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It's Nicole Brandon and welcome to Care Compass, the aging parents survival guide
This is sort of a crazy emotional day that you're actually coming in on
As we had somebody assessing my parents and they came back suggesting that they be moved to a memory care facility
Which is certainly not what I'm running to do right now
And so it's perfect that we are actually creating this show
I was connected by somebody in the middle of this week
And they were sharing with me that they wanted to reach out that it was just that they find me
And that they had received a phone call that their mom has Alzheimer's and their mom had driven her car to another state
And was on the border of Mexico and the car fell in a ditch and they had to fish her out and she didn't remember driving
She didn't know how she got there and so he sort of stopped his like and stopped his career
And moved back to take care of her and to give her 24 hour care and all of the things that she needs
And when we're just
When we look at memory care, when we look at the different stages of memory
It's very emotional, it's very tumultuous because it follows this experience of different
experiences and as we are watching her parents go through these processes if that's where you are at or you yourself have dementia Alzheimer's
And you're listening for resources and for ways to shift and to make these changes
Sometimes it's subtle and sometimes it's slow sometimes it's just forgetting somebody's name or forgetting your keys or forgetting your wallet or forgetting
And then you went to the refrigerator or why you went to their room and then other times it progresses and it becomes more serious in the forgetting how to care for yourself or forgetting how to address yourself
And so it's just a little bit of
people are aggressive and sometimes people are frightened. And what do you do? And now I'm going
to go to the other side, which is the kids side, the me side, the side that has experienced all of
this, the side that doesn't mind being asked the same question 50 times and answering it,
because just the fact that I'm there and having conversation is important and feels important
and feels like generative to be able to do that. And so all of that is magnificent and
meaningful and makes room for something special and for something more difficult.
But there are now solutions. There are brain in. There are treatments that you can do to either
reverse the brain degeneration or to sharpen the brain. So you are not falling into the patterns.
Like I can look and say, okay, my mom and dad have had this disease. My mom and dad have been
through various stages of Alzheimer's. So how do I protect myself? How do I keep my brain
sharp? How do I? Nutritionly. How do I occupationally? How do I fitness wise? How do I help wise?
Take care of my brain. And so if you are interested, please reach out to me because we are going to
be bringing in the very best experts that are going to give you ideas and ways in which you
yourself can improve your very own brain, you yourself can reverse your anti-aging,
you yourself can have the plasticity of the brain and be able to renew and regenerate those cells.
So you are not falling into the same patterns as possibly your parents are or your parents are
stages in which now these new cognitive development techniques and technologies and areas of brain
research are so profound today that they may be able to help and reverse your parents' healing,
which is extraordinary. Also, I know there is a book that the brain brain by
promoter fabulous book, if you are looking nutritionally, you are looking to fix things. There are
also things you can burn like frankincense is always fantastic because frankincense is what
they use for the cues. Frankincense is what the wise men would burn and burning frankincense or
burning certain essences can absolutely sharpen the memory. There are foods that you can have
that sharpen your memory. There are books that you can buy. Dr. Paul Shealy, who I am a huge,
huge, huge, huge, huge fan of, is Dr. Paul Shealy. And Dr. Paul Shealy wrote a book
called The Genius Mind that we should be able to see so many football fields and our brain and
the power of what our brain is possibly capable of doing. And so read the genius mind. Read the
brain, you know, the brain brain. Find the brain cramps and the cognitive and if you need suggestions
in your area, reach out to me. The people that are doing just this, I want to say kickass research.
