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welcome to the bring intimacy back show where in Tennessee is real on this shall we aim to help you increase the internet connections with your significant other your family your business ID not working Community your higher power we give you the secret power to intimacy to create a life you love or love the life you create what today we have a very special guest at a very special topic so we're going to talk about a topic today is balancing love and law and we have some wonderful Doris divorce lawyers he's going to die. How to keep the spot but they're not only going a guy that's in the sense that if you know of the giving us information it but they're also living it okay if they're living how to live and work together and even Council together and when I mean about that they're actually live in it it's not because I know right now that many of us are stuck at home and are

maybe kind of working at working from home dealing with the children and stuff for this front of virus and we're like oh my gosh how can we balance it out and still what's really great it's like now I have to have been doing it prior to the virus but also still doing it now so I would like to welcome Ashley and Christopher Bruce how are you guys doing doing great. Going to be a part of this thank you for having us on yes thank you so much for being at the show and but I just wanted to let you guys know that this couple here is really really special and unique and I've actually seen them in working how they connect and so I really wanted to bring this topic up and but the talk about it because many of us are struggling right now in this sense of trying to balance it all so but the first thing that I kind of want to know is how did this journey of the year

you even need us lawyers and whatever the case may be

in the day well I met Ashley at a Florida become a lawyer you have to take a licensure by Tessa called the bar exam and there's a beautiful a girl in front of me and she turned around and gave me your name but a couple days later or not her phone number and

you know a little back-and-forth maybe a first date and then a second first date and a couple of kids in eight years married later around fun road but she did not give me your number start and you notice a beautiful woman in front of you by how I did night I wasn't expecting it on a vacation on my dog right here we go cuz I have a class I could finally got out of Law School away from way from the lawyers in our lawyers to be and where I here we go again and I never expected it to the love of my life sitting right in front of me sometimes just

turn around and say hello in Russian

where's it come from on so many different levels I think at first you obviously wasn't there with you first date one space out a couple months after the other and then you know just you just connected on some interests and that's just how it started it and it's thrown from their interests that we both enjoyed together now to do was a big a big probably part of it looking back I we each little do we know at the time maybe but no each like the medians Ashley love to play tennis or did I like a lot of our early dates likely we did things that we both enjoyed and you know we came together as a couple but we would do things we both enjoyed together and I mean still now we have to be both

the most days like being lawyers get to do that have hobbies with kids just stop trying to have common interests I think part of it at connection and the show is about intimacy and intimate connections what does that mean to you guys

oh that's a good one

comes to mind for me is I I think the one of the biggest things that we do is we just try to talk to each other about their day what's going on in their life and actually try to listen and actually care about what the other person is saying and I think I guess that creates a sense of her connected to each other caring about each other that may be true to a lot of other parts of our lives he says something that's bothering him or he had a really hard incident in a day as well as bring intimacy out in our connection was talking to each other and understanding color

weather

really a nice thing that I didn't actually do even when the kids are in bed, since both the lawyers he can act on that level I guess

yeah and I think that's made our relationship I guess maybe easier I don't think you have to do the same thing as your your spouse but it's it's certainly helped both of us appreciate each other's day a little bit more I mean now we work together but it wasn't always that way and she could have a tough day and I kind of understood what each other list was going through easier relate to each other I'll pick me up you have to do the same thing to be late to the other person but I quite helpful I had to work on the weekends or we have a very pressing hearing coming up with eyes and understand what it's like to be in that situation instead of State why are you working all weekend it's more like you know what can I do to help comfort you during this difficult

it's also did the passion of lies at the same for both of you guys how did you guys get into law each of you

different path is my path was always pretty direct my mom divorce attorney divorce 30 years here in South Florida so just kind of followed her and her and stealing the passions in law and in helping people and be at UCF and then straight washer and Dad they they both encouraged me to go to law school they thought that I should go into something that you know would be a stable platform they both were my mom says CPA and she respond like them Ashley's mom kind of ventured into the profession at a time to where there weren't any women doing it and she had to work very hard to get where she was at my dad's

law enforcement you have to work very hard and I think they wanted to see my sister and I do something to where they didn't have to we didn't have to work two shifts of a full-time job have a comfortable family a kind of told me to do it but I I was supposed to be a tax lawyer and then I really like business transactions and I started at some super huge Law Firm the last time we are going into recession that was very short-lived and divorce lawyer around like a minnow in town give me the opportunity and I never thought I would be doing this to make a career out of it but after I was somebody who is very good at what they did to learn how to do it on my really enjoyed it so why

