What's the big deal about happiness?
Research says that more than half of our sense of happiness is determined by genetics, according to Dr. David Lykken, author of Happiness: It’s Nature and Nurture. However, he and others have determined that we can still pursue happiness. After all, there is still almost half of the happiness equation that is still left up to us.
During the past few months, I have observed people while driving to and from work and so many have less than pleasant looks on their faces. Obviously, this is no scientific approach but I can remember my mom saying often while I was growing up that so many people "live quiet lives of desperation." I think she was one of them. I vowed when she passed away that this would not be my life and I would do everything I could to have a fulfilling, fun and happy life.
It has taken some time to get to this place and I happily can say: I AM HERE! Sure things come up, yet I find I bounce back much quicker than ever because it’s my true desire to get back to that place of feeling my best. Once you find it, you don’t want to lose it. My passion is to model happiness as well use my skills and knowledge to help others who are gravitating toward the good life, or just moving to a better place then where they are.
So what do people do to help them feel their best? Everything from getting a pet, to keeping a journal, to down-sizing, to giving to others. According to Researcher Stephen Post,"helping a neighbor, donating goods, volunteering, helping a friend, forgiving all result in a 'Helper’s High' which translates into better health benefits." Researcher Elizabeth Dunn also found that "those who spend money on others reported much greater happiness than those who spend it on themselves."
As I continue to grow, I sweat less of the small stuff and appreciate more of the amazing, cool people, places and things that bring me joy. I allow myself to relax more and don't feel guilty about it. My energy level is up as I remember to give gratitude throughout my day to whatever I notice is good, and when life is getting on my nerves.
My personal passion meant taking my new found knowledge to the next level so I could put resources and information into the world that served others. And I'm so glad I did. After all, living you best life is about finding purpose and meaning. And here I am, doing what I love..
Lori Peters is the creator of the Happiness Hangout® ,the place to grow and support you and your loving partnerships through books, blog, articles, videos, presentations, classes and her radio show. She has also written her first book, Getting Married at Last- My Journey from Hopelessness to Happiness.
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