If you can say it on the radio book, kickass research and getting results from stroke,
from Parkinson's, from Alzheimer's, from all sorts of whether it's ADHD, whether it's something
that people are dealing with, if whatever the cognitive delay or the cognitive
ignition, whatever that is that is speeding up the brain, if you can work with somebody that knows
how to do that. Even somebody was sharing the other day that they were working with like a
cognitive brain person and that their balance was better, that it automatically somehow they
were always afraid of heights. They're not afraid of heights anymore. They always, you know, felt
really woozy when they were climbing mountains or hiking and now they felt like a giselle. They
felt very grounded just because the brain is being activated in the different way. So I have been
going through this incredible journey, this heartfelt journey with a billion
cajillion tears of watching my parents go through the Alzheimer's journey, each individually separate
stages, separate results, separate ways in which they express this, but at the same time, obvious
and at the same time, something they're going through that I have to contend with as a child
and people around them are contending within themselves, are navigating their own life at this
stage of their life. And then how can I, I as the child, similar to a puppy to scratch me to,
how can I as a child prevent this for myself? Now that I see this, this isn't about me putting a
million dollars in the bank. So I have care. This is about how do I keep my brain healthy? So my
brain is not going to go through these stages. How do I keep my brain healthy? So I now can reverse
any of the damage that's been done or any of the slowness. I know that just in the past four years
going through the journey that I have gone through with my parents, I can tell you I find myself. I'm
like, sometimes what was that? Like, my brain is not as sharp to me as it was four years ago. And when
I talk to the people that are doing in the brain camps, they said, Nicole, what you have been through
is a trauma. It's a trauma. It's a life trauma. It's like being in an explosion. And your body and
your brain responds to that. So let's go back. Let's go back to when everything was common. Let's go
back when everything was great and everything was peaceful. Let's reset your brain at these levels.
And they're able to do that. It's absolutely amazing. And all of a sudden,
you know, your brain is marching on. Dr. Paul Shelly had said to me one day, we were talking about
numbers, Matt, and I was saying how that I'm terrible with numbers. I'm, you know,
literature, no problem. I can tell you a verse that I read when I was in second grade. I could
tell you a passage that I read when I was 23. I have a photographic memory for words and they stick
with me and I will remember those words forever. It's funny. So I just quoting how that drawn me
the other day. They were writing Hamlet and I thought, why is it just to be able to have
to know your family and to have those words and to be able to create these sonnets and write them
and recite them. But I was saying that as far as numbers, because I've never considered myself
much of the mathematician that I'm terrible with numbers. And he said, no, you're not.
And I called, no, you're not. And I said, yes, I am. And he said, do you want me to prove to you
that you're not terrible with numbers? I said, sure, absolutely prove it to me. And he said,
what is a 17 letter word for XYZ? What is a 23 letter word for whatever? What is a 20,
70 started doing press for puzzles with me. And I had no problem doing cross-repuscles. So he said,
see numbers are not your problem. You might not like adding, you might not like the mat. He said,
but numbers, you're telling yourself something that's not true. You don't have a problem with
numbers. And so what to tell ourselves that are in a non-truth as we are going through these stages
and journeys with their parents. Dr. Paul Schilly also wrote a book called Photo Reading.
Photo reading, you're actually able to take a book and know it's inside or look inside a book
and memorize passages. You can learn other languages. And it's amazing. They talk about the
portal of your brain that is open, that allows you to receive that information. If you think about
when kids used to sit in corners and they would put dunce caps on the kids and the dunce cap would
be this heavy-mated thing in the back of your head. And that would open that quartet. So you
think about a rabbi or a monk and where that information actually comes in. And so are there
ways to help your parents with memory? Yes. Absolutely there are and are there ways for you?
Is there food? Is there nutrition? One of my all-time, all-time, all-time, all-time heroes,
is Don Tomin. And if you don't know Don Tomin's work, fine Don Tomin's work. Don Tomin is phenomenal.
I consider Don Tomin like the Indiana Jones of healthcare. He's just absolutely amazing. And he
wears this big cowboy hat and he has this pearl mustache and he just is this personality. And
inside this mega personality is brilliance and genius of the universe. His work is so fascinating
and so absolutely life altering, life changing, profound, perfect. It's when you read it, you feel
it as true. You feel it as knowingness. You feel it as righteousness. You feel it as all these
things they're meant to be. And Don has an FDA like a pharmaceutical. They can farm if they
aren't and they can farm a suitor directory. And you can look up anything. You can say you can
look up heart attack and put in a heart attack and he'll tell you the foods or he'll tell you the
properties or he'll tell you what you should be doing for that. Or he'll look you can look up
you know me and and percite is. If anything you're looking up, he will find and explain to you the
healing of the body and the correlation of the body and the food or the nutrition or the value.
