[00:04] Speaker 1: (instrumental music plays)

[02:00] Speaker 2: Greetings, everyone, and I hope everyone is feeling beautiful today. Here in Philadelphia, the sun is shining. Everything is vibrant and green and beautiful. And I'm here today with Aloha. Aloha, you wanna say something?

[02:24] Speaker 3: (laughs) Yes, of course I do. Aloha, Beverly.

[02:28] Speaker 2: Aloha.

[02:29] Speaker 3: Aloha, everyone, everyone who is, is here listening. I thank you so very much. We both thank you so very much. And, um, Beverly, it's always wonderful to be here with you. I love everything that we do together, and I wanna just thank you for everything you always do. And, uh, I am here on the West Coast looking at the sand and the Pacific Oceans and the sailboats, and it's a beautiful, bright day here in Southern California.

[03:07] Speaker 2: Oh. Okay. Well, I, I just wanna say that when you left Philadelphia on Thursday... Right? It was Thursday morning, wasn't it?

[03:25] Speaker 3: It was just yesterday. Just yesterday. (laughs)

[03:28] Speaker 2: It was just yesterday.

[03:31] Speaker 3: (laughs)

[03:31] Speaker 2: Okay. That was Friday then, right?

[03:35] Speaker 3: Yes. (laughs)

[03:36] Speaker 2: Friday morning, 'cause it was four o'clock in the morning.

[03:39] Speaker 3: (laughs)

[03:39] Speaker 2: And well, we left a little earlier than that, like maybe 3:45, going to the train station-

[03:47] Speaker 3: Yeah.

[03:47] Speaker 2: ... to get Aloha to the airport. And it was so beautiful, because that time of day when we were out, i- it was so peaceful. It was quiet. It was serene. It just, it just had a certain energy to it. And once we were on the podium and you finally got on the train, as I was walking back to my car, I was observing, 'cause there was, there was nobody around, and I was observing the actual train station. And w- what I was seeing was the precision of how it was made and constructed. And from the podium where we were standing, the seats, the everything, the, the, the, the cement work, the, um, as I was going down the steps, how they made the... It was bricks, but it looked... It didn't... It looked so beautiful. It was so, like, well done. It was so structurally, like, amazing.

[05:28] Speaker 2: So, what I was present to was the souls who did this, the artisans who actually built this structure that we can go back and forth across the country, across the city, and on, and, and, uh, on this beautiful, um, this whole structure that has been made. And it's... How can I say it? It's all math.All of this is, is, is math. How they, how they built the floor, how they did the bricks, how they know how to do the tracks, how they ... And I'm just in so much gratefulness of the different souls that have been placed all around the world to make everything come together. Now, I never paid attention to these things before, Aloha, never. This never meant anything to me. I run up the steps, I get on a train, I get off, and I don't give a hoot about anything about the train station. Just the fact that I can hop on there and get where I wanna go, that's all I am concerned about. But not now.

[06:54] Speaker 2: I'm seeing so many things, and I'm so appreciative of knowing how this classic work of art of the universe, and we're just a piece of it where we are. And it's a work of art, because the minds are all different that bring their contribution to make this work. And I've been looking at so many different things now that are just coming to me that I never ever paid attention to before. The other day, I was on the expressway. It's the same thing. I'm looking in amazement of how this thing is working. Everything is working because you had these brilliant minds who have put together this expressway or highway or whatever, the lights, everything. And it's all math. It's like I'm looking at when I wasn't present to what I'm doing on the highway. There was a solid line. I'm, I'm, I'm coming from somewhere. I go this route constantly. And on my lane, it's a solid line. On the other side, there's a broken line.

[08:39] Speaker 2: So that means I'm not supposed to cross yet, and so I give the signal that they give me that now you can change lanes, and I should get off at my exit. But not being present, I'm, I'm like conscious, self-conscious about, oh, I might not be able to get over in time. I, I, maybe there'll be cars coming, and I won't be able to get off at my exit. So what was I doing at one time? I was not following the rule, and I would get over when I, when my line was solid, and I wasn't supposed to change the lane. But I'm changing the lane, because I'm not present, and I don't want to get stuck all the way down there, and I can't get off. But I changed it. And I said, "These people know what they, why they don't want me to get over right now." And I waited, and I remember the first time I did it. I drove until it said, the broken line said, "Now you can get over." And since it's kind of close to my exit, I was always in my head about, oh, am I gonna be able to get over? Because, because, because ...

[10:01] Speaker 2: Maybe cars will be coming in that lane, and I won't be able to get off. And I stopped that. And every time, since I followed how they set it up, I've always been able to get over, and I've always been able to get off at my exit. And I don't have to be pre-thinking about something that doesn't even exist all in the future of how I'm not gonna be able to get over. How's ... This is I'm not gonna get off at my exit. So I'm looking at the expressway, I'm looking at the lines, how they have it when you, they have a shoulder. All of this is amazing to me now, and I never paid attention to it before, how much precision have been put into these brilliant souls who orchestrated this whole thing to make it where we can travel. And if we follow the law, if we follow the rules, everything should go smoothly. And I'm so grateful for that. And I never paid attention to these things before, what makes things happen, the souls that make all of this happen, you see?

[11:28] Speaker 2: And I feel so grateful that I have an awareness now that takes me further than what's going on just with myself. So, wow, I'm just in a place that I'm seeing, uh, so many things. Uh, it's just so many things, and I'm sharing. Uh, I was talking to a young lady earlier today. Did you wanna interject anything, Aloha

[12:14] Speaker 3: Well, I was just listening to you, and it's, you were saying that normally, you're just most concerned about where you have to go, which is, you're concerned about the future. And-

[12:26] Speaker 2: I'm always, always concerned about the future. I'm not thinking about... and I'm thinking about all the way down the line, when I gotta get off the exit. I'm already worrying about, "How am I gonna get off at the exit?" I wanna cross over, and I didn't follow the rule. My line was straight, and I went on over to the other side, and I wasn't supposed to.

[12:46] Speaker 3: And now, you're-

[12:47] Speaker 2: Because I'm in the future.

[12:49] Speaker 3: ... and so this, you're say- saying that you were very present, and not worrying about what you have to do next, and you, and it was-

[12:59] Speaker 2: Right.

[12:59] Speaker 3: ... a completely different experience.

[13:02] Speaker 2: A completely different experience, very peaceful, very beautiful. Before, I'm all worried about what's gonna happen down at the exit. I'm not gonna be able to get off. I gotta get over now. Suppose this car is coming, all this stuff that doesn't even exist. I'm making it up.

[13:22] Speaker 3: (laughs)

[13:22] Speaker 2: It doesn't even exist. I'm all stressing for nothing.

[13:26] Speaker 3: (laughs) And then in the train, when you talked about the train. It, it, it was 4:00 in the morning, y- even before. It could have been 3:55 in the morning yesterday.

[13:36] Speaker 2: Right.

[13:37] Speaker 3: And, and so there's nobody out, and it's dark-

[13:40] Speaker 2: Right.

[13:41] Speaker 3: ... and nobody's around, so because nobody's around, what do we have the opportunity to do? We get to enjoy the peace and the quiet.

[13:49] Speaker 2: Mm-hmm.

[13:49] Speaker 3: No traffic, no other cars, no, nothing happening. And I saw the exact same thing that you did. I saw how beautiful that train station was, just driving and approaching it and looking up at it-

[14:04] Speaker 2: Mm-hmm.

[14:04] Speaker 3: ... and looking at the architecture and looking at it, at everything about the, the structure on, and how it was done. And, and it was just, um... I, I was thinking the exact same thing, and it was really fun being out there when it was dark and nobody was there, because it's not the same in the daytime when everybody's there and the horns are blowing-

[14:25] Speaker 2: Mm-hmm.

[14:25] Speaker 3: ... the car is everywhere, there's traffic and people talking. It was completely different.

[14:31] Speaker 2: Right, right.

[14:31] Speaker 3: So yes, I noticed, I noticed too. It was fun. And I didn't do it, really. Yeah, go ahead.