Why move on from that so it's just fun and enjoy it

what we do its course lawyers is really really deal with the first and then you see them hopefully not all the time but when we try to get our desired result in a place I'm often times you a place where they're happy and you know it more respectable of themselves and easier and easier capable of smiling each day and it's really do a life transition, and it really is motivating you see that work to be part of it was so impressed by you guys as lawyers and even as you're just talking about you like to help families out of relationships you also have this site called I'm stay married Florida with just kind of like make some people may think it's like the opposite kind of what of what you do yeah what inspired you to create a website on the hole in our system called stay married for

the biggest part of it was that we wanted to give people a chance to have some resources to hopefully avoid divorce you know I I was doing a divorce and family law few years before I'm Ashley and I joined together and you just see is the divorce happens it really affects touches the family getting divorced but lie on you know the family the kids in the future not always think they can't be around a bowl but it it really affects more than just one relationship it affects almost the whole ecosystem people around it so wanted to try to create a platform to where people could learn more about maybe stepping back in the conflict in the relationship and trying to fix what was and still hasn't

years our children are in a cute event in their lives might you know about the spark but it doesn't you know me and they they shouldn't try to read ignited and horses there there are people who need it but in my view many people don't

yeah yes it's sometimes you guys are seeing spots and couples that are trying to get divorce and you're providing a resource has been doing that

what is I think the website is 2012 probably yeah so I guess it's I'll be seven eight years and I know I think we both realized early on that it was important for people to take a step back and think about the relationship and try to get help from people like you and see if they can make things work there isn't filing Center personality disorder and we wanted to put that out there just seeing what sports did Ashley grew up and you know her parents divorced you know still very much part of her lies and deceit all the time but it is really important once my parents are still married and it's SolidWorks did the people and Ashley live through it if you want to try to help people who can avoid it maybe have a better chance at it

interesting, wonderful yeah and as I said earlier you guys don't know also just talk about it you actually do it and you were working together living together raised in a family how do you guys balance at all

that's really great question I think we're still trying to figure the right answer out to that it's kind of a day-by-day thing you know especially now in a situation with my everything's going on with the children and working and home and everything else I just I feel like it's my first time doing everything you do here and he does nothing or negative thing it's more of an Outlook a positive outlook on things with the new client to step in and manage the kids

yeah that's what that's exactly kind of what we want to talk and to get more into detail about your team teamwork and how you guys do it we're going to take a short break and then when we come back we're going to get into the meeting phones app how does this team work actually works and give out two resource and stop will be back in a short moment

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welcome back it's between it's me see where intimacy is real so I'm just a moment ago Ashley and Christopher were talking to us that how they balance work and living together and raising children as a team and they go about it as a team and so I'm really curious and the sense of this whole team effort how to set effectively work do you guys have business meeting at their schedule or their roles explained how it goes yeah Chris Moore manage and I'll let you talk more about this to he manages kind of the operation of our business I like to meet with the new client to meet with them and try to help them as fast as I can

because we would not be able to do anything without that but it's really not like that at all. It was tricky when we started to work together or we thought it might be tricky do this where know somebody is in somebody's office or not reporting to each other you know we thought maybe that that could get us into your office a little quicker than us a Yaris and kind of thought okay well why don't we just break up the major roles that that we have and you know we're both lawyers you know we can do a lot of the same things but we're not break it up into work no hitting in together as a team in each doing things in and working

we did actually in the beginning yeah we took one one day her mother has graciously like she does a lot of very helpful took a little ones and you took a Saturday and all right it's two weeks from now we're going to be working together she was leaving going to do this and yeah we we wrote it down when I figured out what our roles were going to be and I mean it's a bald over we kind of had what was supposed to be a weekly business meeting with a few like we keep falling out of it but we talk everyday kind of at the end of the day about everything and you are very well