And he can also tell you if you just were to put an apricot, like all of the wonderful things
that an apricot would be used for so close both ways. It goes for whatever the chronic illnesses
and if you ever and I highly recommend that you find his videos on YouTube or in stations or wherever
he is and do Don Tomin cancer. Don Tomin water. Don Tomin pharmaceutical and see what he says
about our water. See what he says about our medication. See what he says about cancer and
disease that we have right now and how it can be cured and how it is caused and and how we can
literally change our lives and heal our very own bodies that are very analyzed with the right
information with the right nutrition and being connected to our health. So when we're looking at
these stages, I had a very difficult very very difficult conversation with somebody yesterday
and her husband is very young. And I just called to see how he was doing and she said
he will never be well again. And that statement was like a dagger to my heart
and maybe shouldn't have been it's not my husband but certainly someone I love so much
and the idea that he would never be well again. That's what it felt like in the moment. It felt like
somebody just stuck a dagger in my heart because I can't imagine ever thinking and
feeling that hopeless that that's your truth. And when I was talking to her further, she said
we had a couple of gift days and she said, you know, and so I'm dying and people rally back. And
yes, you know, you do hear that that when when people are transitioning, a lot of times they
rally and they talk to you or they want to quarantine sandwich or they want to get up and
dancing and you have these beautiful moments of clarity and days of clarity. And
that's very common and it's very natural in many instances. But I didn't want to believe or to
think and use at the stage that he was having these gift days. I was hoping and wishing and
wanting that every day is a gift. And so I would love to know how you feel about that.
When you have a good day with your parent or your spouse or someone that you love and they are
in the thick or in the sea of an illness, do you think that this is a gift day or do you think,
oh, maybe they're getting better or this is healing or how wonderful and if it is a gift day,
how do you, there is in the movie Oliver, Oliver is saying this song, who will buy? I never
forgot that song. It's a beautiful song and it will buy this wonderful feeling. You know,
I'm so high. I swear I could fly. You know, my, I don't want to lose it. There must be someone
who will buy like, if I could keep it as a treasure to last my whole life long, right? And how do you
take a gift day and tie it in a bow? How do you take a gift day and memorize it, memorize their
face, memorize the moment, memorize the expression, memorize the laughter. How do you
have you cherish, how you cherish gift days and is at what point do you say this is a gift day
or what point do you just say, oh, today's a really good day or we're feeling better today.
And I know that when I was talking to the gentleman, I called me, I got his mom, the one that I was
sharing that, found herself and it did show him some Mexican, literally didn't know how she got there.