[14:39] Speaker 2: It was a lot of fun. It was, um... it's just, now, I just feel more alive since I've become more present instead of being in my head all the time and thinking about things that don't even exist. It d- j- j- d- like, about the expressway, all this stuff I'm thinking about, it's, it's all illusion. I'm making it up. And then, when I just was peaceful, just driving and following the rule, when I can get over, I got over, and I get off at my exit every time with no problem. I put my turn signal on, and I get off. And my thing was, since I'm, since they have me able to get off near my exit, I'm thinking, "Suppose cars are coming, I won't be able to get off," and this and that. And it never happened. Those people know what they're doing. Why am I stressing myself about something I know absolutely nothing about? Not being present. That's all. And I mean, when you, um...

[15:56] Speaker 2: they used to have a saying, it was like, "Just sit and smell the coffee." That was something that older people used to say, something like, "Just sit and smell the coffee," or something like that. But now I know what they mean. Just relax and see what's going on around you. They said smell the coffee. Like, and that's what I'm doing now. And when I watch myself doing other than that, I'm better able to reign myself in because I'm watching myself being foolish or whatever. So then you can, you can get out of there. You can tell yourself, "Look at you acting foolish, acting up or doing this, that, or the other." And then you can get yourself together. And I, I was just talking to a young lady earlier, she's 13 years old, and she was... her dad has had to correct her about some things. So, they were going somewhere, and she got in the car on the passenger seat in the front, and there was a water bottle and a letter on her seat.

[17:24] Speaker 2: So, what she did, she took the water bottle and put it in her father's seat along with the letter. So, what was she doing? I know what she was doing. And I asked her, "Why would you put a water bottle in your father's seat when he's getting ready to get in the car and drive? Why would you do that?" And, um, she said, "I don't know." And I said, "Oh, you know. You know why you did that. You know why you did that, because instead of you picking up the water bottle and holding it or sitting it to the side-"... why would you put it in, um, your father's chair when he's getting ready to drive? And she was, like, quiet. So what I was saying to her is, "You were disrespecting your father because you're upset with your father about other things. Because there's no way that you would put an empty water bottle in your father's chair when he's getting ready to get in and drive." So I was explaining to her that in this life, you'll find that...

[19:14] Speaker 2: It's something that my mother used to say, "You don't wanna cut off your nose to spite your own face." And I find today that it's easier for young people to show disrespect to their parents because of social media, because of TikTok, because of Instagram. And everything that comes up, comes out. And I told her, "You're, you're, you're out of line." It's like, "You, you, you think that meant nothing? You think that meant nothing? 'Cause we know that you meant something by it." If, if I'm driving with my husband, with my daughter, with anybody, and I get in the car and it's a water bottle on the seat, I put it in their chair. I'm, I'm just gonna put it there. Get in the car and drive me somewhere, and I put it on their chair. "That's a statement," I told her. "You're making a statement.

[20:27] Speaker 2: What statement are you making?" However, what I'm finding is today, you have to take the time, whether you feel like it or not, whether to explain things, because a lot of times, you think you doing it, whatever reason you're doing it, uh, that you're justified in doing it, whether you're mad, have an attitude or whatever. "I have a right to do this, or I can talk to you this way or whatever." Just out of control. No, no self-control. But in life, if you don't have self-control, most of the times you won't get what you want. Most of the time. That could be with a significant other. It could be at a job. It could be at the grocery st-... It could be anywhere. If you're, if you don't wanna be present and loving and, and you most likely won't get what you want. But today, a lot of times, pride prevails, ego prevails, I don't care prevails. And it's... Wow. Uh, the beauty isn't really there that could be there.

[22:01] Speaker 2: And I know even with myself, when you're dealing with any situation that could be, quote-unquote... It could be, quote-unquote, um, mm, stressful. You can deescalate it.

[22:22] Speaker 3: So, so that's, um, an interesting point. At any time, it can be de-escalated, but not everybody will realize that, because the- it's very emotional. And so, once the emotions take over, are we really looking at something as you just mentioned? Let's deescalate this. So once our emotions, we start realizing, okay, my emotion, our emotions have just, um, prompted some response that's, you know, haphazard. Then it just, the next person does that. So when we say, "Okay, let's deescalate this," that's a very, um, advanced kind of response or, or action to take, "Let's deescalate this." So that, that's all it, it seems. That's, that's advanced. And when the emotions are softened, we can do things like that easil- easier. Might that be so?

[23:38] Speaker 2: Yeah. Uh, like, deescalating stress and wanting peace and harmony, whether it's in the workplace, whether it's at home, um, whether it's in the street, it takes practice because, uh, most people have triggers. And, um, they weren't taught as from children, um... because I know I wasn't, how to handle things that come up. So when you have triggers, there's a tendency to escalate instead of deescalate, and there's also a tendency, um, to... How can I say it? Um...So, there's a tendency to... (sighs) Let me see how to say this. Um, there's a tendency to be right even when you're wrong. And, and, and, and trust me, wrong can be relative, um, but you'll feel what, um... When you're more present, you feel what out of sorts and quote unquote wrong is. But when you're not present, wrong can seem right to you. So when you're upset and you act out, or some people punch someone, or they, um, do all kinds of behavior.

[25:26] Speaker 2: You know, some people may break a car window, some people may feel that they'll throw a glass across a room, or... And they say, "I'm upset." Okay? And even some parents let their children act this way, and it's a- and it's justified, you see. Because you don't have that barometer of being present enough to see yourself in this situation to be objective about a situation. You're more subjective because you're triggered, you're upset, you're angry, and it's everyone else's fault. They s- they knew I'm, I'm sleepy, so why they bother me? They knew I had a hard day at work, so why they do... Why did they say that to me and it made me do this? And no responsibility for one's actions, because when you don't have that barometer, you're not responsible for yourself. You, you, you feel like it's out... Th- these people make me act this way, you see? In my case, with the, with the, uh, when I'm driving down the highway, um, I'm like, I can say, well, they, they didn't let me...

[26:52] Speaker 2: They made my exit, me moving over to the next lane, too close to my exit. Suppose I can't get off. That's why I didn't... I, I didn't follow the rule. I have a reason for not following the rule, you see, because I can make any excuses for myself because I won't take responsibility for the fact that I'm not present, I'm in my head, I'm in illusion, I'm thinking of things that don't even exist. And it's the same thing with everything, and it's not easy to be responsible for your behavior when either you've gotten away with not being responsible for it. You never were taught to be responsible for it, so you think like, there's a reason that I punched him. Now, defending yourself, that may be a little different if somebody comes up and somebody, you know... I'm not talking about that. If you have to do something to defend yourself, but most likely, you're gonna rarely ever be in that type of a situation.

[28:10] Speaker 2: When you're present and you learn how to conduct yourself, very, very, very rare you're gonna be in a situation where somebody punches you. That's gonna be rare because you're not gonna draw that type of energy to yourself, you see? That's a energy right there, somebody gonna punch you in the face or punch you. So what were you engaging in? What were you doing? Were you antagonizing? What were you doing? Were you doing this? Were you doing that? Wha- wha- what was that all about? Why is this person in your world? I'm just amazed at so many things that I didn't know that I didn't know. I didn't know that I didn't know, that I thought that I knew, you see? But what has happened is my life has become so much easier, so much more peaceful, you see? So, wow. It's like a lot of things that goes on in the world, it's like you might not like it, and if it's something that you can do to improve it or make it better, it's good.

[29:34] Speaker 2: But always remember that everything is as it should be, which is very hard for some people to come to terms with, because this shouldn't be this way. It shouldn't be this way. It shouldn't be this way. It should be another way. Well, what way should it be? It shouldn't be this way. Well, you tell me what would you have it be since you wanna orchestrate this thing

[30:03] Speaker 3: So, I, I thought about that, um, I guess we all think about that, and may I say a, a few comments about that?

[30:12] Speaker 2: Mm-hmm. Of course. I would love it.

[30:15] Speaker 3: (laughs) Well, we can be grateful for each and everything, um, occurrence, event, happening that has ever happened in our lives. And as you said, it's not that we enjoyed everything that has ever happened. We may not have loved it.... when there's a parking ticket on the car, or an unwanted outrageous bill comes in the mail, or it looks as if we aren't going to get something that we poured our heart into. But when we apply the, the energy of, um, a polarity, I'm gonna, I'm gonna call it polarity, and apply the energy of gratitude, which we all understand.

