We are more than what we see
Every voice, every story
Hold the key
Together we rise in this energy
Different faces, different pain
Different stories, same refrain
Trying to find a place to stand
Trying to feel a guiding hint
What you say and what you mean
Life somewhere in between
Every action has a cause
Every heart behind the walls
Fizzin'
We can hear it if you look
We can see it
There's a pattern in the soul
Every piece can make us whole
So power
The power of synergy
Understanding you and me
Every difference, every truth
Leads us back to something
Welcome to the power of synergy
On BBS radio
I'm Gabrielle Cardona
A relationship coach
I've been in business as a coach
For about 25 years now
But I started out as a life coach
And I knew that when I needed to tell
The whole world about what I was doing
BBS radio was where I wanted to go
I just want to give a shout out
First of all today to the producers
The owners of the station
You know what?
I love working with these people
And knew some couple brothers
You know what?
They're absolutely wonderful people
And I've had many offers
To be in many different venues
But I really have nothing but good things
To say about them as a company
So let's just open up the phone lines
Today I'm going to invite people
Many times to call in and ask me
Any questions you want
The number to the station is
888-627-6008
Anybody can go on YouTube
Anybody can have a podcast
But to have the good quality
Audience and the production
That's what matters most
And so I really appreciate that
Over the years when people said to me
A life coach
Well that's nice but
You have to have a specialty
What is it about?
You know what?
When I was a little girl my father
And I thought it taught me a very important principle
It's not what you know, it's who you know
And having connections
The relationships
Yeah, well you know what?
When I started out as a life coach
I was teaching people everything from time management
Money management, their health
And weight management
Yeah, but everything in their life
Kept coming back to their relationships
And I didn't appreciate it until very recently
A few years ago when I was actually
Staying in a homeless shelter
Because I missed my appointment
No, I missed my reservation
Check in time for a hotel
And I said, well you know what? I'm not going to live on the street
I'm going to go somewhere at least where it's safe
And I saw the toxicity of the people there
That were not only living there but running the show
And I said the security guards
I'm more afraid of the security guards
Than the drug dealers
And I'm more offended by the staff
Than the mentally ill people
Who are talking to themselves while they're in a ball
On the floor, you know what?
People, they're what matters
Yeah, relationships and connections
Appreciation, respect and trust
And so when I knew that I had to pick
Some kind of specific niche
That teaching people how to come together
That's what mattered
And in a good way, a powerful, positive way
What's the definition of synergy?
You know what? If you Google it
It'll say synergy is the combined effects of two or more elements
Groups or processes
That's greater than the sum of their individual effects
Okay, the sum, that means adding it together
That when they come together, they don't add to each other
They don't even multiply each other
They empower each other
That's exponential
Now, not many people got into math passed a certain level
But something to another power
That's multiplying it by itself
Several times over
Okay, now, wait a minute, when we're thinking about relationships
Do you know the power that you have over people?
Do you care that the way you behave affects people?
One of the best things that I taught people in the homeless shelter
When I knew that I needed to spend time with them
My husband said, do you actually want to live there with them?
I said, that's the only way they'll listen to me
If I come there in a suit with a purse book bag in my hand
Like a professional business woman with my business card
It's not the same as if I'm sitting next to them eating the horrible food with them
Talking to them like a person
And I said, you know, one of the most important things that I was teaching them
As I was living with them was that there's no neutral energy
You are either positive or you are negative
And yet, even if you're not directly interacting with them
People can feel how you're feeling
That's a power that you have
And then another thing I taught them was
There's no inertia, you're either moving towards them or you're moving away from them
Or even better you're moving with them
That means you've synchronized
That's a huge life skill
That's an invaluable ability that when people know how to synchronize
They actually come together with people
And they have positive energy
They're making the other people around them exponentially better people
Even if they haven't done anything, it's not about doing
It's about being
Yeah, what are you being with to for around the people in your life?
Now, as a relationship coach
I knew that I didn't agree with the mental health industry in the United States
Where I'm currently based
Because a lot of it was about financial capitalist pursuits
Their ultimate goal was something to make money
Because the pharmaceutical industry here
Just wants to pump people full of drugs
And the mental health industry just wants to label people
With mental illnesses
They don't take into consideration individual differences
The variables of nurture that affect our nature
So when I'm teaching people things as a coach
I'm pretty much telling them the opposite of what their psychiatrists, psychologists and psychotherapist
Are telling them and I'm getting them off their drugs
Because if they know how to maximize what's great about them
And they come together with other people
And make the people around them that they're with
Great, then the positive energy that they have
Is exponentially more powerful than the negative energy that they had
Before when they were alone and suffering
And it was funny because my husband actually asked me
After about two years of my practice
I had several clients and some of them lasted three weeks
Some of them were three years eventually
He said, where's your client today?