enter the specialist board certified so it's very few attorneys in the state that he knows a lot about family law about the details of nuance issues. Also I mean I also feel like I'm pretty accomplished in my ear as well so I might not make it higher are good I know had that we have them some Facebook people that are listening and so Heather on Facebook has a question I do you guys set up CERN quiet times for each other like you know how the time for myself

and how do you guys keep the spark in love alive believe that you definitely need time for yourself to recharge especially if you're a little bit independent which I feel so far just recently I have developed I have come back and said something that I've actually really enjoying a child horseback riding so now I get to do that if you're obviously you know whenever I have the opportunity area that I'm taking the time for my recharge a little bit is it on the schedule that you do it every so often believe is a couple of nights a week to where you know she's able to go do that and wants one thing in one of the mornings and I'm working on having mine but I think it's good to have like the kind of sauce goes like this

back together too but to be able to have something you can separately

do you know they have a little bit of spaces together with their challenges of working together so closely at home all the time cuz her many of us this is new you know what I'm saying for years that changed your relationship spending so much time together now and absolutely very important. You know when you're going to bed at night and you're laying in bed and you're trying to fall asleep I think it's important to set boundaries don't want to talk to him about certain issues that I'm dealing with as part of our business but I'll restrain myself

I know that he's dealing with a million dice have a cut-off time of business talk

really I mean rich like you know doing it it with and I mean when we first started we're kind of like she would we would come home with no what's the gossip and no we didn't talk about confidential client thing burning like that but you were kind of wondering hey we're going to work together like

is there going to be gossip cuz we're working together but there's there's always something I don't know who I have to be found gossip

yes yeah and so I'll so in a sense of spending time by yourself and then spending time as a couple how do you guys fit that into you have a support system or how do you guys have from children young children we have the system again the grandparents are vital or find you an appropriate child care that looks like that the kids are going to be fine if you leave them with a babysitter Saturday night you know it's I I feel strongly that it's important to have a very strong relationship together to because everything stems from that alright that's really the teller I feel so so you know if we need some time together with no

every other weekend and have you guys been managing as the daycare is closed now I'm assuming you little ones and yeah the attention span so short. I'm sure I'm sure the same way all the time I get to spend so much time with them to oh my gosh I'm pulling my hair out and added at an issue that a lot of people are facing but perfect answer and thank goodness for our family especially her mom you know he's very close to us. I am relationship and in proximity

do stuff like this all I know is you might get a knock in my pop in doing that all right think so and they've been especially her mom but also walking out her dad in my parents I'm dipping very generous. I think they like to say no I maybe we need some time together every now and then and they're very helpful thank you

maybe somebody has to school and that's what actually we did see we got somebody at the school and not affiliated with the school at all but like it's an independent you know that there are no excuses for getting somebody out there to help you okay lawyers you guys are always dumb sometimes dealing with negativity how do you not let that affect

you guys and your relationships

that's tricky at times that I think at least for me it it just as a divorce lawyer you you see okay well here's what people are doing that are making them have may be unhappy relationship maybe let's try not to do that one of the reasons I got to try to know a lot of therapists very early on and what are the Navy the ways I don't end up like these people but it's hard when you're you're dry you want to be lawyers must be want to be lawyers to help people and you see people who have pain and you can't fix it sometimes the attorney that's very difficult client before and they were getting

married to somebody that was just like their ex-spouse stop the cycle realize what's happening so that is negativity when you can't help someone actually actually does help a good fit any ideas on a weekend redneck I drive a pickup truck but I actually make a difference when you get in the field and you are able to argue pretty well how do you guys keep the balance from

how do you guys arguing how do you resolve conflict because you're both very talented at it at the big picture that is really the past that we mostly take it through something that we're both headstrong on and we always release I always ask myself will this matter in a day a week a year is this is it just another issue would like I feel like having a proper perspective on things and not lose lose the forest for the trees I do when there's some issues

and the other ones have adopted that he had to deal with as a result

is there any point in getting to yes then it's just say yes

you doing last night so I just kind of make making sure

you know I don't want to lose what is it I don't want to win the battle at Laura Moore

