like she had thought I feel lighter so how come I'm not losing weight has nothing to do with that okay but we just feel lighter in and of ourselves<br> and as we begin this process of a has a higher Dimension relationship with God we will be reminded of all the negative psychological emotional and spiritual patterns within our relationships that keep us stuck in the past those things also you know can really ramped up with intensity which is a reminder of we still have a lot of work to do<br> and in a sense it's a daily surrender or saying yes to being led by our Soul's desires that connect us with God one another and the universe<br> we we are encouraged to let go or those of the former in order to take on something more Life Giving<br> and we can let go no more easily because we're no longer controlled by that fear but compelled to take on something better because of everlasting life and Grace<br> and we no longer wish to Simply find peace or find Grace and find love but rather when those shifts are occurring we find ourselves becoming peace becoming Grace becoming love<br> and talk about the vibe we give off you know that that Attunement that awareness and do you know this sense of beans generates a very positive energy field around us or a vibrant are as some would call it the people can tell that's even before we speak just being around us you know they just know something's different and I'm sure you've been around others where you just can't quite put your finger on it something's different about them they they have they they feel a little lighter they just did something is different I just seem to be a little brighter I'm so forth Okay and like I said others can tell this something's going on and that's even before we open our mouths and we no longer have to worry about now what am I going to say in any given situation<br> we can just relax and simply be<br> and we find ourselves being fully present not just with ourselves and others, but we can also begin to experience God in the most unlikely places and threw the most unlikely people which in all actuality is where God has been found all along well after the break I'll tell you what we're going to be taking a look at how we can transform our traumatic experiences in order to experience more attuned perceptual perceptual sorry awareness of the vastness of God and the universe so I would really love to hear what's on your heart today about this subject so again if you would like to call in that number is 888-627-6008 that's 888-627-6008 and I'll be taking your calls after the break again you are listening to reclaiming authenticity and I'm your host dr. J<br> I'll be back with you in 1 minute<br> okay welcome back I am dr. James how can you are listening to reclaiming authenticity and as I mentioned at the beginning of the show I I just wanted to thank you for your support over the past year thank you for tuning in listening calling in and so forth and I would just like to say that you now have the opportunity to continue your support by becoming a monthly subscriber now it just just a reminder here that you do not need a monthly subscription to listen to my talk shows but it is greatly appreciated so that invite you to go on the website and you'll see subscription link and you can choose any amount that you feel comfortable with no pressure but I just truly truly grateful and just different ways or providing different ways that people can support this show Also earlier in the show I was talking about the first steps that we<br> need to take in raising our awareness<br> and that is our understanding that we are not the body but rather we are souls within the body and yet how many things in our lives are meant to take care of the body. All we have to do is just open the medicine cabinet organizer and we see pain you know medicine we see deodorant BC powder we see shaving cream or whatever you know toothpaste you know all those things are necessary you know for good hygiene and you know certainly we have to take care of our body look like but we are so much more than the body<br> a night because again in scripture you know God says look before you were born I knew you<br> and knows everything there is to know about us but yet still loves us unconditionally and loves us eternally<br> but we have yet to realize these things in ourselves can we love ourselves with no that unconditional love and which God has shown to us we know everything there is to know about ourselves and still accept ourselves and love ourselves or to see ourselves as Souls living in this world<br> like I said this may be especially difficult to grasp at first because no matter how high or spiritual awareness were two meant becomes you were still going to have to contend with this body you know anybody that gets hungry and you know it is susceptible to illnesses or diseases a body that can feel pain a body that needs to bathe body that just needs to be taken care of because the body is going to be growing older and whether or not we like to face it there's going to be certain aspects of the body is going to start to fall apart and one day the heart will stop beating and then those brain waves will cease<br> so in the meantime as we're raising our bar spiritual awareness were spiritual atonement we do need to take care of our bodies and you know in a sense there's still a lot of work to be done we just can't afford are handsome in our arms and just say well whatever we'll just wait for the inevitable that that's not that's not how it works because there is still a lot of work to be done and there's there's a food that needs to be grown and then it needs to be prepared and then Sheridan and all that and the other example I still need to be developed and people need to be educated and that the people need to be trained in how our bodies working as well as how to treat the body when it doesn't work and so on and so forth you know we have to take care of the body as that vessel that houses are so<br> but we are much more than the vessel<br> and instill what makes the difference between simply identifying as you as a sole versus a physical form is that when we are going to fight as a solo and we would like we finally get that and we understand that we embrace it we no longer choose to live in fear of everyday life and we no longer choose to fear the the dying process because we know that since we are souls we are eternal<br> and so we can walk each day and be around others and interact others and knowing that there is just so much more to this life than what our senses can identify because again and these are powerful senses we have sight sound touch taste smell all very good all very necessary but these are all temporary<br> yeah because everything else that we are not able to see or hear touch and taste and