I thought you had your appointment
And I said, no, I'm done with that person now
And he said, honey, we're never going to get rich if you keep fixing people
I said, baby, they're not broken
Actually, what they want was good quality substantive answers to their questions
That would give them the tools to succeed in life
And I'm pretty sure that most people, when they think they're broken
There's just a link in their chain that needs a little bit of repair
Then as a whole soul, they will become high quality
And they're going to tell friends and family about me
And I'm going to get more promotion and exposure
I've got books, I'm making videos
I'm doing all kinds of, I'm on the radio worldwide now
Yeah, people know that the message that I give them is a very quality message
But it's also with the support and encouragement
I don't show people what's wrong with them
I teach them how to maximize what's right
So if you have a question in your life that maybe your mental health professional
Or a book you've read, maybe a self-help book you've read
It's kind of confused, you know, it hasn't really worked
The answer that you've got hasn't really worked
Then you can go ahead again, call in the number is 886276008
Now, today I'm going to be talking about the principles of coming together with people
To maximize the quality of a situation
Now, I use the numbers a lot in my show
And when I'm teaching people individually or even in a class
Sometimes I have groups that I teach people about how to get together
In a good proactive healthy way with other people
And I like to use the numbers 3, 4 and 7
Okay, now if we're not adding to each other, we're not even multiplying each other
We're empowering each other, wait a minute
If we've got a 3 and a 4 and a 7
Well, which one of those should be the exponent and which ones should create the base?
Let's think about this now
Out of a 3 and a 4 and a 7, let's say the 7 was the exponent
The 3 and the 4 combined to give that 7 power
That's 823,543
Wow, that's huge because it's to the 7th power
Okay, well how about just the 4 and the 7 to the 3rd power?
11 to the 3rd power is 1331
Okay, that's not bad
But 3 plus 7 to the 4th power
Okay, that's 10 to the 4th power, that's 10,000
Ask yourself, do you know how much power you have when people combine and you facilitate them
How much do you actually do?
But sometimes the question is, are the numbers combining the activity being done
or the energy of that activity?
Okay, so we're going to get into very specific activities today
and what things should different people be doing?
Ask yourself, do you want to let the person in your life, in your group
do the actual work and just have you be the one facilitating them?
Or do you want to be the one doing the actual work and have them energize you?
What's the difference?
Okay, so pretty soon we're going to be talking about very specific
Again, the number is 8886276008
If anything I say confused as you don't hesitate to call in
We're going to take our first break, we'll be right back, this is the power of synergy on BBS
We can be when we see what's underneath
Not just words but energy, that's the power of synergy
16 ways to see the world, every mind a flag unfurled
What you think is black and white, might be someone else's light
Read between the lines they speak, there's a strength inside the weak
Not just who we show outside, there's a deeper truth inside
If we learn to understand, we can finally take a stand
Not against both side by side, with the awareness as our guys the power
The power of synergy, understanding you and me
Every difference, every truth leads us back to something new
It's the power we can be when we see what's underneath
Not just words but words but words
Welcome back to the power of synergy on BBS
I'm Gabrielle Cardona
And again, if you want to call in and ask me a question, even if it's about something I'm not
Discussing specifically at the moment, you can go ahead and call 8886276008
Okay, now, before you took a break, I was talking about how different people combine
And empower each other when you create the synergy with people you've actually synchronized
That means you have unity in purpose and focus
That means you have even different skills and abilities
Let me ask you something about yourself, ask yourself
What do you believe is more harmful?
Doing what you're not, or not doing what you are
You do know you're born with gifts and talents and strengths and abilities
A lot of things in life need to get done
And someone needs to do those things, right?
But you know what? I use the body parts kind of as an illustration
Someone's a hand, someone's a foot, someone's a brain, someone's a heart
What's more important? Your hands are your feet
You can't compare them, they're both equally vitally important to the success of the body
What's more valuable? Your brain or your heart?