When I was talking to him, he was saying how he does not want to, he doesn't want to move
the house. You know, he's afraid to go to dinner. He's afraid to go to the gym to work out. He's
afraid to go too far in case she needs him. And I know that I went through those very same stages
in my own life and I felt like I couldn't travel anymore. I couldn't be on my speaking tour. I didn't
be performing that I needed to be there for him, for them, with them. And it had a huge difference,
huge, huge difference in living and taking care of myself and feeling like I needed to be close
because what if I went to a restroom and they fell and I was responsible and they never got
out. Or what if I went away for the weekend and they passed away and I wasn't there to say good
night or what if. And I lived with those what ifs. And so how do we as a community, as individuals,
be able to give ourselves lives, be able to the same as it when you have a newborn. And you are
afraid to have a babysitter. You don't even want to go out and have a date with your spouse because
you don't want to leave the baby because what if something but if something happened to the
babies while you were at dinner or you were at the movie, you were at the show. And how do you start
to have a life again? And I know for me, I put my life on pause for the past few years and I'm now
just coming back and how I'm getting a life again as I'm sharing things with you and I'm
doing shows and I'm performing and I'm speaking again. And that does not mean that that I were
that I am here with you. I am not like wearing that they're calling me at this particular time
or that they're going to need me or that that something isn't necessarily it doesn't take away
the churning, but I'm giving myself space to be able to have a life right now, to be able to
fill my cup and to be able to help others in my process of doing this. And so what are ways that
you are doing this for you or what are ways that you can recommend to other people that are listening
to this podcast that are part of our audience that are part of our care compass family. What
are the tools and techniques that you use to be able to go to a movie or go to the gym or watch
a kid soccer game, take a dog, you know, walk with your dog, go to the park, have sex, whatever that
is. What are the things that you are able to do that you don't feel like you have to constantly
either with your parents or either with your spouse that is ill or constantly be looking at the phone
or looking at the baby monitor or looking at the brain camera and what are those things that you need
to provide and to do that can help others get through this stage. I would really love your answers. And
as of starting next week, we're going to be having guests all the way through for the next couple
months. So this is probably the last time I'm going to get to just be talking to you as me. And
I can't lie, it's, you know, it's spinnager, it's spinnager. But there's always that, and but does not
negate what you said for a book, hopefully, and this instance adds to it, that I can say it's been a
very difficult journey, a really difficult journey that I wouldn't wish on anyone but yet I talked
to so many people and I make a single host and a couple thousand people right back to me and say,
oh my gosh, this is my situation too. This is my scenario too. I was caregiving my parents,
so all my mommy is stroke. Oh, my parents, I park and says, oh, they're in a wheelchair now.
Oh, they're not talking. Oh, they phone broke their head. Oh, they phone broke their head. Oh,
this is what's going on. Oh, they had to put every day. Instance is what every somebody is showing
through. Everybody's story is important. Everybody's story isn't meaningful. Everybody's story has
credence. Everybody's story is a blessing and whatever your story is, whatever point of the
story you were in, whatever part of the story you are on, I want you to know I am with you. I am
supporting you. And so we have this incredible item of guests that are coming in and speaking with us
and I'm so thrilled and so excited because each and every piece and each and every part
is incredibly important. And then what I've decided to do is I am going to combine
my skill set for you. I the other I was just thinking about this for quite some time and the
other night, it's like I just don't have a choice anymore. I have to do this for you. I just I have
to. So yes, I am going to continue this podcast for you on a weekly basis and bringing you
the experts in every field, whether that's Medicare, whether that's insurance, whether that's long-term
insurance, whether that's how to prove your house, whether that's someone for Parkinson's or stroke
or cancer or someone dealing with dementia, whether that's home care, whether that's hospitals,
whether that's rehab, whether it's memory care, whether it's food and nutrition and on and on and on
and you know the right beds and the right cars and the right transportation, the right services,
everything that you can imagine that you would have a question about. I will make sure that I
cover for you and from safety, from health, from wellness, from family, from nurturing,
to laughter and joy and how to navigate the holidays and all of it, all of it we will cover
for you and we have no stone unturned so this show will be the source and the resource for every
question that you have and we will provide every answer and if I don't personally have the answer,
I guarantee you and promise you I will find a person to answer your question, I guarantee you
so whatever that question is right to Nicole at NicoleBrandonWorldwide.com or right to the
station here let them know we will do a show for you and make sure your question is answered
hands down that is my promise to you but what I also decided to do is for every caregiver that
we have on or every subject that we have on, I'm going to go ahead and create an ego resource
for you so that way you might be listening to the show on Medicare, you might be listening to the
show on whatever that is, how to safety proof your house or the right mobility or the right
filters or walkers or nutrition for Parkinson's or what is the right shampoo for someone that has
a stroke or home care or clothing and accessible clothing, whatever that is and I'm going to be
offering and creating you an ebook off of each subject so we are not only the source but we are
the resource so you can download it, you can go through it, you can find value not only in the
podcast but you can read, you can post things on the wall, you can make yourself checklist,
you can have resources of who to contact, how to contact, what are the hours, what are the questions,
it should be an easy seamless guide for you, for you to be able to go through each and every one
of these scenarios and situations. I know when my mom got a catheter and a foliarigimine,
she needed to close that had the snaps and that had the velcro's, there are people with arthritis
that need clothes that have snaps or shoes that have the velcro. A couple months later,
they removed the catheter and rolling that out, she can wear regular clothes but what are
clothes that are accessible, what are clothes that breathe, what are clothes that are easy for rehab,
what are clothes that the material doesn't slip when she sits down or things that are easy for
caregivers to remove her, to change her or be able to help her to the restroom or whatever that is.