I don't think so prospective and understanding like you said what's truly would truly matters yeah yeah what's your value system in and that kind of stuff yeah good good good I know you guys talked a little bit about self care and I think I know you ride horses and then I just got back into it

Facebook from Genesis add-on

AC guys have a horse and three cats of more hats are 10 or 15 outdoor that I'm just bring them over our house how many have we have I mean people and innocence by where we live at sack of Loxahatchee Florida and it's some it's like more wooded yard and you know that you know you can only see about four or five cats called

fashion horseback riding one of his passion for making an effort to do that yes it's important to do self-care definitely out there as a mom I'm just trying to think you've got two babies a full-time jobs all these animals hot and got to clean how do you even do it

you got to get help you can't you can't do everything yourself just you have to recognize that you can't perfect at everything I'm not a perfect Mom I know that I wear and you have to identify where you need help at the house I have somebody to help me with the house just because you just have to acknowledge where maybe you need help and you have to get that out ya I also noticed I'm just an interaction that you guys tend to always validate each other and have each other's back it was that just something easy that happened are you have to work on that

personality types you want to make each other feel good to make your partner feel good and Elevate them other people in other people start doing that they might be with you when you making me feel bad all the time so good gay cats besides me lawyers you guys have written the books we've got a few of them yes yes yes tell us a little bit about your books well are our bestseller so to speak we normally sell me giving away their on Amazon but we can pretty much that I think she met over but the most popular one is how to divorce your controlling manipulative narcissistic husband there you go boy

what do you say

that was the day I tried to identify before Ashley and I were working together I had some great law partners and we went a different direction and not as I was forming the what is now our firm I tried to stink up who the clients that we actually enjoy helping the most who are the people that really make us feel fulfilled and helping and I was a little surprised to find out that it was actually mostly women who are married to you know you should jerks and you know when I try to get more into it you could see okay well these people have husbands have these narcissistic personality disorders I mean I I'm not I don't have your credentials to diagnose people but generally they make this type of criteria and I swear they almost don't have a voice in a sense of self value in the clients that were really enjoyable to work with are those dead kind of recognized that was going on YouTube

therapist to change their life and knew that through the divorce it was a necessary thing to separate themselves from what is it was quite frankly in a fuser so you figured out how these are the people that we really like to help when we try to have no sense of messaging out to help those people in and maybe have more of a client base that are people that you know we really always enjoy helping and I'm also we mix that in with a lot about the loss confusing there's not a lot of information out there that at least we as lawyers be able to accurately wanted also try hey there's another one you want to try to get the information out so even if people can't you no work with us or is there another area to stay later tonight you know they're not the right match for our services they can still be helped by what we do

add stop at the store and we're sticking to it and just to let you guys know yes I'm about to pick up next commercial break and then I'll commercial break this time we would love to hear about your practice what you guys doing what you guys offered so just go ahead and take it away yeah alright well we are asking Christopher Bruce we are with the Bruce Law Firm our main offices are in West Palm Beach and Wellington Florida we serve I'm pretty much all of Southeast Florida from about the Fort Pierce area down to Miami we have four other attorneys full time at work with us as part of our practice and most of what we do are helping clients in divorce cases usually when the other person is just a difficult person that's difficult personalities there's a very serious issue with children or there's a complicated Financial issues going

find specially with business valuation Sansa SS racing but that's what we do we represent men and women but our kind of particular on passion is helping women get the divorce process with great team and the deal about divorce information books.com that's the worst information books.com as all the books that we have you can download them for free if you want them mailed to you or happy to do that or send them somewhere where you can pick them up on the more people we help us better everybody is so it's not something we should take advantage of it and we're always here to help and our website is Bruce PA. Com

thank you so much I'm in a difficult question in the sense of and we're talkin about divorce and you just said that difficult people so when does someone know maybe we should get divorced cuz it's I know it's more than difficult it's easy when not easy but maybe people clear perception maybe I should get the boys going to becomes abusive you know when things that yes but when situations quite on abusive you know it's kind of