They need each other, you can't compare them
They need to, they're symbiotic, they need to work together
Because they are both dependent on each other
Now, can you walk on your hands?
Yeah, not very far, or not very well
Can you pick things up with your feet?
Yes, but you know what? It's going to be very frustrating
So let's just stick now to the idea of being organic
To your nature, true to your form
And then saying, you know what? There's other people in my life
Let's take an inventory of the people in my life
And what are they good at? What am I good at?
How can we combine, actually unify in purpose and focus
To maximize each of the talents and abilities and strengths
That each individual element brings, right?
To that scenario, all of the people and the possibilities of mixing them up
Yeah, when you say to someone, okay, I'm horrible at this, I'll let you do this
Then you can afford them the opportunity to be physically active in some way
That means you are going to be the fuel emotionally or mentally with them
For them, okay, that means you're going to be the one sustaining them
And again, since there's no neutral energy, you are either positive or you're negative
Now think about that, okay, that's kind of scary too
Now, anything that a person does can be done in a good way or a bad way
So ask yourself, am I being a good influence on this person?
Are they being a good influence on the people around them
While they are performing whatever task, whatever activity it is
Okay, again, the number of the station, if you want to call in and ask a question
Is 888-627-6008
Okay, so now what I've always said is, again, when we have different talents and abilities
We have the potential to be good or bad, ask yourself, who do you believe you are accountable to?
Unfortunately, we live in a world now, especially with social media
Where we don't think because there's any real consequences, right, for the things that we say and do
We don't really think there's any price to pay, but there is
Some people have what they just call a conscience, that's their inner voice saying
Don't hurt people, be good to people, be good with people, be good for people
Some people say, you know what, I have a higher authority, it's called God
And you know what, he can send me to hell if I'm bad
Okay, okay, well, that's, bitch, you know what, this is another way I spin it
Let's reward the good instead of punish the bad
That's another reason I hated the mental health industry
Yes, every positive could be negative, but then
Retrospectively, that could also mean anything bad could become good
Okay, let's car pay that damn
Let's go ahead and take advantage of that possibility when you say to someone
I'm really bad at doing this, but I'm good at doing that
And they say, okay, well, this is kind of my status
And let's figure out where we can hook up to where maximizing what you have
In the venue of what I offer, okay, then the other people around us
And this is another thing I love to tell people
Positive is more powerful than negative
In that when people are around you, if you have good quality emotional and mental
Energy while you are performing something in a high quality way
Then they're either going to do one of two things
They're either going to join you, but in order to do that they're going to have to engage
And synchronize with you in that positive way
Or they're going to be irritated that you're happy and they just want to be miserable
They'll go away
That's a beautiful thing too
Now think about how much you want to be around healthy good people
There is more power and positive than in negative
Unfortunately, ladies and gentlemen, we just see a lot of negative around us right now
It's more prevalent, but it's not more powerful
Okay, so again, the number to this station is 888-627-6008
Feel free to ask me any questions now
Okay, so let's talk about spirituality now
Take religion out of it. I'm the very religious woman and I am going to quote scriptures later
Because I just like the principles of them
But let's talk about spirituality
It's about the mind, heart, body and spirit
We are a soul
Now your thoughts, your feelings, your actions are all fueled by a spiritual energy
If you want to have that true healthful spirituality
It's about harmony that comes from balance
Now balance is kind of tricky because again, it's about being centered inside
Not just managing what's going on around you
Now this is something that I talked about at last week on my show
Humans are not animals
We cannot replace the people in our lives with animals
For the simple reason that animals are about survival
They are about survival of the fittest
It's about, I just don't want to die
Okay, humans aren't that way
We have an ability to do many different things in many different ways
And yeah, making babies is good and eating is good
That's not what our entire existence is about
That's not what it consists of
We have more than survival to be concerned about
We have the pleasure and enjoyment of each other's company
Yeah, when we're actually doing mundane things
We have a home, we have different environments and activities that we can do
When we have conversations, it can be about very important things to us
Yeah, we can communicate with each other
We can support and encourage each other
We can facilitate each other and even just say
You know what? I don't need to help you fix your problem
I'm just going to be here for you when you need me
Okay, to give you the support that could be mental, it could be emotional
It could be physical
That's why it's important to know who you are and who they are
And to say, you know what?