So what are the changes and what are the stages and then what do you do with the clothes that my
mom had this beautiful wardrobe with designer clothes and do you donate those clothes and
get it right off for your taxes or do you find a wife battery shelter where there are women that
run that have nothing and you would give those clothes to the women or to your local church
or do you help college students that need clothes for interviews or to vets or do you look at a
country that's being destroyed and people are running and people have nothing and people have
lost their homes and can you work with an agency to get your clothes over to that country or whatever
that you have that you're not using now, your pots, your pans that they're not cooking anymore,
what are you doing with your pots and pans you might have like the most expensive calathon pans
or whatever they are and these iron still pans and all of a sudden your mom is in a facility
or dies in the facility where they're no longer cooking for themselves and what are you going to
give with the pots and pans and what is the very best thing to do and how do you know when to be
able to donate and how do you know when to be able to sell things and how do you know who needs
you know this the very best I know at one point I was working as a model for fitness companies
and fitness companies would send me you know sweatshirts sneakers clothes whatever I probably
had you know 100 sweatshirts at one point and at that time I was on the cover of a lot of fitness
magazines and there are certain brands of course that you know I still love and promote and I even
now love being a brand model for products because I love getting a product and I love being able
to try it and I love being able to promote it it's like are they anything I love more than doing
that is to being able to share what I believe in whether that's a person like Dr. Paul Sheerly who
wrote the book The Genius Mine or who wrote voter reading or you know Dr. Pearl Mutter you know
brain brain or talking about brain activity and cognitive function development and how you go
and learn about that if there is somebody that I believe in I will shout from the highest mountain
for them and I love doing that for brands so if you have something you want us to try you know
like I'm a huge huge huge huge huge advocate for the RAS phone and the RAS phone if you do not know
RAS and if you're with RAS contact me I would love to work with you but um the RAS phone is a picture
phone so you have there's a picture of me a picture of my brother a picture of my dad whatever my
mom's friends so if my mom wants to talk to me she just pushes the picture of me and it calls me
or when I call her right away it'll say daughter and Nicole and there's my picture and she doesn't
even have to do anything she could just start to talk she doesn't even have to hit any buttons
it automatically does that she can't get spam calls the only people that can call it people
that you put in the phone so it's a very special phone it works fantastically fantastically
and then caregivers can set sleep settings all sorts of things they have it a desktop phone you
know pre- or else they also have the RAS cell phone picture phones they're amazing and so there if I
love a brand I will absolutely promote that brand but at one time I had like all these random
companies this is when I was young and I was starting out the fitness industry today
and so who needed those clothes at that time you know I looked around and right at that time we had
um a lot of runways and we did not have the services that we have today for long ways
and so I would take like all my sweatshirts and all my sneakers and we have our proteins that
you know wearing these run away shelters or they desperately needed shampoo um I have a
fended mind and door heads hored over she's amazing and when she travels she always gets
little shampoo bottles from the hotels and always gives them to those people and they can't afford
shampoo they can't afford soap and I always honor her so much for doing that and I love that about it
so as your parents are going through these different stages all of a sudden your mom or your dad like
my dad was vice president of a major corporation and there are all these
your suits a lot of very very very very fine suits and excuse me is this neat
being him it's always good right being in Arizona this time my dad are all these amazing suits and
ties fancy shoes and my mom had these very designer suits and dresses and gowns and where did they go
where did they go now that they're in an assisted-written facility where did they go
when they were where did they go when they're in a hospital whenever we have facility
to make those decisions to make those choices to be able to help others in the process as
you're helping your parents is also fulfilling and so I would recommend don't get into your
cancer postulate don't believe me chill all of a sudden the funeral is over and you're going through
the closets and it's over well and you're saying what do I do with all of this as you're seeing