smell those things are eternal<br> so what about people who have suffered tremendous traumatic pain and psychological and emotional even spiritual anguish in their life<br> does all this talk about living in higher Dimensions with God and ourselves and others simply nothing but a pie-in-the-sky or a Pollyanna shui of hoping and a better tomorrow<br> I don't think so in fact it exceeds all of our perceived expectations of who we truly are and let alone influences the kind of life we desire<br> now to let's bring it into my world here let's bring it into a clinical mental health context okay there is a theory therapy out there and it's called self psychology and it was developed by Heinz kohut who understood our inability to overcome many issues in our lives as stemming all from an underdeveloped sense of who we are and otherwise we just don't know who we are<br> okay and not only are we not simply aware of who we are but we're also not aware of what in her gifts and beauty and strengths and skills and talents and all that that we possess everything that we brought into this world with everything that we need we've come into the world with and those external objects in our lives have been substituted for what we really desire in relationships okay so when we were younger if we're used to lugging around say a teddy bear okay cuz we like it cuz it's soft and cute and everything as we get older as we come into more and awareness of who am I let the teddy bear go and we replace that with more human relationships where we can find that love and acceptance that piece that intimacy that nurturing that courage and then<br> and so forth well in previous broadcast I have shared how trauma has the potential to disconnect us from who we are as a salt I'd it's almost as if you know trauma places distorted template over our perceptions me trauma says do us well sorry about that but this is all there is now this is all there is to you this is as good as it's going to get<br> and will be really take an honest look at those kinds of statements are all lies and distortions that come from other shall we say wounded people or people who have yet to discover the fullness of who they are<br> k<br> and you know once we Embrace ourselves as so we may be astonished to see the power of our so to not only to be able to transcend trauma and transform our wounded energy but also Empower others to do the same<br> and still as history has taught us and still teaching us many have feared that resiliency and power of the soul and therefore have tried to silence the Crickets Cry it out through killings and murders were genocide or starvation or forced assimilation of humiliations decorations looking at people as Savages or primitive or backward or labeling people as unworthy or unlovable and therefore disposable as those in control cfit<br> and I had a conversation with the person earlier this week about this very thing you know it's it seems like this is something that Society has never gotten right you know on one hand I say well we can silence people who don't agree with us while we can silence people who are kind of in the way and we both know we're on the same page about that's what we both kind of had a good laugh and then just said luck you can't silence the soul<br> it it because it's an energy you know it's just a simple physics lesson that you cannot destroy energy but you can change it you can alter it but you can't destroy it and so you know when society says well we'll just snuff out this person or these groups of people that's not going to do it<br> because you know again from where I sit the dead do talk and many many different ways and the Soul has a depth of Empower to its voice that will never ever be made to be quiet<br> it is that powerful but you know again the people who don't learn from history are doomed to repeat it and so that's that just seems to be the old Playbook that you know that we don't like these people or we don't appreciate you or something and so we'll just go get rid of you and you'll be forgotten about like no that won't do it if anything if anything and again this comes straight out of History if anything this teaches us that that kind of perception of well will take care of you and so I won't have to listen to you or whatever that is always backfired in fact it has often spurred on some of the the greatest you know just rising up or or the revolutions that have taken place just because an oppressed people of just said enough<br> do more<br> and so it it always backfires and the message or the words or the souls gets stronger and then the course people who want to try to silence that they they try to ramp up their tactics as well but you just simply cannot kill the soul it is energy<br> well what is often getting back to trauma what is often heartbreaking to me is that all of these atrocities that I mentioned that murders the killings genocide starvation's and so forth have often been committed in the name of God and they've been committed in the name of God by people who should see themselves as so<br> in fact even when killing is done in the name of God the only thing that is truly Advanced is this distorted view from those who will do anything to hang onto their power<br> well there is a very powerful ritual out there that I just I love it I love it I love it and it actually comes from a tradition among indigenous tribes which involves a powerful blessing from say the grandmother's when a baby is born now before the newborn is returned to its mother though the grandmother's would you know it's grandmother's of the village would clean up the baby and you know take turns holding the child and they would look deep into his or her eyes and with a loving tone<br> these grandmothers would speak words of affirmation one after another and tell the child how much she is loved by this committee how much he or she is loved by God and how they are gifted with many good and very precious gifts as a beautiful soul<br> and this grandmother's tradition shall we call it begins this internalization process of love and security and Trust in the infant that really reinforces the idea that indeed it takes a village to raise a child<br> now I'm listening to a story like this I am I don't sit there and think that for one minute that you missed out on you know that you wish somebody had done this for you you know that if that would have happened in my life would have turned out completely different well ironically even if that didn't happen when we were infants we can still provide us a formation for ourselves and others it all depends on how we see ourselves and others as that makes this integration this conversion possible<br> and this is the beauty that I find over and over again to counseling therapy that is is not just about alleviating mental