I know you need this particular kind of support or help
I'm not really good at it
But this other person in your life, you could reach out to them
Do you believe that there's more joy in giving than in receiving
When people don't want to ask other people for help
You're depriving them of that opportunity to be who they truly are
When you go to someone and you say, I need your help
I need your amazing abilities and talents and gifts and strengths
To make the quality of my life better
You are giving them the opportunity to experience the more joy that comes from giving than receiving
Well, you know what? We don't give anymore
We have animals to give us love and affection and attention
But they don't really have any needs again, past the survival
People have needs, we've forgotten because of technology
Yes, now our computers, we call it social media
It's making us anti-social
We don't know how to be with people
When I come back, I'm going to talk about getting together again with people
And how to do that in a high quality way
So we don't need the large quantity of things that we are getting addicted to now with our technology
So again, the number to this station is 888-627-6008
Self-actualization, reaching your full potential
That's what we're going to talk about when I come back
This is BBS Radio, the power of synergy
I'm Gabrielle Cardona, we'll be right back
Not just words but energy
That's the power of synergy
In silence, there's a reason
In the chaos, there's a meaning
Oh, every soul is speaking loud
If we only slow it down, no more guessing who we are
We've been brilliant from the start when we see with open eyes
We don't divide, we unify
It's the power, the power of synergy
Breaking walls and setting free, every voice in every mind
It's the power that truth we couldn't see now
It's right in front of me, not just people that we know
Welcome back to the power of synergy on BBS
I'm Gabrielle Cardona, relationship coach
I specialize in teaching people how to get back together in relationships
Look, we have all kinds of relationships
We have socially casual, informal, we have familial
We have romantic, we have professional
The relationships ask yourself in your life
What's the quality of the relationships, the connections that you have with people?
The number to the station is 888-627-6008
If you want to ask me a question, feel free to call in
Now, look, we have a lot of really great tools and resources right now
As I was talking about before the break, we've got animals in our life
We're using the substitute for the people relationships
We have social media, we have electronic devices
We think because we're interacting with people
That it's actually a relationship
No, it's not
We have a physical being, we need to be in each other's presence
We have five senses
The only sense, really, that's being stimulated most of the time by this is visual
Sometimes audio, but most of the time you have to put it on silent
Because everybody's in public using their electronic devices
And they don't want to bother people, so they have their heads plugged
So they don't even hear what's going on around them and they don't see
What's going on with the person that they're talking to on a electronic device
Because it's a disconnect
Whoa, wait a minute
I always tell people, there's detached and then there's disconnected
When we have technology as a substitute for our human connection
We become disconnected
Detached is from what's around you
Disconnected is your heart from your mind and your body
Your soul is not the way it should be
It's not whole, it's not complete because our relationships are about relating to people
Yes, you know what?
Self-actualization is reaching your full potential
It's becoming who you have the capacity to be
But in a high-quality way
Everything we do can be in a good way or a bad way
So ask yourself how positive is your energy
Just in general throughout the day
Stop and ask yourself how high is the quality of my performance right now
Not just in the work that I'm doing, the physical task that I'm performing
But the emotional and mental constitution of my being
That my spiritual energy is manifesting in a physical way
That's kind of a tough question to ask yourself
Because you know what? You can't see the forest for the tree
Sometimes you are so deep in it yourself
You can't take a step outside of yourself
To see from an objective sort of third-party perspective
Neutral perspective, which you know what?
If you talk to the people in your life and ask them
You know what? They might be honest with you
They might actually give you credit for being able to handle the truth
And if there's something that you need to deal with in life that you need to improve
If they know that you do want to be a better person
They would love to be the one to help you
If not, then they're not good people and you need to get them out of your life
And you know you can do that because there's people everywhere
And you can pick and choose the quality of your connections
Now, insight is what makes us in the self-actualization process
Able to go past the survival, right?