the stages oh my dad's retired he's no longer wearing the suits hey dad what would you think about
if we gave us to the college kids that are going on interviews or what would you think if we gave
us to the vets that are coming back or what would you think you know if we gave these to the church
or what would you think dad what would you like to do dad with your suits are you going to wear
should we keep one in case you want to go to like some spiffy party or you go to a wedding
or in case your daughter gets married you want to keep your tuxedo whatever that is
you know my dad's still hoping I'm going to get married he's still having him onto his tuxedo and
we have you know two suits for him that are like what he wants to go somewhere he looks he like
the cats me out but maybe he had 40 suits that he's not bearing and probably never been a rare
again sweaters cashmere sweaters whatever it is that he had ski wear and my parents aren't going
skiing anymore things like that you know boating stuff if you're boating stuff or if your parents
play to sport tennis or they golfed it they're no longer doing that what are you doing with the
golf clubs what are you doing with the golf club and what are you doing with the tennis club and
then the tennis rack it's in the tennis books and and so while they aren't here you might want
to ask in our participation hey would you like to donate this to a tennis camp you know you've
got a couple rackets here or you've got a bag what we like to do or you've got some tennis clothes
you know there are some people that you know gosh you know there's some students that will love to
play you know but they could never afford tennis clothes do you want to give them to the students
or do you want to give them to a local organization or to your son of god or to your church or wherever
that is that you promote or like I said they run away shelters are great and the way
battery shelters they leave and they leave with their kids they have nothing whatever you have
if that's a pot if that's a pan if that's a dress if it's a blanket they'll always appreciate
you people always appreciate it when you share if you have and so I would recommend not wait I would
recommend while your parents are still here if they are not using items to be able to really
think about that to think about the Christmas ornaments if you're no longer doing the Christmas
tree the manure if you're no longer celebrating Hanukkah that Passover plates whatever that is
the Easter egg you know if you're doing Easter egg hunts for kids when all of a sudden your
parents aren't so with you know long-ups doing Easter egg hunts you're going to do the Easter
of comes because there's someone in your neighbor more than his kids if you think they would love to
do that I know my parents have a beach house and I was going through some of their storage bins in
the beach house and their buckets and shovels and toys for the beach for when the kids were small
the kids now are in their 20s but yet all of their little beach toys look like they were just
bought yesterday and they've just been sitting in my parents storage and so some kid with my
back and children would love those toys and so if you need suggestions or you need help in how
to do that and being able to do that but don't wait and it'll make you feel better instead of just
waiting for them to get sick or getting scared or being worried oh my gosh what happens if something
happens to them now will I go through this house or their storages or all of their things
slowly start to face where they're out and engage with them what would you what would you like to
do against what would you like to do with these cookbooks oh my gosh my mom had if I say probably
close to 100 if not more cookbooks and my mom was not a big cook that's one of the funniest things
I mean my mom immediately Peter Butter and Jelly and sweet macaroni and cheese and she made
summons but she but boy she had cookbooks she had cookbooks like she was like some you know
Michelin chef and as I go through and I think oh my I mean cookbooks for everything cookbooks
for the holiday cookbooks for crepes cookbooks for cupcakes cookbooks for breakfast cookbooks for
cheeseburgers cookbooks for whatever it was for lamb for steak for scissors for you
different holidays different countries different cultures how to make whatever and how to use
things whether it's a griddle or a fondue pod or it and I had to laugh because who could use
like 100 cookbooks and not only you could use them but you have to look and say okay
who has barbecues that would want to barbecue cookbook who has kids that they would want Halloween
treat cookbook who has whatever that is that you're looking at and as you are gifting this and
your parents get to get to get your you get to have your parents give it to them are you parents
can write something in it or you can say my parents really want you to have this in the little
kid curator note thank you for allowing cupcake book or whatever that is that you're doing but
you're you're positive energy instead of staying in the sadness instead of staying in
the training field instead of staying in this area or leaning then it causes pain