[31:10] Speaker 3: When we apply the energy of gratitude and i- we, we can even say to every aspect our en- in our entire lives, um, our actions, that action that we do by, by applying gratitude to every aspect of our entire lives, it becomes a catalyst, and the energy shifts immediately and our gratitude is the catalyst for the directional energy of healing, peace, joy, exuberance, and now our directional path, our line in time is headed on a bright positive path. So an elevation exercise, (laughs) I have these things called elevation exercise, can be to be quiet and to go inward and create a list of everything, all of our dream, all of our dozens and hundreds and thousands of things and aspects and qualities we gave to, we have to be grateful for. And observe and watch and see how swiftly the energy shifts, because doing this frees us. It frees you from thinking about things that we find challenging to resolve, challenging to move past, challenging to heal from. So we begin with the simple knowing.

[32:58] Speaker 3: We are grateful for every second, every moment, everything, every occurrence, every experience, every aspect, everyone, every family member, every friend that has been a beautiful, uh, kind of ... that has been beautiful, kind, and gentle towards us. And we send all of our light, all of our compassion, all of our love to everyone, every family member, every friend who has hurt us. We send all of our light, all of our compassion, all of our love to everyone, every family member or every friend who feels hurt by us. We can do that. So we are grateful for every second of our entire lives, every moment of our lives, everything in our lives, every occurrence in our lives, every action in our lives, every activity in our lives, all aspects of our lives. And we are grateful for everyone, every friend, every family member who is in our lives and who has ever been in our lives, and everyone we don't know that we encounter or have encountered or will encounter in our lives.

[34:28] Speaker 3: And so this brings us a certain amount of, um, well, well, I'll say, um, if or when thoughts come to mind, just feel and be grateful for those thoughts and watch them flow right on by.

[34:50] Speaker 2: (laughs)

[34:50] Speaker 3: Just by doing that, it shifts everything.

[34:54] Speaker 2: It will fl- if you allow it to float right on by, you're right. You don't have to act on it.

[35:01] Speaker 3: No. We, and, and also in addition to that, um, we can feel and see the light in all things and in everyone, in all beings. And on top of that, as it shifts, we feel lighter and we can decide to feel loved always, to feel loved, feel loved, and always feel loved. And we aren't thinking, and we stop thinking, and we can just notice that we're serving and flowing and we're just being. We stop thinking. We can just serve and flow and be. And we feel pure and total peace. Our energy feels light. Everything slows down, and we feel outside of time, and we know and feel there is no time. We all know and feel there's no time, and we start to feel very light.

[36:20] Speaker 2: Mm-hmm.

[36:21] Speaker 3: And throughout our day, in all moments or spontaneously, whenever we do, just look around, look around and be grateful for each and everything that, that we see in any given present now happening. And-We can do this if we decide to remember, (laughs) just spontaneously re- we can just remember and, and do this. So-

[36:53] Speaker 2: Well, I know for sure that that's how you are. Everything that you're saying is how you roll. That's how you are. So, what you're saying is... I see you being that. So you're not just talking some pie in the sky thing. This is things that you live and experience. Why? Because I'm around you a lot and I, I, I, I observe it.

[37:22] Speaker 3: Well, yesterday, we talked about a certain issue. Maybe the day before and yesterday. We talked about a certain issue, and you said, "Wow, is it possible you were traumatized by this issue?" And while-

[37:36] Speaker 2: Right.

[37:37] Speaker 3: ... I'm sitting on the airplane, all of these things I just said, I started feeling them and I typed it all out. (laughs) And as I was typing it, I started (techno interference) away. It disappeared, and I started feeling light and I started smiling, and I'm just gonna give gratitude for each and every thing that has ever happened in my life, everything that anyone has ever said. And, and even, um, even with things where I may have upset somebody, I want to be compassionate about it, to recognize them and how they feel and something I have done. And, and it shifted everything. I am saying about everything that we, we discussed, and I started feeling love. And then I, I, I'm like, you know, here we, we are. Peace, be still. And we can breathe, and exhale, and we can close our eyes and feel loved, and, and then we smile and it's all now in the, in the light, resolved into permanent non-existence.

[38:59] Speaker 3: And I, I, I, I love me, I love us, I love you, and we can command this now because it's done and we know it. And I, I just started typing all these things, and this is what happened. It just went away. It faded away quickly as I'm typing and, and, and thinking about this. And I'm like, I wanna save this because it was a big deal that we talked about, right?

[39:34] Speaker 2: Right, right.

[39:35] Speaker 3: And it went away, just from all the things I just said, 'cause I all typed it all out while it was happening, and it went away, and I was just smiling and felt so light. And, and, and we can do... This is, these are things that we can all do, and the more that you do it, you can observe and see it happening, and, and it happens quickly. And, and we can practice these things because we can shift the energy of anything, um-

[40:07] Speaker 2: Wow.

[40:07] Speaker 3: ... and, and giving gratitude to each and every thing. I'm like, okay, I'm just gonna give gratitude for everything that's ever happened in all of... At, at any moment from the time I was born until now, and, and even just spontaneously driving down the street or anything, I'm like, I'm just gonna be grateful for it. Grateful for each individual thing and each... and everything. And it just shifted everything and it was fun. And I feel totally different than I did when... than I did yesterday and the day before. Completely different. It went away.

[40:43] Speaker 2: Wow. Wow. That's really powerful, but just that... by you looking at that, you saw it, and it left you because you looked at it in a whole different light, and you weren't affected by it or traumatized by it anymore. That's, that's powerful.

[41:15] Speaker 3: It went away. It went away. It went away. And I'm like, shoot, I can just do that all day long. I just be grateful for everything all day long. I could be grateful (laughs) right now that I just moved my car from where I was in the perfect spot 'cause, uh, the policeman was looking at people's plates and giving them tickets, and I had to drive away and park in another elevated place over the ocean, and the cars are going by and the planes are flying overhead. But, but, (laughs) I'm happy. Uh, I'm grateful for that, that that happened, that, that that policeman came and walked around, and now I moved my car and now I'm overlooking the ocean. Before, I was at eye level, now I'm overlooking it. I can see the sand, I can see the bike riders, and I'm here. Uh, I'm still here. So, I, I'm like, I can do this all day. We can do this all day.

[42:05] Speaker 3: We can be grateful for anything all day long, even if we didn't like it, because that energy will shift it, and, um, and, um, and we can call that the, the law of duality, the law of polarity. And, and gratitude, plugging gratitude, any, any energy, that beautiful energy into anything will, will, will shift it and, and enhance it and expand it. And if something great happened and, and, and you love something great that happened, it'll expand. It'll expand. And if, if... and, and if any little thought comes to mind, just be grateful for it and, and then it will, it will shift, too.So, we talked about gratitude recently a lot, but, you know, things come up during the day all the time, and we could just spontaneously be grateful. Practice it, try it, and see, see what you're thinking, and observe it for yourself, and see how quickly it can shift. Because being mad at anything, it expands that, that feeling.

[43:17] Speaker 3: So if you're mad or feeling negative about anything, that will expand any situation. If you're mad at something good that happens, if, if we're mad at something that's not good that happens, it'll expand that. We can't afford that. Nobody wants that. And then we're, we've all been elevating continuously, so we really know this. So, we can just, just feel grateful, put a positive to it, to anything and everything, and it will be positive. It will happen, and, and, um, why not? (laughs) Why not find ways?

[44:02] Speaker 2: Um, wow. Getting ... Okay. Like, you mentioned something about them maybe giving out tickets, and you moved your car. Okay, well, in Philadelphia, if you get tickets, on the second ticket, they will put a boot on your car. I don't know what they do in California, but if you don't pay-

[44:24] Speaker 3: At 5:00. And did you notice that I put the car in the garage? (laughs)

[44:28] Speaker 2: I did. I noted-

[44:30] Speaker 3: (laughs)

[44:30] Speaker 2: ... that you, you put the car in the garage.

[44:33] Speaker 3: Sure, you did. (laughs)

[44:35] Speaker 2: Um, it's, it's, it's two tickets. If you don't pay that second ticket, you get what they call a boot, which you can't move your car. Now, there's no, see, but there's no need to get a ticket, because again, when you follow the rule, you won't have to get mad about a ticket, which means you will never get a boot on your car, where you go out and you can't move your car, because they've taken it to the imp- No, they don't take it to the impound. I think they give you a chance to pay it first.

[45:14] Speaker 3: (laughs)

[45:14] Speaker 2: When you come out and see you can't move, okay?