When you're on the lower level, it's just about having knowledge of information
To get things done and that's about where it stops
But then there's connection, social connection
That's how little bit more that demands the time and attention and focus
For found thought about how things are related to each other
Then there's the piece and harmony with oneself
That genuinely comes from understanding your own personal needs
And your strengths and abilities, knowing how to manage them
And bringing then the highest levels of other people into your life
In a quality way to where you can communicate effectively with them
And if they have bad negative emotional energy
Your positive power can actually conquer that
To facilitate them displaying their best qualities in a good way
Okay, so now I tell people that the insight
Sometimes it comes from experience, but sometimes it can come from learning with others
Okay, now everything in your life, it's going to be better or worse
When you are done with it, ask yourself
When you are in a situation, when there are people involved
Not only how high quality is the product
But how high quality are the people that shared the experience with you
As a result of that direct interaction
And you can be honest with yourself, you can be honest with others
You don't have to be extreme, you don't have to be severe
And it doesn't have to hurt
But when you say honestly to yourself, this is what I'm good at
This is what I did well
But these are the things that I need to work on
Again, keep in mind that that principle of
There's more joy in giving than in receiving
You can say things to people in your life like, you know what?
I'm terrible at this, I already know because of my personality
That I'm never going to do this very well
Do you want to join me and be the one that is actually the base?
Right? Doing the thing in the activity
So that I can be the exponent, I can offer you the emotional quality of the experience
Saying, I'm accepting the gift of who you are
And we together are making the world a better place
Wow, that's really exciting
Because again, rewarding the good is always better than punishing the bad
And when people know that they're being proactive instead of reactive
That's what really makes self-actualization happen
Again, the number to this station if you want to call in
888-627-6008
Okay, now wait a minute, now
What I tell people there's having, there's doing, there's being
Then there's more, then there's better
Okay, so having more
Okay, that's nice
Having better, that's a little bit better, okay?
But doing, doing is better than having
Doing more, okay, yeah, that means you're growing, it means you're improving
But doing better, that means you don't have to do as much
Because if what you have is high quality, then you don't need to do a large quantity
But being, yes, being is about the source of what you do
Being more, yeah, that means you're learning things that you didn't know before
That means you have the opportunity to create great things in life in the world with people
But you know what, being better means that the quality of what you are doing, that you have learned
Yeah, that's coming from a source of truly healthy, unselfish spirituality
Yeah, being the best quality version of yourself
It's about including the people because you can understand things in an insightful way
And give in a generous way, now think about this
If you were to lose the physical things that you have
How much would that actually traumatize you?
How connected and attached emotionally are you to the things in your life?
They're important, yeah, because they can help you get things done, but you know what?
They're replaceable, what's not replaceable?
You and the people in your life, do you truly believe that you are invaluable?
You are irreplaceable, that if you were gone, the world would suffer
You might not believe that, not everybody believes that, truly in their heart
And I teach people about affirmations, you can brainwash yourself
But I always tell them it's very important, if you are going to dialogue with yourself
Which is reading out loud, positive, healthy statements
It's very important to do it in a ratio of one to three
One thing that you know for a fact is true that you love about yourself
One thing that you kind of think it might be, but you're not real sure
And one thing that you know it's not true at all, and there's no way in hell you would ever believe it
You know what? Everything that you want to improve about yourself
Put it in a list of affirmations, make it a ratio of one to three, and read it out loud
Every single thing that you wrote down from top to bottom, the whole list until you believe the whole list
And then you're going to start to change your mindset
That's one of the greatest gifts you can give the people in your life
Again, the number of those stations is 886276008
When I come back, I'm going to get very specific about what those things will be
This is the power of synergy on BBS radio, I'm Gabrielle Cardone
Same words
Different meaning
Same moment
Different C
You think it's them?
They think it's you?
