Dating While Disabled is a self-help book about dating with an illness. It is the first of it's kind, no one has ever written about dating with an illness/disability. DWD will be out June 21st and will provide dating advice on how and when to tell a prospective partner about your illness/disability. It also gives advice on how to tell your partner that you do not want children due to the illness. Since most people with an illness/disability have money issues I also give 100 cheap date ideas so they can feel like they do not have to forgo dating because of money. With my particular illness which is Ehlers Danlos Syndrome, I can dislocate every joint in my body, because of this sex because difficult, I give advice on new sex positions and implementing pillows into your routine to help figure out which positions and other things you can do to alleviate pain and maintain your sex life.
I discuss at length the persons need to love themselves and their diagnosis before attempting to date. I also go through why they should not be looking for a partner if they are only looking for one because they need financial or emotional support. Whomever their partner will be is not their nurse and treating them as such will cause friction in the relationship. I discuss personality types that are suited best for people with an illness/handicap/disability and any red flags they should look for during the "get to know you" phase.
Dating is hard enough, but adding an illness/handicap/disability makes it even harder, but not impossible. I am currently single and I know someone is out there for me and will look at my diagnosis as a strength versus a weakness. I put my heart and soul into this book and it will have 3 other books apart of the series. I will write about different stages in the relationship and how to continue on with each phase while disabled.
Christy Goldstein grew up in Columbus, Ohio. She is a certified life and relationship coach through World Coach Institute. She is also a sex coach/sexpert. She currently writes for Yourtango.com, and has been featured on other websites, such as Buzzfeed, Digital Romance Inc and Thought Catalog. She has been a speaker for various summits and spoke about how and when to approach your partner about your illness. Christy, was featured as a panelist for the Great Love Debate in May 2014. She is currently finishing her final edits for her first book, Dating While Disabled which will be published on June 21, 2016. She also co-wrote the international best seller Secrets to Drama Free Love, which was published March 11, 2016.
She was diagnosed with Ehlers Danlos Syndrome, or EDS for short, when she was 25 years old. Before knowing about having EDS she had many surgeries correcting things that her body does naturally which is to hyper-extend. Because she was diagnosed on a fluke, she was able to help other family members to be diagnosed, but most of the time EDS is not an easy illness to be diagnosed due to the lack in research. She has had 56 surgeries so far and is slated to have more in the future.
She is an advocate for research for people with EDS. Please feel free to contact her regarding Ehlers Danlos Syndrome if you suspect you may have EDS. Awareness for EDS is gaining momentum and hopefully will be more well known throughout the world in the coming years.