[45:18] Speaker 3: (laughs) Yeah.

[45:18] Speaker 2: They, they have to get your attention, 'cause you're not paying attention. It's like the teacher with the ruler. You're not paying attention, so you wanna park where you're not supposed to park. Okay. So, we send you a ticket. You don't pay the ticket. Okay. Then again, you do it again. You get another ticket. You don't pay the ticket. Okay, now you got a boot on your car, because we have to get your attention. There's no need to be mad about that. There's no, you can't talk about the city trying to take your money, and why are they doing this, it doesn't make sense. It makes all the sense in the world, because to make things go right, you have to have certain rules. Now, if you can't park in that spot from 8:00 to 4:00, don't park in that spot. That sounds very simple. But sometimes people get very annoyed and angry and their blood pressure goes up, because either they have a ticket or they come out and they have a boot on the car. All avoidable.

[46:27] Speaker 2: You don't ever have to get a boot on your car, and you really don't ever have to get a ticket. Those are self-imposed things that you get upset about that you don't have to even experience. And then, you blame something outside of yourself of why you have a ticket, or why there's a boot on your car and you can't go to work.

[46:52] Speaker 3: I had a thought. Um, and so, a lot of people know ... (laughs) I have a lot of friends that love to play cards on Friday night, pinochle, um, different card games, and we al-

[47:03] Speaker 2: Oh, I love pinochle. I haven't played in so long. I love pinochle.

[47:08] Speaker 3: So there's gotta be some-

[47:09] Speaker 2: I gotta find your friends. (laughs)

[47:10] Speaker 3: (laughs) Oh, yeah, they play Friday nights. (laughs) Friday nights, uh, and, and sometimes Saturday nights, t- th- and, and they play every week. Groups, and they have pinochle partners and, and everything. And, and there's a lot of games that, that are made for us to entertain, but a l- s- a lot of things we might say, if you know the rules of the game, just know to the rules of the game. So, things out here in the world, just get familiar with the game.

[47:40] Speaker 2: The rules of the game.

[47:42] Speaker 3: Yeah, just get familiar with the game. And it's just like regular games. You can't play these g- regular games, pinochle, you know, Candy Land, Monopoly, unless you know the rules. And everybody says, you know, "Hey, we're gonna play a new game." "Okay, what's the game? Okay, sounds fun, I wanna play. Okay, so how do you play? How do you play? Tell me how." And, and so we always learn the rules of the game first, and then we can proceed. But out here in real life, w- we may not realize (laughs) that there's certain ways that they do things. And so then we kind of lose sometimes.

[48:23] Speaker 3: So-

[48:24] Speaker 2: Mm-hmm.

[48:25] Speaker 3: ... uh, you know, uh, uh, you know, we, we might be to the point where, okay, we know what they, what they like to do. Okay. We know what they like to do. Just keep it in mind. Keep it in mind.

[48:36] Speaker 2: Mm-hmm.

[48:36] Speaker 3: So you know.

[48:37] Speaker 2: Mm-hmm.

[48:38] Speaker 3: And avoid those things. (laughs)

[48:40] Speaker 2: Mm-hmm. Well, that's, that's what I mean. You avoid those things that are unpleasant, um, but there's rules to the game. And sometimes being obstinate or-... um, stubborn. "I am not playing the game today. This is what I'm gonna do." Okay. And that's your choice. But some ... You might not play the game, and you won't get caught. You may be able to get away with it. But, but then there are times when you, uh, get penalized for not playing the game, and that might be a ticket. That might be a boot or whatever. But just take it in stride.

[49:27] Speaker 3: Yeah. I, um, have-

[49:28] Speaker 2: Because getting upset about it, getting your blood pressure up about it is not gonna make it go away.

[49:34] Speaker 3: Yeah.

[49:34] Speaker 2: Not unless you go downtown.

[49:35] Speaker 3: Could make something, something else happen in the next 60 seconds. (laughs) Something else could-

[49:42] Speaker 2: Here, they got traffic court.

[49:45] Speaker 3: ... happen. Something unpleasant could come. (laughs)

[49:45] Speaker 2: Here, you can go to traffic court, and you could try to fight the ticket if you feel it's unfair. So they do have a avenue if you feel like you can prove by taking a picture of a sign. "This sign says I could park here." If you can prove something, you may be able to get rid of it. But the rules are-

[50:08] Speaker 3: (laughs) Make ... You make (...) those, those court procedures are all those things. So, so then that means, like you said, hey, we, we, we're gonna, we're gonna figure out what they like to do here, and we'll just steer clear of those things, just like in a regular game. (laughs)

[50:27] Speaker 2: Exactly.

[50:28] Speaker 3: I, um, I was speaking with, um, some people recently, and, uh, someone said to me, um ... They said, "How do you..." Okay, and this is a little bit different. They said, "How do you go and get invited to all these dinners and all these events all the time?" And, and they said, "Well, I" (laughs) ... You know, "People invite me because of the activities that I do, and I don't buy tickets for these things," because the, the tickets could be 100, $200 to some of these dinners, some of these events. But they invite me. And I, I decided that I ... This person said that they decided that they wanted to, uh, have some beautiful experience in their lives and some beautiful social experiences with, with others, and, um, that it, it came into their lives. And then it bec- ... This became regular for them to often get invited to come and speak at engagements.

[51:28] Speaker 3: They pay for the airline tickets, the Lyft and Uber charges to get there, the hotels, and the meals, and, and they get invited to dinners often all the time. And, um, I said, "Oh, I see what you mean." Um, because I des- ... I ... Sometimes people, we realize, hey, we wanna have a new lifestyle change. We wanna change some things up and, you know. And, uh, I remember thinking, I wanna, um, not, not be in the same place all the time. I, I wanna figure out a way to do things. And, and I often would drive across the country. And then, uh, I was talking to a young man, and I'm like, "You're, you're always going places. What is it?" And they said, "Oh." They got a, they got a airline pass, and you pay for the pass once a year, and then every time a flight comes up, you catch the flight, an adventure flight, and you just pay the taxes. And I'm like, "Wow." And I started, um, saying to myself, as we often do, "Well, wouldn't that be nice if we could do that? Hmm.

[52:27] Speaker 3: I wonder if we should do that. Should we do that? Maybe not today. Maybe tomorrow, we'll do it." And, and then, you know, there comes a point where you just have to say, "Hey, let's just do it now. Let's just do it now." And, and, and that ... You know, sometimes we have the chance, and we just do it now. We go for it now. And then there, we find there was no reason to procrastinate, no reason to say, "Hey, what about later?" And then, then another door, and then you go through that door. And then there's a whole bunch of doors right there of all these new opportunities you can do because you said yes in a moment of time and didn't want to put it off to the future in, in that now, present, now. You said, "Yes, I want it. Let's do it now." And so (laughs) I said, "Okay, I don't want to think about all the fun that it would be to have this airline pass.

[53:14] Speaker 3: Let's do it, and let's do it now." And then as soon as that happened, then all these other ideas came of all these new doors to go through, and I'm like, "Wow. I'm so glad that I got a chance to do it today instead of waiting and thinking about it." And now there's all these opportunities, and I got this pass, uh, at the end of April. And I've been on three trips, and, (laughs) and it was so much fun, so I got a chance to get to do what I want and be everywhere, um, um, and, and, and do some things. And it was ... It was really cool. So when there's things that we really wanna do, some goals or some changes that we wanna have, um, a- and you have the opportunity to do it now, try to do it now. Don't put it off. Because then the opportunity, you go through that door, you go through that door of, um, hmm, wanting to, to ... Yes, now I've done it. And now, the world of, of possibilities is, is at hand. And, and now the things that you wanted to create are there.

[54:16] Speaker 3: So there's no such thing as time. We know this. And, and go for it. Go for it and create the dreams that you want. Create the situations, um, that you, that you want. Even, even, uh, um ... And, and give it lots of, of, of great, um, love and energy and imagine yourself doing it now. If, if you wanna maybe move into a new house, every night when you go to sleep, close your eyes and know that you're sleeping in your new bed in your new house. (laughs) Every night, go to sleep, and know it, and smile, and, and just, uh, envision what it's like to be at this new place to do this new creative, um, idea that you wanna have. And, and, and create the things that you want.It could be small. Start with small things to build your confidence. You know, uh, maybe you, um, just want to be able to go to, um, take a dance class, you know, once a week. And you really create that. Create something small and, and build up and gain your confidence and then you know, "I can do this.