But there's a deeper point of view
You said it straight, they took it wrong, now you're wondering what went on
Same sentence, different weight, now you're standing in debate
You call it honest, they feel hit, you move fast, they need to sit
You think silence means they don't care, they think space means your way
It's not the words, it's how they land, it's not the fight
It's what they can explain in ways you recognize
Cause you're not seeing through their eyes, that's the power
The power of synergy
Understandin' what you don't see, same words, but a different code
Different minds on a different road
That's the power
When it finally comes
Welcome back to the power of synergy on BBS
I'm Gabrielle Cardona
And the number of the station is 888-627-6008
If you have a question, feel free to call in
Or even if you want to comment, because I'm going to be talking probably for the next 20 minutes or so
About maybe confusing topics, but I'm sure you have an opinion
Everybody has an opinion
Because these are so very personally important to all of us as humans
This is about how we connect with other people
And there's no neutral energy, people are either positive or they're negative
And I'm sorry ladies and gentlemen, we like to get out of jail free card saying
I don't care, but you know what, not caring, that's negative
Because we do care, the only way we can genuinely truly say we don't care about something
Is if we have disconnected from it
Yeah, we've detached, yeah, but disconnected means we've actually turned off a part of ourselves
We cannot do that, okay, so even indifference, even saying I don't care
Being detached from something, that's not neutral, that's negative
Okay, so now when I talk about relationships
The art, yeah, of intimacy
The art is actually about aim, it's knowing how to aim
Because we have a lot of energy, but we have to have a good solid focus on what we're aiming towards
So ART of AIM, those are two acronyms
If you want to write this down, it's okay, if you can't write it down right now because the archives of the show
Are always going to be available on VBS radio, so if you need to play this back another time you can
But ART of AIM, now
The ART is appreciation, respect and trust
AIM is ability, intentions and motives
Okay, so if you appreciate people's abilities
And you respect their intentions and you trust their motives
Then you can actually synchronize with them to synergize in a high quality way
I don't care if you can do a million of something, if it's crap, if it's garbage, it has no value
It's better to have an ounce of gold than a ton of fertilizer
Okay, so if you appreciate people's abilities, that means, wait a minute, appreciate
That means you're grateful for, but it's because you value it, you genuinely believe it has value
So that's why you're grateful to different abilities, learn about people's different talents and strengths and gifts
Then you can respect their intentions
That means you can be different and still have respect
Respect is about honor and dignity
And when you say to them, you know what, you have different goals and priorities and focus in your life
That's okay, different from myself
That's okay because I respect that it still has value
Our differences are in fact what make us great
Okay, appreciate abilities, respect, intentions, but trusting motives
Okay, this is where I left this one
Really, you know what, trusting people? People don't trust people anymore at all!
In fact, I was with a sister in my congregation this morning doing some service
And she said kind of tongue in cheek, but I know that she wasn't joking really when she said it
She said, there are three people in the world you can't trust, one's a doctor, one's a lawyer, and one's a mechanic
And I'm like, wow, you know what, the fact is people don't trust people at all
When I get on the bus and I say, yeah, you were going to pass me by
Because there are four different people here at the homeless
At the bus stop, their homeless people have basically set up a shelter here
You know what, they've kind of assumed that everybody in the world houses some kind of ulterior motive that's selfish
And I say, you know what, thank you for picking me up
Because I just don't have to pass me by myself
And I smile and I say, you know what, I know that right now you're being reactive
But you do want to help people, right? Somewhere inside of you, there is good there
It's just kind of lost a little bit, yeah, but I trust that fundamentally you are a good person
And you're not hurting me on purpose
That changes who they are
You know when you're looking at someone, when you're thinking about a situation that you're in
You're either going to think good things about them or bad things
People do bad things all the time
But fundamentally, what are their motives?
Yeah, okay, do they genuinely want to hurt people?
Or is it just the reactive survivalist attitude that now technology and the world we live in, capitalism
It's making people greedy
But you know what, fundamentally?
The original function, the original purpose we had as humans was to come together
And when we harmonize and we synchronize
The abilities and intentions and motives of people that we appreciate and respect and trust
Are the foundation for the connection
Yeah, now that means that when we will have differences, yes, ladies and gentlemen
We will have differences, but again, remember that's the good thing, right?
Our differences are what create the harmony
And that allow all these different things that need to happen in the world
I call them like the Myers-Briggs personality profile
There's sensing, intuiting, thinking and feeling
Those are the four functional activities that we do
People are going to want to be sensory or intuitive
One more than the other, we have to do both
But we have a preference for one or the other
Well, thinking or feeling, people are either thinkers or feelers, we do both
It's not what you do, it's which one is naturally easier for you
What are you?
If you have sensory, intuitive thinking and feeling activities in your life that need to get done
You need to know what of those four things you do best to worst
Most to least
Okay, then you can say, you know what, I'll give you an example
I'm an INTP, my husband is an ESTP
Sensory is number three on my list of four things to do
It's number one on his
Okay, and I can say to him, you know what, we got to do something with food
I need you in the kitchen here, okay?