how do you know

yeah that's a hard one because you have physical abuse and I mean you can tell that and I mean every now and then I mean too much to drink and I just don't know what they're doing but most of the time they do but the emotional abuse is that's so much harder and so many people it is it just my heart goes out to him it's it's mostly women but I know it's men and women it just spend their whole life trying to change somebody thinking that it's them that's the problem I want to make things better and I think the people actually could probably add to this but why I think when you know it's it it's enough is enough is when you've been trying a long time the person blames you for the problem they say you're the one that needs a therapist go fix yourself yeah that's a constant we're dad and in our initial meeting to usually have a little bit of a clue on who we're dealing with unless they're the one

the help and when they resist therapy when they don't want to change when they don't listen they continue to put you down and I do mean things you know that's usually a pretty good sign when they keep you from other people that don't allow you to have your own relationships and yeah I like doing all that like something people do that and they don't know what they're doing in this house it's them down as he looked as first me in the difference is that they respond to that or not yeah what you asked for you

act like they would help you with you to that answer your cell so that I may do yourself but for people that swear there's not really abuse going on I thought the sermon counseling focus on this is something that's best for both of us to try to fix us in that cuz I know some people think well I'm just going to wait till they get 18 and then we get divorce and the kids only four or five

you don't want the kids to grow up in an environment where their parents are you okay okay yes it is a traumatic but it is a disruption in a child's life when there's a divorce. It can be traumatic if both parents are fighting over child and alien is a child and not not helping a child transition properly but I feel strongly that put in a child in the right environment is the best thing in the back in a household where once you have the mom is living separately from the father and they have a fine relationship just managing the child that is it instead of being in a abusive

if your goal as a parent is to have a close relationship with your kids for the rest of your life and then you know you're going to have to face the music at some point in time because it's it's I think maybe sometimes just as heartbreaking for you know the grandmother who's getting divorced to have you know her conniving husband alienate you know the kids in the grandchildren against them you know and had that person got divorced 20 years earlier Not only would they have had a chance to have 20 more years of their life or they can live differently even their children I think you know realistically a better chance to see how to have healthy relationships and what is not okay and all that child might have been temporarily affected I'm over the long-term you know the the disruption would be diminished you're always going to have to face that you might as well do it as soon as you can I think besides situations were

is one more year left in high school

right effing Place yeah I love how you put that he should really face the music is what you said which is really yes it's it's hard cuz he's always I do not encourage divorce that's why we have the website that's why we know people like you to help my clients afford it but no you can get into a spot of always looking for another reason to delay and I think some people have to realize that's just the beer mechanism of trying to avoid conflict which is how a lot of us are you like that sits outside your comfort zone of doing that yes we did have a comment on Facebook on Tamara Hunter she said she's a friend of you guys and how you guys really do a unique job of really connecting with your clients and trying to do what's best

for your clients yes so we're at we're at the last part of this segment here with help relationships of couples we give tips so can we start talking about some tips you can give for couples and how they can increase their intimate live with each other with their kids you know in this type of setting where where I'm quarantine and even starting to break out a little bit

couple number one listened actively listen and react don't just hear what the other person is saying right and you do a very good job with that and then it's everybody's watching it cuz you actually when you're when he's talking you're actually looking and gazing at his eyes and hearing what he saying thank you thank you for that, that was the other two I mean do what your spouse enjoy it when I met him on the water drinking beer all day and you know I've learned to enjoy it actually enjoyed water and and everything like that so don't be at first what your spouse maybe go to the driving range

show them that you're actively involved with its playing chess and whatever try it because we have the time yes, it was all you were lawyers if he's yellow page ad page off of it we wrote down things that we really wanted to do together and you know we didn't do all of them but it was there you know her refrigerator and we did it as we got kids to respect the things that you both really want to do and I'm trying to do it together and right now I mean no nothing's open yet here and I'm on the east coast of Florida but I mean you can find things if you think about it there's always something

including your spouse right I love her that idea of writing down a list and posted it and I'm a believer of vision boards of posting things you want and posting goals and stuff because if you see it then it's more of a chance that you guys would actually do it you know that she crossed it off