[55:22] Speaker 3: I've done this before. I can do this." And then there you are. You can create, um, the world that you want to be in. Even though out there, it might look a certain way or, you know, everybody's in this world and people out there might have issues and problems and you turn on the news and you hear all these things. But really, your world is your world. And just because something's happening to somebody else out there doesn't mean that that has anything to do with you. So, um, create the world you want to live in, um, um, beautiful things are out there for you. Things that aren't, that, that other people might complain about that have nothing to do with you. Leave that out there and, and create the world you want to live in. Be, be present and, and enjoy the present nows of everything. Enjoy, enjoy the feeling of now.

[56:15] Speaker 3: (laughs)

[56:16] Speaker 2: Wow. Okay. Mm. Create ... You can create your own experience and like you said, whatever you want to create, just see yourself doing that, like you said. You know? It's a, um, beautiful thing to do, a beautiful exercise and you can do it with anything. If you think you need a check on yourself or your attitude, you can see yourself being what you want to be, being that type of person. You see? And then things will come to you. People will be put in your path. Situations will be put in your path to help you get there. It was interesting, um, when you say be grateful for all situations. We were talking about a situation and I asked you, I told you it seemed like you had been traumatized, and um, now you've grown from that and you look at that situation entirely different. And I remember a guy coming in the restaurant and he had kind of like a speech impediment and he said he had had a stroke.

[57:53] Speaker 2: And so I said, "Well, what do you think got you there?" And he said, "A lot of different things." But the one thing he said that was striking, he said his behavior and how he did it, like, a lot of, like, lying, cheating, and he wouldn't stop. And he did this with loved ones, with his wife. Just, just, just being like a ... He said he was doing all sorts of things. Wasn't taking care of his health, and he was coming in the restaurant because he had started taking care of his health, and he wanted to eat better. So I asked him how did, how was that whole experience, um, going through the stroke? When he said he was grateful for it. He said that the stroke sat him down, made him sit down and see himself. That's what he told me. He said he couldn't speak. He couldn't speak. Couldn't walk for a while. Couldn't talk at all. He said that happened to him and that changed him. That's what he told me.

[59:29] Speaker 2: That's what the stroke, he said, "It changed my life." He said, "That's what I needed to straighten myself out 'cause I wouldn't stop." Actually, he's come to the meditation classes, but that's exactly what that gentleman said to me. And he ran it all down to me about different things that he has done in his life and different, you know, ways he's hurt people and he just didn't give it a thought. But when he couldn't speak and couldn't walk and all he had was that moment in time to look at himself, and that's when he said everything changed for him. So he said he doesn't feel anything but gratitude 'cause it changed his life, the stroke. Wow. And sometimes, it takes different situations for a person to be sat down. Some people, everybody may not need that, something so egregious, something so devastating to happen. But every soul gets what it needs because there are no mistakes. Some people get sat down 'cause they go to jail. They get sat down. It's like...

[01:01:00] Speaker 2: And different people take it different ways. Some people may be angry because they're in jail, even if there was a reason for them to go to jail. They just mad 'cause they're in jail.... so they get out, and they may go back to jail later again, repeat offender, because they won't see what's going on. They won't look at themselves. "If I had just done it this way, I wouldn't have gotten caught. The next time, I'll know what to do."

[01:01:26] Speaker 3: Oh, yeah. I, I was just thinking about all the things you were saying a- about the, the man who had the stroke. And, um, and so I have a, a friend, and, um, maybe 10 years ago or maybe 12 years ago, um, she had, must have had a brain aneurysm at the job. And she was an accountant, had been an accountant for years, um, a cigarette, heavy cigarette smoker, um, and, uh, and this happened to her. And so she had to stop everything, as you described with the man, um, that had the stroke. Um, and, and she's like, "Okay. The universe is telling me stop smoking. Okay. I hear you now." So she stopped and, and, and she had to do a lot of rehab to be able to walk again, talk again, you, you, know how, learn how to do everything again. But, of course, she did not go back into accounting, but she did do something else that she loves.

[01:02:28] Speaker 3: And she got into dog grooming and has a very, um, very nice business as a dog groomer, which is, um, which she's dealing now with animals and pets, and that keeps you more present than being an accountant. (laughs) And she loves it so much. But, but being with dogs, their, their, their energy is so, um, elevated. Just, just to be around pets and dogs, they, they, they're a lot different from us. (laughs) Pets, you know, they love you unconditionally. They, they, they are, they're, they're just excited to, to, to, to be petted and to, to have the attention, and, and to give attention back. But she has a totally different life now. And that change from going from being in accounting and sm- smoking, you know, that, that, that cigarette, um, smoking to, uh, totally rehab, being rehabilitated and, and talking, walking, thinking, and everything, to pet grooming, it, it, it's a whole different lifestyle now. And she loves the dogs, and it's so much fun. And she's still in business.

[01:03:48] Speaker 3: She just does something else, but it's a much more enjoyable life.

[01:03:53] Speaker 2: Th- when you look at the strokes, when you look at the stroke, and see, with her, the numbers wasn't really the issue. With some people, they love numbers. But it's, it's, it's just she got to do something else that she loved. Um, she started over again because, for a lot of people, the stroke can be a new beginning because it takes you back almost like a baby. Because, it, it depends, ev- every stroke is different depending on that soul. So some people may not lose their speech. Some people may just have a slight stroke, and maybe their arm becomes immobilized or something. They might slur a little. Every soul is different. So some people may... Like this gentleman, he couldn't talk at all. He couldn't walk. So he had to learn all over again like your friend did. And so he was... This guy was just getting his speech back. He didn't have it totally back, but it was starting to come back, and he was able... He said he started, you know, he went to rehab and learned how to walk again.

[01:05:24] Speaker 2: But these things that befall us, um, are not by chance, and when we get signs to change things, but we don't adhere to, to the signs, nature, it, it, it's like it'll, it'll get stronger, the signs. And anybody who's had most of the time, if they have had something drastic happen to their health, if they look back, they had a sign. Now, they, they may have just, they dismiss it, and they don't pay attention to it. And then it gets louder and louder, and then if you still don't listen, something, uh, may happen to sit you down or whatever, you know, to make you pay attention, to say, "You may need to be put out of commission for a while, so you can think this over." Yeah.

[01:06:42] Speaker 3: So, Beverly... (laughs)

[01:06:44] Speaker 2: Yes?

[01:06:45] Speaker 3: I have, have been having so much fun, um, in, in Pennsylvania, um, in Philadelphia, and, um, (laughs) you know, if it were up to me, I could have a 1G phone. I don't need a 5G phone, but I don't have any apps, and, and, and so, you know, I don't, I don't have Lyft and Uber, to just call Lyft and Uber. So you were kind enough to take me, uh, to the train station. But, but it's so interesting because I'd asked someone, um, I says, "I'm, I'm, I'm gonna be... I, I can't do Lyft and Uber on, on my old phone. It won't download. And can you call me a Lyft and Uber?

[01:07:22] Speaker 3: I'll call you at, at a weird hour in the morning." And, of course, they were asleep because-

[01:07:27] Speaker 2: (laughs)

[01:07:28] Speaker 3: ... they stay up all, all day and night watching movies and, and they're, they're asleep when I, when I needed to get to where I had to go.

[01:07:35] Speaker 2: Mm-hmm.

[01:07:35] Speaker 3: And so, I'm in the Philadelphia airport and I see the sign, and the sign said, "This way to the train." And I was like, "Oh, well, well let me call the, the, the, um, public transportation, the SEPTA, and find out how, how to take the train." And I called and, and it's so cool about Pennsylvania (laughs) because you call somewhere and, and they actually answer the phone. They answer questions and they'll help you. And they told me exactly where to go and exactly what to do. And then, I discovered, oh wow, the train goes right into the, into the terminal now. Now being from Southern California and the Los Angeles airport, it's not like that in Los Angeles. The, nobody takes the train really. There's no subways. They just put a, a, a system in place maybe about, you know, 15 years ago, but (laughs) you know, people are not taking trains in Los Angeles like they do everywhere else. So, I'm, I'm really excited. I'm like, "Okay, I, I can take a train." And I don't mind not taking Uber.