health symptoms and you no trouble clients but it also involves helping people discover who they are and the gifts and the character strengths that they have<br> in other words helping people remove their emotional and behavioral even spiritual obstructions so that they may Embrace their authentic self<br> and in my book reclaiming authenticity I state that everyone has been given what they need when they come into this world as young as I said their power their energy their gifts their talents the resiliency of personality and so forth<br> and yet it's often through various experiences that we are often misled to believe that in order to survive or in order to thrive we have to first deny who we are and give away our power and settle for living by another's inauthentic definition and rules<br> and that is just that is wrong and as a result we end up searching for our true selves in all the wrong places instead of looking within and looking at our store<br> an understanding Who We Are<br> I mean interesting way when people finally fully embraced the fact that they are so and are indeed precious in the eyes of God<br> the compassionate nurturing side of humanity and merges in a very powerful way<br> and issues of say Prejudice or sexism or ego centrism or racism or any kind of ism that you might want to come up with all go out the window<br> because these simply cannot dwell in the higher Consciousness and awareness of the Soul<br> because these isms are all based on external<br> even helping Generations heal from traumatic issues in which they had learned or reinforce the message of don't trust these people or internalized the skewed perception which affected their attachments growing up or how they made friends or their bonding and so forth cognitive development or even social interactions<br> healing from traumatic issues has this multi-dimensional and multi-generational effect<br> because when generations of a family are able to come together and address these issues and let's say a child a parent or grandparent maybe a great-grandparent they quickly realize that healing such wounds is not a matter of placing blame but instead understanding the impact of what exactly has been handed down through the generations and this is something that I I love to do I love to get the grandparents and the grandchild to talk to each other because when the grandmother or the grandfather sees the struggle that the grandchild is going through and sometimes how the grandchild will blame himself or herself or what's going on in the family or blame themselves because they just went out there made to be the scapegoat in the family<br> grandparents<br> they discovered this faster than anybody else and they see the pattern over and over again and they first of all correct they remind the grandchild this did not begin with you this is not your fault this is not your fight and not only does the child start in his or her healing process the grandparent does as well as well as the parents who often find themselves I'm just sitting in the middle of have these two people address wondering what in the world just happened well healing took place intergenerational he likes the place<br> and certainly going back through the generations then you know family members just might become aware of how many others have had let's say addiction issues but they struggled with things that they just simply weren't strong enough to beat in the end that how that gets handed down you know through one generation after another after another<br> suicide is is also another family Dynamic that has been shown to come down through the generations and families are certainly wise to investigate just how emotional psychological sociological factors set that stage for such perceptions and behaviors done fold<br> when is suicide attempts have not occurred in let's say the present generation there might be feelings of hopelessness and despair that may have infiltrated the family's perception of let's say they're they feel powerless so for the most part healing is a matter of unlearning these generational lessons that have affected what family members believe about themselves as well as perceptions that have affected their behavior toward one another even if you know that's a one's parents or grandparents or great-grandparents are deceased or you've never met them healing can still be achieved by understanding the Dynamics of trauma that has been handed down in the family as well as appreciate the resiliency another character strengths that family members possess because emotional and psychological wounds are not the only thing that that we may have inherited<br> are character strengths gifts and skills they are also handed down as well<br> we are we just have to see who else in the family might have things that are similar to us<br> this could be a very very slow process you know that but again as we raise our vibrational awareness it is going to require us to let go of many things that we have perhaps been clutching to all this time but there are certainly tools that we can do that and if you are listening to the show last week I had mentioned you know the author Ira byock who you know he wrote a book you know that the four things that matter the most or saying the four things that matter the most and I would like to see if I could I've got his permission but that won't happen to retitle the book Finding our true selves through restoring and being in right relationships and four things are very simple I mean we don't have to waste any time and like what's keeping us back from sharing these things with others and so he<br> says the four things that we should be saying everyday is forgive me for whatever<br> I forgive you for whatever<br> thank you for whatever and I love you<br> because<br> forgive me I forgive you thank you and I love you<br> if you really want to change you know the mind and start manifesting negativity in your life as well as moving into higher spiritual Dimensions with our relationship with God and ourselves and others<br> then also begin by focusing on forgiveness gratitude and love and bring them into your hearts and living in higher dimensions of our awareness means live from our hearts and all experiences then our Embrace with gratitude as the soul knows that everything has its own purpose for our growth and expansion of our consciousness<br> I'll talk to James how can I am so glad you took time to the spend this hour with me I really really appreciate it leave me your thoughts and on the website there's a place to do so and again until we talk to each other again may you always be a piece and then till that time may you be safe and may God Hold Us in the palm of God's hands daycare<br> comments it's all there just to calm and we'll see you next on PBS radio TV<br>