And he loves it, he loves me in the kitchen
Okay, but you know what, I'm a dominant thinking person
Thinking is his auxiliary function
And I say, you know what, yeah, I can do this or we can do it together
Because we're kind of good both at it, but you know what, he's horrible at intuition
That's his inferior function
Yeah, then that one we're doing intuitive things
I can say, honey, I understand that for you, this is running uphill barefoot in the snow
Let's do this in a way that I know you will enjoy because intuitively
I have that kind of insight
God, that's awesome, it is so great because
I tell people an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure
If you know the people in your life, not only the four activities
But the four levels that they've fallen on for different people
Yeah, you can absolutely go to someone and say
Like my daughter, she's an ENFJ, I say honey, I need your feeling right now
I got no feeling, it's my inferior function, I really need your ENFJ
And she says, great, I love it because she is an abundant, infinite supply
The generosity, feelers are amazing people, they literally never run out
I always tell people to take care of yourself first
And then you can go ahead and take care of others
No, you know what, they are the few people who, the way they take care of themselves
Is by taking care of others
Now keep in mind, ladies and gentlemen, they're only about a total of 8% of the human population
So not very many people have dominant feeling as their activity
But when they do, they're the ones that it's okay to go to and say
I am just a vacuum right now, I have this huge gaping hole in my soul
And yeah, I need some good emotional energy, they love it and they never run out
Okay, so then when we have the differences in life
The conflicts and problems in life, I tell people there's a topic, there's the issue
And then there's the problem, when we get together with people and we're working with them
And it's starting to work out, but inevitably we're going to have stumbling blocks in life
Just because situations are challenging
How do we identify the topic, the issue and the problem?
Okay, so again, the number of the stations is 888-627-6008
I'm going to take another one last quick break
And when we come back, I'll explain the difference between the topic, the issue, the problem
And how to create the solution in a synergy way
This is the power of synergy on BBS and on Gabrielle Cardona
The power of synergy
You read the moment, missed the mind, you judge the moving or the design
Every action has a base, every person has a pace
16 ways to take it in, 16 ways to lose open
What feels normal in your frame to someone else is not the same?
You stop reacting, start to see
There's a pattern to identity
And when you learn the way they move you know exactly what to do
That's the power, the power of synergy
I'm standing where you don't see same words, but a different code
Different minds on a different road
That's the power, when it all aligns
You stop guessing, start reading signs, it's not surface, it's energy
That's the power of synergy
Welcome back to the power of synergy on BBS
I'm Gabrielle Cardona
Okay, so we're talking about when we come together
How can we not only be high quality in ourselves
But how can we bring out the good qualities in others
So that when we synchronize, we synergize, we motivate and inspire people
Okay, well when you appreciate people's abilities
You respect their intentions and you trust their motives
You have created a foundation for a meaningful connection
The high quality connection, and I've always told people
I don't want a million followers on my social media venues
Which by the way I got off of because there's so much garbage on it
But I want quality connections
And yeah, when I actually just did professional things with high quality people
A lot of the quality things in my life improved
Because I knew that it's not what you know, it's who you know
When you have good, healthy people in your life
You have good quality relationships
Those connections are going to be the source of your energy
And that's going to be the base of your performance
Now if we have people in our lives
We have interactions
The fact that we have differences means that there is going to be potential
Conflict, but it doesn't have to become that
Differences can be either stumbling stones, stumbling blocks
Or stepping stones, they can facilitate us
Perhaps learning and growing and becoming better people
But I tell people with conflict and conflict resolution
You have to remember the topic, the issue and the problem
There's the source of the cause of the effect
Most people just in a situation
Because there are so many elements and so many variables
It can be hard
If you have a question right now about a problem that you've had with someone
Or a conflict, the number is 888-627-6008
Now, okay, so if we're talking about a situation
Where you're in a kitchen and you're cooking a meal
And someone said or did something to upset you
Well, okay, is it about the activity that you're doing?
Is it the trigger that it brought inside of you
If something that happened when you were a child
Or is it because you're angry at that person about something that happened earlier in the day
It has absolutely nothing to do with this situation
Wow, okay, ask yourself
These are the sort of trick questions that I ask people
Is what's going on right now that's throwing you off center
Just because it's a lower function of your personality
Let's get that one right out of the way
Is what you're struggling with right now
Gonna be a natural struggle for you even if you are a perfect person
You're still not gonna do that activity very well very easily
Okay, and if that's not it, next question
Is it because you're off center?
It's not even necessarily about that person or that situation
There's something inside of you that you need to get back into alignment
How do you do that?