Diana and also planning a like 2 weeks out let's go normally do that off your list that you can do that really actively involved

you got to make the time to do it you do it for your business you do it for everything else you got to do it together to form for your relationship advice on planning the other wife has one can of indefinitely by the second kid she's always so busy and then somehow this man here feels like he doesn't get her attention

yeah how did you deal with it after two kids and your wife has so much stuff going on you're so pretty I think it required a lot of communication and I think the biggest thing that you know I realized I needed to do more of was basically saying what can I do in him and then following up and saying no no what can I do and no there is a lot you take on as a mother biologically there's only so many things a man can do in certain situations but other areas where you can pick up the slack and help as much as possible and you know I need to ask Ashley least our relationship she's she's somebody that you know really she does a lot for other people she does a lot for me so it maybe she was more natural to saying you do not saying things I really she needed help with star and I got a little bit more in like all right look I'll watch the kids give me that you know the formula or whatever go get your nails done

whatever it is you got to just ask why not what the other person wants and how they can be most health and yeah recognizing me to give to young kids for like a year to the attention and it's never get your attention anymore but things of all

you were persistent and that yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah they guess as we're talking about it and then about the connection and stuff kind of one of the things that you guys have been saying it's being persistent consistent and mapping out that love you guys have for one another

track meet right I mean Elsa nothing goes as planned I mean you knew it was going to happen the last 2 months but trying to be delivered about it I mean I don't know don't always probably know what it is that we're doing but looking at it like in conversations like that yeah you got to be persistent and I always try to keep a connection as much as you can I think that's why you Christopher also good at asking for help

I'm probably not as good as I should be mean sometimes it's overwhelming and you got to say hey look and then you please do this to might not be something you normally do but the consequence of maybe not doing that is I might have to work all weekend and then usually come back to Ashley saying you take a step back divided divided we divide and conquer it having to I'm sometimes when she said that the schedule you go back and adjusted according to how things

nothing you can't be rapping about

you know sometimes

going out your promise dinner or do you like that don't you make it up

got a good guy and I know you have strong support system you mentioned your mom's and then it is Mother's Day weekend yes which is great that's cuz it's been thankful that you guys have strong moms do you guys also have strong group of other couples that you guys associate with that have some support groups like the kind of yeah it's just finished a lot of our friends we all kind of new friends with a lot of lawyers I don't know how that happened I guess we're lawyers but you know and everybody having kids at the same time and all kind of scattered where we were by stage right now through our kids are getting older to be around other kids are meeting their parents and kind of making you set your friends and we have I think he's

really good friends and my friends are maybe a little bit more at derelict didn't settle down yet but we have some good good couple great great great it's been a truly a pleasure to have you guys on all show and so looks like the audience to know how to reach out to you guys in about all your websites and can you tell us again about your social media websites and different things and I think I have a podcast to absolutely absolutely, that's b r u c e t a. Com Bruce Law Firm or you cannot type in divorce information books.com and that kind of feeds and we'll get your website but that has most of the information run Facebook SD slot firm and dumb we've got a Twitter account hanging out out there somewhere but most of our presence is online through our website where we have a lot of them are free resources a lot of videos

have recordings I'm on things like this for we've been the one doing the 3:40 show me the best resource I think the most important one is stay married florida.com and it has probably at this point in time I think about 20 different podcast interviews by the Articles written by people who were truly the expert and helping people stay happy in the relationship and you know it reached out over time and see just how to have fun together like this would be a great thing supposed on there and a lot of great stuff from the experts about it we're just the information aggregators if it's really stuck with the people who contributed to content that wonderful song that side also has like you said divorce recovery information and you say yes yes in the list of counselors of people looking for therapy and variety of different resource

that's exactly right that's probably one of them more important things there's if you're listening to this and eating the to help I'm now there's a throughout Florida I'm a great geographical with people on my career on the website that you get it with a dude we've had a chance to meet and impressed with and our hope is people who you know maybe getting the spark know in their relationship before coming to us they go to people who are the pros like yourself and trying to have no help reignite that spark and remake that cash in it and hurts as much as you can truly change your life

yes yes well thank you guys so much for being in the show you've been wonderful gas that have provided so much information and I'm and I love that how you guys help people and all aspects of the relationships and that you actually are doing it and working it in and doing your Bassin and thank you guys so much for being in the show this is the thing and it's Missy back show where intimacy Israel thank you guys buy