[01:08:34] Speaker 3: I don't mind not paying $45 to $55 to get an Uber. (laughs) So, I, I, I took the train and it was great, and, and I'm like, wow, because the person didn't answer the phone to call me a, a, a $50 Uber ride, I got to take the train, um, you know, just for like $11. I was so excited and I'm like, "Wow, I, I live near the train station." And, and then I realized, wow, I could take the train to the airport. I was, you know, and I was excited. I'm like, unless the, the, the, the flight, you know, I need to get to the flight, that's the flight at 4:30 in the morning. But, eh, it's just so exciting. Sometimes, when you can't do something the way that you planned or maybe somebody didn't get a chance to help you the way you were counting on them helping you, and then you had to change your plans completely, and you find out, wow, this is just great. I'm so glad that something didn't happen so that I could have this chance to learn how to do something new.

[01:09:36] Speaker 3: So (laughs) -

[01:09:38] Speaker 2: Mm-hmm.

[01:09:38] Speaker 3: ... I just wanted to say sometimes, li- as you were saying, positive things come about with, um, a, a, something that's totally unexpected, so I've been learning all kind of cool things. We, and we all have, we learn all kind of things and so, be prepared to be flexible, be prepared to not get upset and angry when things don't work out the way you want. Don't be quick to blame others if something doesn't go right. Take the opportunity to see, hey, here's a chance for me to try something different. What can I do right now to help myself?

[01:10:13] Speaker 3: And you'll, and you'll-

[01:10:13] Speaker 2: Mm-hmm.

[01:10:13] Speaker 3: ... find that, wow, look at this. Look what I discovered. Look what I can do. Look what's happening.

[01:10:20] Speaker 2: Mm-hmm.

[01:10:20] Speaker 3: You know, so, so, you know, that, that's, that's always something that, that can happen to all of us, and it does. And then, when you notice that it keeps happening, it keeps happening, more new wonderful things keep happening. You know? (laughs)

[01:10:37] Speaker 2: Mm. Wow. That's, that's really, um, beautiful. I, I know about growing up in certain areas, 'cause even though you may feel you're grown, there may be areas where you have not grown up, because I remember, uh, when I was married, my husband took care of so many things that I didn't even have to look at, you know, knowing what went into it or whatever. And, um, I remember when I divorced and I'm driving and I hear a siren behind me and the cop stops me. This was long ago, maybe long ago. And he says, "You, your, your registration is expired." I didn't even think about what he was talking about, because I had never, in all the years I've been married, did anything about registering the cars. So, at that time, what they were doing, they take your car. So, I had to take everything out of the car that I wanted at that time, 'cause they were gonna impound the car. And I'm saying to the officer, I'm saying, "You're actually gonna take the car?" He said, "I have to.

[01:12:26] Speaker 2: The car is not registered." And I'm like, "Oh, my goodness." So, I called my daughter, she was the closest, closer than my son, and I'm standing on the corner with these items, and they told me where to call to, to do what I needed to do. I'm saying that because that was the beginning of me growing up, you see? That was, that happening to me was the beginning of me taking more stock into things, like, "Grow up, Beverly. You have to do certain things now." And it was the same thing that I was doing, I think I told you, with my daughter, who's, has a brilliant mind. So, I would depend on her to, like, if it was something computer or with my printer or anything, something in my house, I would ask her.... but then I stopped, and it opened up a whole new world for me. I remember... And to some people, this might be like, like you don't know how to do that, Beverly. I mean, really? I mean, really? So I started ordering my own ribbons for my printer and inserting them.

[01:13:59] Speaker 2: I started learning how to, uh, do things on my computer, to move it to my printer, to my lap- from my laptop. All of these things just by being present. And I'm like, "It can't be that hard, Beverly, just take your time and you'll get it done." I remember fixing my garbage disposal 'cause I went online and I found out how to fix it. I was growing up, and it was so beautiful. I felt so good. Now, to some people, they do this stuff all the time. It's like, oh, that's nothing. To you, it's nothing. The power... When I had got my car, um, work done on my car, the audio went off. So my, um, nothing's working. The radio, the, the, the CD player, nothing's working. So I remember my... This happened before. My friend had got in the car, and I got out the car and got back in, and the radio was working. And I said, "What did you do?" He said, "I just pushed buttons." So I didn't even ask him what he did. So the next time...

[01:15:15] Speaker 2: Oh, because the time before that, when my- I had got my car serviced and the power went off and, and my daughter did it. She, she put the... She was in the car and she turned everything back on. So anyway, now, this last time, I'm like, the power went off, and then I went in pushing buttons and it was so easy. I turned everything back on. It's, it's, it's, it's, it's so easy. However, before I was growing up, I didn't do it 'cause I don't know how to do this. I don't know how to turn this back on or ask somebody. But what I'm finding out is I have the intelligence. It might take me a little longer to just fiddle around, but I love the fact of doing things for myself. Whereas I would ask my daughter, when I was married, my husband did everything. And it feels so good to... These new avenues when you, when you start really growing up, things that you might have been afraid to do. Um, like you said, uh, finding these new things. Just because one door closes, another door opens.

[01:16:40] Speaker 2: They didn't get the Uber for you, which would have cost you $50. Now, I think you say you pay eight or $11 to just ride the train, getting to the same-

[01:16:49] Speaker 3: Yeah.

[01:16:49] Speaker 2: ... destination.

[01:16:51] Speaker 3: Yeah.

[01:16:51] Speaker 2: You see?

[01:16:51] Speaker 3: I remember we couldn't work the machine at the station. (laughs)

[01:16:57] Speaker 2: We couldn't work the machine.

[01:16:58] Speaker 3: We kept on trying.

[01:16:59] Speaker 2: Then our little angel came up and he showed us everything.

[01:17:03] Speaker 3: Yes. (laughs)

[01:17:04] Speaker 2: Remember?

[01:17:05] Speaker 3: Yeah.

[01:17:05] Speaker 2: We didn't know what we were doing. And, and, and the guy-

[01:17:08] Speaker 3: What are you doing? Four in the morning, the guy's walking around saying, "What are y'all doing?"

[01:17:14] Speaker 2: He said, "You can't do that. That doesn't work." And we're like, you're trying to tap the credit card and like, "Why isn't this working?"

[01:17:22] Speaker 3: (laughs) I had my eyeballs up there. And then when I finally got off the train, the guy told me, he says, he says, "Just pay $6." (laughs)

[01:17:34] Speaker 2: (laughs)

[01:17:35] Speaker 3: I gave him the $6.

[01:17:39] Speaker 2: I see. And that, and you were gonna pay 50, because remember when we looked it up, it was like almost $50 to go to the airport.

[01:17:49] Speaker 3: And that's not really much fun to give a, to pay $50 to go to the airport, because the ticket to fly was only $31. And the airline ticket was $31, and the Uber ride to the airport is 45, $50. And I'm like, "I can't do that." (laughs) I don't wanna do that.

[01:18:08] Speaker 2: Because then you would miss the experience, and then you would have missed the experience, remember, of that peacefulness when we were out in the morning and, and seeing the train station and all of its beauty, and being able to take in the structure and the construction and, and enjoy all of that.

[01:18:28] Speaker 3: Yeah, so, and so, so this is true, and, and you do this a lot. You get up early or you go out at night, maybe at midnight or one in the morning or, or go out when it's dark and, and it's so peaceful and quiet. And, and, and no one else is out there. They're all sleeping and, and w- you could be awake, you know, those of you listening are awake, and you find that it's a different world. And you get so... You, you, you just see things differently. Um, you get to do things. It's peaceful. Nobody else is out. And, and it's just, it's a pleasant experience just to be, be up when it's dark and, um, nobody's moving around, just you. You feel like you're the only one. (laughs) And it's, and, and so it's, um, it's really fun to, to be up early when it's dark or, um, you know, just be out at one in the morning or, uh, 11 at night or 12 and, you know, go and pick herbs and, you know, go for walks or go to the track and, you know, go do things.

[01:19:32] Speaker 3: Because you say that, you know, you, you, you know, you're not worried about being out and out. (laughs) You know it.