You know what you do? You take a time out to put the mask on yourself
You take good quality care of yourself when you say
You know what? I've become toxic in this situation
I'm gonna do us both a favor by getting myself back into a high quality state
Okay, yeah, or is it there's an actual issue there that needs to be addressed
And if that's the case then communication is very important
Having the understanding of we need time
You know what right now again ladies and gentlemen the world that we live in
It's so fast paced and it's so bad in communication
Because so much of it is technological
Your electronic device is not the same thing as the physical presence of the people in your life
Get back together with the people and I tell people
There are really two important scriptural principles that I live by one is
Don't go to bed angry
You cannot go to bed in a provoked state
You have got to talk about things and the other scriptural principle is
Don't stop talking to each other when you get upset
You have to actually make sure that you resolve the issues
And if you're not going to talk about it in that moment
You have to make a time you have to set up a time for when you're both going to be in a high quality state
And you have to be fully honest without being a jerk about it
Yes, you can be candid without being hurtful
So those two principles get yourself into a high quality state
But then always be honest with the people that you're with
Yeah, people do appreciate honesty as long as it's not aggressive and
Condescending and abusive if you say to people
I care very much about how you feel but I'm going to tell you the truth
So that we can unify we can get back into the synchronicity
The good synergy a high quality emotional state that we're both in when we are together
We are going to appreciate and respect and trust each other even more
Yeah, one of my actual favorite scriptural is
It's better for a husband to sleep alone on the corner of a roof
than in a warm bed in a home with a woman who likes to fight
And I usually use the B word but I'm trying to clean up my mouth
So I just yeah a contentious woman
We know if we can fight but you know what we don't have to
Okay, so now the things that I teach people
I actually have three different books that are going to be on my website
My website is life- synergy-coaching.com
The first one is about self-actualization. It's actually my life coaching program
People I tell people look you got to know where you are
Really specify where you're going find your true nature
And make sure you take the path of least resistance
When you have the tools and resources it's nice
But if you don't know where you're going or if you're lost about where you are in your life
It's an exercise in futility
When I tell people if you want directions on how to get to LA
Well are you coming from Seattle or New York? That's kind of an important detail
So that book teaches you how to really know where you are right now in your life
There's a lot of activities, projects in each chapter
The self-actualization workbook
But then I also have, yes, if you want to know more specifically
About your personality
Embrace your true nature
That explains not only the dichotomies but also the levels of functionality
Dominant, auxiliary, tertiary and inferior
And also the explanation of each of the activities
Again, ladies and gentlemen, your personality is not just about what you do exclusively
It's about what you do best
What is easiest for you?
Yeah, what brings you pleasure?
Find out who you truly are
When you embrace your nature
You are better able to facilitate others doing that as well
And the one that I just got the copyright for
Till death do us part
It's about marriage
Yeah, you know what?
Unfortunately in the 80s, well, I actually started kind of more in the 70s
Marriage was just rejected as an institution
People wanted to live together
Well, it used to be you would date, you would marry
Then you would move in, then you would sleep together
People then would sleep together
And kind of date, decide if they wanted to move in
And yeah, you don't want marriage really isn't an option
Well, some people do want to get married, but we've forgotten how to do it
Oh, I wrote a book
About how to make sure that not only do you really want to get married
But if you do, who would be a good person for you to marry?
Because you know what? Some people love each other
But marriage isn't just about living with someone you love
It's about how to peacefully coexist, cohabitate with them
Yes, that's very important
So understanding, yes, I do include the personality profile information in it
But the book really is more about the institution itself
And how do you feel about commitment, lifetime commitment?
Yeah, it is till death do us part
The website again is life- synergy-coaching.com
And the work that I've been doing down at the homeless shelter
Cast in central Phoenix
I also have a link there if you want to make a donation, a contribution
I'm going to be doing some classes down at the Burton Bar Library
Yes, shout out, we've got the second floor open again
And boy, that construction took a little longer than I thought it would
But people who can't really afford to hire me
But they still want to have those classes
They will begin probably in the middle of the summer
But I'm still going to be offering the books to the people at the homeless shelter
So if you want to make a donation, the money that you donate on that site
Will be for the production of the books for the classes that I will be holding in the Burton Bar Library
Okay, so thank you again ladies and gentlemen so much for listening
And remember the three principles, there's no inertia, there's no neutral energy
And you are accountable for how you wield your power
Thank you for listening to the Power of Synergy on BBS Radio
I'm Gabrielle Cardona, we'll see you at the same time next week
Every sound, every loss can still be found
And we choose to truly see
We become Synergy