and causes sex and causes any kind of
I don't want to say any kind of drama trauma because it's going to happen any more than you
were already experiencing and so again I just want to make sure that you know that what every
year journey is from this time forward we're going to have guests every week and I thank you so much
for all the emails that you've been sending me I thank you so much for the interactions that's
how actually I met this wonderful person the other day you know I'm going to be dear friends with now
who is helping to take care of his mom and I've been through this he said Nicole I spent three
and a half hours in search of security the other day and I laughed and I said Monday I spent over
three hours in social security I'm doing this too I am right alongside you this is not like me
okay everyone this is how you do this no I did it I went through the window with it
I have had my tears and my pain and my bumps and my bruises and my scars and I have literally
you know been hung out to drive with this and I have thought I could not get through another day
and I've gotten through every day and I'll never forget I was in the emergency room with my dad
and all of a sudden the ambulance arrives and they get a phone call your mom's taken to the
hospital and they wheel my mom asked me in the emergency room when I'm in a room with my dad
both my parents and emergency at the same night both admitted to separate floors and me having to
run between different floors I don't wish that I'm anyone but if you have been there if you have
had the emergency room experience if you have had the ambulance ride experience if you have had
all of a sudden that with a paramedic then they stop breathing and the paramedic is bringing
them back to life whatever your experience is if I haven't gone through it we know people that have
or people that can help you go through this your experience is your experience I would never
take it away from you but what I want to do more than anything in the world is to help you not
have to have another sleepless night or cry to one more tear or have one more frustration or be
on the hold for three hours and have so in hang up and start again how do you what is the right
number to reach that person so you don't have to be on hold for three hours when do you call
what are the secret numbers what are the questions that you ask so things can just get
jump to hang hiding you have support from organizations that you didn't even know that
they're grants and research and people that can help you with you know today I was talking to
somebody and they said oh you know did they move because there's a you know help if your parents
had to move from their house into a facility do they use a moving vehicle if like really I didn't
even know that was possible that you could be reimbursed for the move so there are resources
there are answers and we are going to answer each and have a question and I am going to create an
ebook for you and the best way that I can help you is if you come to me write to me Nicole at
nicolebrandingworldwide.com or reach out to the station and let us know your journey say hi my name
is and my mom has this or my dad has this or I myself or my spouse or I've been the one you know
I have seven brothers and sisters yet I'm the only one doing anything or I'm being cut off at the
knees from helping and this is what's going on and I need to be able to help my parents and who are
the advocates and who can help me and or my parents are being abused at a facility and I need I need
guidance and need to get another there I need help whatever it is I promise you we will help you we
can help you and we will bring the right resource as in the right people right to your door so that
is what the show is for the care compass the agent parents survival guide to let you know that you
are not allowed so I always tell stories about my parents and last week I was telling a story
about my mom when I was told there was no Santa Claus right and I was talking about when I was
told that I should tell them what's happening because I would love to more so that's a story
and now today I'm going to tell you a story about my dad so yesterday I had the honor and the
privilege of going to the Emery riddle Planetarium and all of its I'm here in Arizona in Prescott
Arizona today and the planetarium if you have an opportunity to go today and we riddle
Planetarium go the show is just beautiful and it's so well done I was cheering in my heart and
afterwards I was just standing and sharing it is just beyond fantastic phenomenal so so so well done
and you know or his the one that creates the shows there I mean he just like he's a genius he's a
genius and I was there's somebody that said to me do you like penetariums and I said that's really
ironic that you asked that because I grew up going to my turnip I did
my favorite planetarium was in Vienna it had a spectacular spectacular experience in Vienna but
yesterday I really really loved being in every you know like a term I think everyone should go there