[01:19:40] Speaker 2: Yeah, well, I, I don't worry about it because it, it depends on what I myself-... okay, if I wanna do something, and since I had the restaurant and different, different things to do, I like doing my exercise or walking/running at the track. So if time gets away from me, and it gets dark, I'm still gonna go to the track, you know? Now, my children might say, "Oh, it's- I don't want you to do that because it's too dark." It depends on the person. It's like, I'm not afraid of the dark, or I'm not thinking something's gonna happen to me. Now some people might say, "Oh, that's naive." Well, to you it's night, so you don't need to go out when it's dark. You don't need to do those things because you feel like threatened or things could happen to you in the dark. I don't. I feel very comfortable, and I'm by myself, and I've been doing this for years. And, um, it's very peaceful and beautiful, and I don't do it all the time, but if my schedule, that happens and that's what I wanna do, I do it.

[01:21:08] Speaker 2: And I'm not concerned that it's dark, because some people may think that bad things happen 'cause it's dark. I think it's so peaceful and beautiful when it's dark. (laughs) So, my whole thought process of it is different, you see? And that energy and the breeze and all of that, and, um, I just, like you said, I just do it, and I'm not in my head thinking that I can't do it because it's dark. Um, and not only that, I- but- and my- how- my belief is whatever is gonna happen to you is gonna happen. So, it doesn't matter if it's dark. If something's gonna happen, it's gonna happen. Darkness doesn't make it happen to you. If it's in- i- in your life journey for something to happen on this particular day, if this- if it happens in the morning, it could happen in the afternoon, it could happen at any time of day. It doesn't mean that because you go out in the dark, that now something's gonna happen to you because you have this preconceived notion about the dark. You see?

[01:22:39] Speaker 2: You're in your head about the dark. And really, if you're afraid, you don't need to go out. If you have this preconceived notion about, "I'm afraid and something might happen," it's best not to go out. Because your energy...

[01:22:58] Speaker 3: So... (laughs)

[01:22:59] Speaker 2: No, go ahead.

[01:23:01] Speaker 3: Well, you know, (laughs) we were talking about the air when it's dark one day. This is a little bit, uh, different topic, but, you know, we, we were talking about the air in the daytime and the air at night. And, um, we were talking about, um, someone said to me, um, "I don't feel well because the window was left open at night." And now th- this person didn't feel well because the window was open. And I said, "Are you saying that the window was open..." That I said to, I said, "So you're saying that in the daytime you're out all day long and you feel just fine, and then at night if you're sleeping and the window's open and the air from the nighttime air comes in, then you get sick, and you're saying that the air is different?" And they said, "Yes, I am," and I mentioned it to you, and we talked about that the air is different at night.

[01:23:58] Speaker 2: Right.

[01:23:58] Speaker 3: And so it was interesting to me that on the airplane, everyone, you know, when- when the- when the- it- in the daytime when it's bright and sunny, everyone closed their window, um, covers, um, a- and- and got rid of the sun. They didn't want the sun. And, um, and a lot of people feel, "Well, in the daytime, I feel great, and I, when I had a cold, I don't feel well," and so that, the sun, getting that sun, um, helps people to stay healthy. And then when the, when it's dark and the sun is gone, maybe it's because the sun is not up and that whatever's in this, the energy and- and the vitamins and the minerals from the sun, you don't get them in the dark, and so it's different. So, can you talk a little bit about the- the air in- at night?

[01:24:50] Speaker 2: Okay. Well, at night, the air is different in that, like you said, in the daytime, even- even if you have a, uh, issue, like if a child has an issue, it's gonna exacerbate at night. If a person, something's wrong with them, it's gonna exacerbate at night because the energy shifts. Now, if the window is open and you, um, feel you got a cold because the window was open, if you're in relatively good health, the window open isn't gonna cause you to get a cold. However, if your immune system is a little weak, if your... You might not realize it, but if your immune system is a little weak...... and the air comes in the window. You may get a sniffle, or you may get a cold. Um, so the night air does have a different contrast, but if you're in a good health, even if the window is open, you most likely won't get a cold or the flu. Okay? Um, it's just like if you go, um, to work. It's, it's the same concept.

[01:26:29] Speaker 2: If you go to work and someone has a cold, and you get it, you think you got the cold from the person, the germ is in the air if they're coughing or whatever, but if your immune system is pretty strong, you're not gonna catch it. You're not gonna get a cold because your coworker had a cold. However, if your immune system is a little weak, you can pick up that energy and that germ. So, it's the same thing with the night air.

[01:27:09] Speaker 3: So the night air-

[01:27:10] Speaker 2: And you're-

[01:27:10] Speaker 3: ... doesn't have the, the, the, the, the, the energy that comes from the sun, so the night air is different from the daytime.

[01:27:23] Speaker 2: But it's not different-

[01:27:25] Speaker 3: Oh, okay.

[01:27:26] Speaker 2: But it, it's, it's not different in the fact that it's bad. See, it's not different. No, the sun is not out. The sun is down. It's just, for instance, like, if you go out at night and it's, like, zero degrees in the winter, okay? And if you go out... Now, some people are different. Some people need a scarf. Some people don't. Some people need a real heavy coat. Some people don't. Okay? Now, but the zero-degree weather is not gonna cause you to catch a cold, even though you're out in the night. But if your, your immune system is a little compromised, you may be out in the cold, and you may catch a sniffle or a cold. It's not... The night air per se is not why you're getting sick, but the night air is a little different than if it was the sun was out. So if you're a little compromised, yeah, it's just like being in the rain. If it rains on you, and then you say, "I'm sick," it's not so much because of the rain.

[01:28:51] Speaker 2: It's because of where your immune system is at the time, and it rains on you, you might catch a cold.

[01:29:00] Speaker 3: Now, I'm glad you said that, 'cause somebody in the airport said something very interesting to me yesterday. I'm sitting trying to org- organize my bag. (laughs) I used to travel in an eight-passenger van. Now I'm traveling with one little backpack. And this lady comes up to me, and she says that she just got the coronavirus from the Skittles. She bought Skittles, and she said she ate a s- a few Skittles, and now she's sick. She said there was coronavirus in the Skittles.

[01:29:33] Speaker 2: Oh my goodness.

[01:29:35] Speaker 3: And I- (laughs)

[01:29:35] Speaker 2: So-

[01:29:36] Speaker 3: I says, "Oh, yeah?" And she's beginning talking to me, and she's telling me about it, and I'm like, "Oh. Well, I guess you won't be eating Skittles anymore." And, you know, so, of course, Skittles are a sugary candy, right? (laughs)

[01:29:49] Speaker 2: Right.

[01:29:50] Speaker 3: And I'm like, "Okay. Well, maybe that's a good thing if you're not gonna be eating Skittles anymore." But she insisted that the, there was, that, that, that they w- they manufactured the Skittles, that they had put the virus in the, in the Skittles. And I thought that was-

[01:30:04] Speaker 2: Wow.

[01:30:04] Speaker 3: ... very interesting.

[01:30:07] Speaker 2: Well, it's like, well, okay. Okay. Um, coronavirus and the Skittles. Okay. I'm not even gonna go there. But, um, yeah, strengthening the immune system-

[01:30:23] Speaker 3: Yes.

[01:30:23] Speaker 2: ... taking care of your health. Um-

[01:30:26] Speaker 3: Yes. Yeah, 'cause if you-

[01:30:28] Speaker 2: ... okay.

[01:30:28] Speaker 3: ... if you don't like somebody, you give them sugar, right? You give 'em-

[01:30:31] Speaker 2: (laughs)

[01:30:32] Speaker 3: (laughs) Yeah. So, so-

[01:30:35] Speaker 2: Oh my God.

[01:30:36] Speaker 3: So, you know, somebody said it as a joke, you know? If you, you know-

[01:30:41] Speaker 2: Yeah.

[01:30:41] Speaker 3: They get to stay away from the sugar and stay away from certain types of food. So, um (laughs) that, that was kind of interesting that she said that.

[01:30:51] Speaker 2: Right.

[01:30:52] Speaker 3: So, uh, yeah. (laughs)

[01:30:56] Speaker 2: Yeah, but the... Everything is, um, a learning experience, and, uh, every soul has their own individual lesson from the time they're conceived and who they're born to. All of that is al- is, is, is meant, um, and the... It's like when animals, certain animals have children, have their babies. I think with the mammals, the babies may stay longer, like, like, with the... I know, like, with the elephant, their babies stay with them for a while.... and they s- they move in herds, so they look out for each other. Um, but, it- it's- it's- it's like everything is, like, organized. So, who you were born to, the parents, what children you get, their energies. And after a certain period, when that child reaches a certain place, and I'm not even gonna put a age on it, when they feel to go off on their own, everybody's journey is meticulously for them. So that means whoever you were born to, and I've talked about this before, whoever you were born to is who you were supposed to be born to. So...