but my dad has two different color eyes he has a blue eye and he has a brown eye and when he was
a child he had exploratory surgery so her his belly button is there's tiny little indent
first day with my new time indentation so it looks like he has kind of two belly buttons
and ever since I was a little broke my dad would tell me that he was from Mars he did
every night before he put me to bed he would tell me he was from Mars and he would tell me that
Martian daddies have two different color eyes and two belly buttons and invisible antennas
and that's how you could tell a Martian day and he would tell me that I was special and gifted
and it was his mission on this planet to guide me to greatness that that's why he was here
and I was not told anything different and I was a bit great and I had to do a family tree as the
class project we all thought how to make a family tree and I put my mom was from Philadelphia and
my dad was from Mars because that was the only thing I was ever told and the teacher called me
up in front of the room trying to you know make a full 11 year something and I explained to the
class knowing deep that my mom was from Philadelphia but my dad was from Mars and the way that you
tell Martian daddies from humanoid daddies is Martian daddies have two different color eyes
and two belly buttons and invisible antennas and that I indeed was special and gifted and it was
his mission on earth to guide me to greatness that's why he was here and the teacher sent me to the
principal and the principal sent me to a school psychologist and a school psychologist called
my parents and my dad said yeah we know her that so imagine being 10 years old and fifth grade in the
only thing you've ever been told is that your dad is from Mars and the way you tell Martian
daddies from humanoid daddies is Martian daddies have two different color eyes which he did
two belly buttons which look like he did and invisible antennas and that I was special and gifted and
he was here on this planet to guide me to greatness that's all I know now along with this story of
my dad being from Mars we would have a birthday cakes for him that had Martians on it and every
year for his birthday and every year for his father's day we would go to the planetarium because
my dad would say that he wanted to visit his family in Mars and celebrate his birthday or father's
day with his his Martian family and so we always went to the planetarium so he can visit his family
right a part of our family and he always told me I was a Martian star um one time I met John
Gray who wrote the book Metaphor Mars, Romanar from Venus and the very first day I met him the first
thing I said is oh I've got a Martian daddy story for you then right but imagine being 10 years old
and it's all you know so yesterday as I'm sitting in the planetarium now I'm an adult now I've had
this incredible life journey with my daddy now I'm looking at the star system and I think
how lucky am I to have had this experience this unique experience to have grown up at a planetarium
to have grown up believing I have relatives and family and outer space in another world which
has expanded me to be able to be on some global level and reach out to you and knowing that my
family is out there and so big and you are part of it and you believe that I was special in
gifted but to believe that my father's mission on this planet was to guide me to greatness
that he was here to grow me and to share me with the world right so I feel incredibly blessed so
yesterday was an incredible blessing and I'm glad that I got to share my Martian daddy story
with you and if you're the special story about your father and something that you did that was
original like I would go into the planetarium or having green Martians on his birthday cake or
just knowing that I have family and a world that is extended past your original house and you too
be with you and feel the closest to you and feel the love to you and feel like you are part of me
because I do feel that way and to share with you that you are not alone that I am your family
and that I'm right here beside you and we are doing this journey together a month and so I
just want to say I am proud of you you were courageous you were brave you were bold you can do this
I have a post-it note on my bathroom here that was from a friend of mine and she's from Italy but
right now she was in Spain but she said Nicole you need to put a post-it note out that says piece
of cake that's what you I have a post-it note and says piece of cake and certainly there are days
and moments that it does not feel that way but if I say it to myself piece of cake piece of cake
great since she was on my dad's day a since by the inch it's hard by the art but if we do it together
piece of cake and we love one another and we know that you are not alone the sandals I sat there
in the planetary mirror not alone and right here beside you loving you supporting you and
you've got this and I am happy to share and to help you and just know that you are loved
and I look forward to seeing you next week but reach out anytime and hit pretty well.
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