[01:33:03] Speaker 2: And every person has their story, so you don't want to waste any time on someone else's story. So, if it's your parent that you have bones to pick with, you need to move on from that, because you were born to that parent to learn whatever th- lesson you needed to learn from that parent. And however that parent became who they are is a story, a backstory. So, you have to get into your own story, because you can't judge someone for their story. I mean, how they became who they became. Like, in the restaurant, um, I have a friend that came in, he's a successful, uh, he owns a construction company, and he's had some health issues lately, lately. So, we were... I've talked to him before, but I never knew this one thing about him. So another energy joined us. I called another guy that comes to the restaurant. I said, "Do you mind if he joins us?" I just thought it would be a nice fit for the evening.

[01:34:26] Speaker 2: So he joined the table, and him coming to the table brought out conversation in my friend that I learned something about him that I never knew. So, what came out of that is over 30, 40 years ago, my friend ha- was an alcoholic, and he- he was an alcoholic, and he now opened a alcohol and drug... Uh, he has a construction company, but he opened a- some- a- a nonprofit alcohol and drug, uh, facility that houses a lot of addicts. And he went on to say that the reason he's in the predicament with his health at this particular time is because he started taking different things, supplements, this and that. They say, "This'll do this, this'll do that," that he really didn't even need to take because he felt fine. But he said once he get what he... once he gets onto something, what he found out is that he has an addictive personality.

[01:35:53] Speaker 2: So, just like at one time he was addicted to alcohol, years later, this other thing, he said he became addicted to doing certain things, and it caused him a problem with his health. And he went on to talking about having a trait of having an addictive personality, and I thought that was very interesting because there can be addictive personalities to a whole mirage of different things that you don't even know you have an addictive personality to, okay? Like, I know before I changed, I had an addiction to sugar, but at that particular time, I didn't think it was an addiction. I just thought I just liked eating these things. I don't have any addiction, until I tried to stop eating these things. And then I found out that it was a sugar addiction, because you should be able to stop eating something if you want to.

[01:37:01] Speaker 3: Beverly?

[01:37:02] Speaker 2: Y- yes?

[01:37:04] Speaker 3: I- I was wondering about addictions because (laughs) I... somebody... they never told me they had an addiction, but they talked classes that they were going to, and- and- and they didn't soften. They'll- they'll tell me a story from in the middle, so I- I never know what they're talking about or why they're saying it, a- and so I said, "Well, how do you know that- that you have an addiction?" And they said, "Because you can't stop." So then I had to start wondering, do I have an addiction to garage sales?

[01:37:31] Speaker 3: (laughs)

[01:37:32] Speaker 2: (laughs)

[01:37:34] Speaker 3: I love going to garage sales, and it's so much fun, and I- I give things to other people, and- and- and it's one of the funnest activities to get to do, and I love used things. Um, you can get anything 'cause if somebody doesn't want something. I never go to the store. I mean, I go to the Co-opportunity Market and buy fruits and vegetables and to the farmer's markets, but I don't go into stores and buy stuff.So I was wondering if I had an addiction to garage sales, and I felt like that I can't stop, because you know, I, I, I can't, and so, you know, w- w- so (laughs) , I was wondering if I had an addiction to garage sales. But what do, what... And, um, you know, I love used things.

[01:38:24] Speaker 3: (laughs)

[01:38:26] Speaker 2: Well, you would know because, when you have an addiction to something, if you had an addiction to garage saleing, then your house would be overrun with some of, multiple of the same kinds of things. Things that you don't really need but you bought it because it was cheap or you bought it because of whatever reason. And so it becomes an addiction when it over... starts overtaking your life. Okay? And you have to go garage saleing. Okay? Like people do it with shopping. They don't... They have... The house is... They... It's, it's just... It's things everywhere. They, they never wear it. They never can use it because they have an addiction and they just spend money and they can't stop shopping, you see? And it's different addictions, like I used to be addicted to smoking cigarettes.

[01:39:31] Speaker 3: You did?

[01:39:33] Speaker 2: Yeah. (laughs)

[01:39:36] Speaker 3: Do you know ******* this?

[01:39:36] Speaker 2: I know. I started smoking cigarettes when I was like probably 13.

[01:39:43] Speaker 3: I didn't know that.

[01:39:45] Speaker 2: And I was a chain smoker. I was a chain smoker-

[01:39:51] Speaker 3: Miss Anderson, Miss Anderson, you never told us out in radio land that you used to smoke cigarettes. (laughs)

[01:39:57] Speaker 2: Near Salems. I smoked cigarettes from age 12.

[01:40:02] Speaker 3: When they're third... When they're 12. (laughs)

[01:40:06] Speaker 2: I smoked cigarettes until I was, uh, 26 because when I wanted to have a child, I didn't wanna be smoking cigarettes. So that's how I stopped smoking cigarettes, because I wanted to get pregnant and I thought that wasn't the right thing to do to carry a child. So I stopped. But yeah, I was a chain smoker, like a little over a pack a day.

[01:40:37] Speaker 3: Miss Anderson, this is the first I'm hearing of this. (laughs)

[01:40:42] Speaker 2: Yeah. I, I smoked-

[01:40:45] Speaker 3: ... this before, my goodness.

[01:40:48] Speaker 2: I smoked cigarettes and my drink of choice was Seagram's 7 and 7-Up. Okay? So I drank and smoked-

[01:40:56] Speaker 3: What did you use to drink alcohol? Confess. What else do you want to confess, Beverly? We have five... We have five... We have about four minutes. What other confessions can you tell us about-

[01:41:06] Speaker 2: (laughs)

[01:41:06] Speaker 3: ... that you've never... What else have you never told us? Cigarettes, Seagrams-

[01:41:12] Speaker 2: Seagram's 7 and 7-Up, and beer.

[01:41:15] Speaker 3: And Salem.

[01:41:15] Speaker 2: That's... (laughs) And Salem. Right.

[01:41:20] Speaker 3: Which must be the least expensive cigarettes out there, because every 11 and 12-year-old starts with Salems. (laughs)

[01:41:27] Speaker 2: Okay, so maybe that's why, but yeah, so I, I know, um, about addictions, food addictions and, uh, and addictions like that because, uh, when I tried to stop cigarette smoking, it was very difficult. The reason that I was able to do it is because I had that intention of wanting to have a child. So that's what helped me in that area, um, to stop smoking cigarettes. So I understand addiction and, uh, it's not easy, um, food addictions and why are you eating and it's like you have to really, uh, get into... When you wanna stop doing something, you have to get to the root of why you're doing it, you see? And that's why a lot of people need help, why they take these drugs like Ozempic and things like that, because they're sick of themselves. They said, "I tried so hard to lose weight. I tried not eating. I tried and I can't do it." And so they X and they use those type of things as an aid, um, because they don't really know how to get to the bottom of their addiction. What... When did...

[01:43:06] Speaker 2: Why do I want to eat like I do? And, um, when I know that I'm injuring myself and I know that I'm hurting myself and, and then after I eat, I feel so bad about myself. And because...

[01:43:21] Speaker 3: Well, I can say one thing. I have an addiction to the food at All The Way Live.

[01:43:26] Speaker 2: Oh, wow.

[01:43:27] Speaker 3: Because it is so good. I don't even need to order. Just, just, just bring it out. I'm gonna eat it. Um, it is the best. And we have a few more minutes. Did you want to say any closing words? Thank our listeners. Thank BBS Radio. Did you wanna thank, uh, the beautiful, lovely people who love to... who have been kind enough to donate? Uh, please, please, any closing words?

[01:43:57] Speaker 2: I just wanna say that I'm so grateful to be able to spend this time with you, with BBS Radio listeners, and to share certain things. It's so beautiful that I've learned so many beautiful things about life that I didn't know existed and I really love sharing these things because my life has gotten so much brighter. And, um, I never knew these things existed. So thank you all. Thank you, Aloha. Thank you, BBS Radio. And thank all the listeners for their donations, helping us stay on the air. We appreciate you.

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