We are more than what we see
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Hold the key
Together we rise
This energy
Different faces, different pain
Different stories, same refrain
Trying to find a place to stand
Trying to feel guiding Him
What you say and what you mean
Life somewhere in between
Every action has a cause
Every heart behind the walls
Fizzin'
We can hear it if you look
We can see it
There's a pattern in the soul
Every piece can make us host the power
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Welcome to the power of synergy
On BBS radio
I'm Gabrielle Cote, a relationship coach
I started out as a life coach
About 23 years ago
But you know what, people said
Life code, that's just too general
It's too ambiguous
What do you really specialize in?
And I thought, well, what is it
That people want the most help with?
My first was a district attorney
That I think I'm going to run out of
Favorite client was
Steve Permanente, who said
I don't think I've ever loved anybody
And I think probably
Most interesting client I had
Jewish girl
Was a Jewish girl who said
You know what, I think I'm the
Adult in this relationship
My grandmother and I
We don't really get along
And I said, okay, you may need to be the adult
Let's go ahead and make sure that we're doing it
Healthiest possible way
Okay, so let's go ahead and talk about synergy
What is synergy?
Yeah, it's what we have when we come together with people
When we know that we are
It's about connections
It's about synergy
When you are with other people
They're either going to be better
Or worse when they're done with you
And they were before
Now, ask yourself
When you are interacting directly
Interacting with people
Do you make their lives better
By being who you truly are?
Well, that's two different things
Number one is
Being who you truly are
With them
Does that really matter?
Yeah, it really does
Because when I was very young
My father taught me something
Important about being honest
Yeah, when you lie
It's a bad thing
When you lie to strangers
You miss out on opportunities
When you lie to friends and family
You die alone
But when you lie to yourself
You get it, you got no one left
It's all over for you
You have to be true to who you are
Now, if you know who you are
And you can say
Yes, this is who I am
I'm going to have an impact
On other people
It's going to be in a good or a bad way
You can choose
To be good to them
With them and for them
When you're around them
But let's think about it
Basically, I like to use the numbers
Game, when we come together
With people, we don't add to each
Other, we don't even multiply each
Other, we empower each
Other
How many people got high up
In math to deal with exponents
Well, let me go ahead and
Just say it, I'll give you the
Numbers. Let's say out of a
Scale of one to ten, right
One person is only a two
Okay, they're not necessarily
A healthy, happy person
Someone else is a nine
When they come together
And they say, wow, you know what
We're not eleven
We're not even eighteen
We could either be
81, which is nine to the
Second power
Or 512
That's two to the ninth power
Ladies and gentlemen, have you
Ever thought about this
What impact am I having on
I tell them who
They want to
Maybe be
With me
Okay, you know what, I'll just tell them who I am
Flat out. This is what I'm good at
This is what I'm bad at. This is what's easy for me. This is what's hard for me
This is what brings me pleasure
This is what makes me suffer
You know what, you're giving them the opportunity to say, well, wait a minute, you know what
Actually, if you don't want to do that
I happen to love doing that
Or if you're really terrible at this
I'm really good at it. Let's just go ahead and reorganize
Synchronize to get
Synnergize when we come together
Yeah, ask yourself
Who should be
The one doing the primary activity
In a situation and who should be the facilitator?
Okay, wait a minute. So we just picked nine and two
Let's do two different numbers
How about a seven and a three
Because nine and two, those are two very different
Very, um, very
Very, um
Wide spread, right?
Across the chasm, the spectrum
What about like a seven and a three?
That's still, well, one might say, I'm better than you
Well, okay
But in what things? In what ways?
Seven and three
Seven to the third power is
343
Three to the seventh power is
2,187
Now wait a minute, if a three
Can with a seven become
2,187
They don't need to feel bad about themselves
They just need to know
That even if
You don't think you're worth a whole lot in life
If you get together with healthy people
They will empower you
To be exponentially more than what you are when you are alone
Look, I'm an introvert
I like being alone
I know that there are just going to be certain people in life
That are going to prefer to be alone
When they are with someone else
The question is
Are they improving in quality?
Yeah, that's a very important question
To be able to ask yourself an answer honestly
Now today I'm going to be talking about the principles of
Synchronicity
In order to synergize
We have to synchronize
Now just again the
Review
There are simple principles
About human energy
Social energy that never change
Number one
There's no neutral energy
You're either positive or you're negative
Number two
There's no inertia
You are either moving towards someone
Away from them or with them
And number three
Power requires
Accountability
You have got to be accountable
And accept
Your accountability
For the decisions that you make
The choices that you make in life
And the impact that you have on other people
You have got to remain
With them
If something happens and you get out of sync with someone
You can come back together with them
As long as you know that the decisions
That you make are going to impact
Them either in a good or a bad way
Now if you have any questions
About the things that I'm going to be talking about today
Because it's going to kind of be
A variety of different themes
But all under the topic of synchronicity
The number of the station is 888 627 6008
Okay, now
Let's start with
The constitution of
Our being as humans
We are physical beings
With a capacity for spirituality
We have a very different
Soul
Right, than animals
What we are as people
Is not about survival
It is about unity and cooperation
And prosperity
Thriving with each other
Encouraging, supporting each other
When we know that
Someone needs something
It's not always going to be about life or death
Right, we don't need to just eat
Sleep, breathe
We want to make each other's lives better
Doing things that aren't necessarily
VITALLY important
But yeah, when we have that
Greater joy and give
Then in receiving we get fulfillment
Now that's what really makes
Our spirituality
It's about giving more than we take
Okay, so now ask yourself
Do you know what people even need
You to give them
What is it that they would appreciate most
I call this the art of aim
A-I-M
The acronym
Help people remember
So A-R-T
And A-I-M
Are principles of
Appreciation, respect
And trust
When it comes to people's ability
Intensions and motives
A-I-M
Okay, so
If you appreciate people's
Abilities and you respect
Their intentions and you trust
Their motives, that's the first step
We're going to take a break
And again, the number of the station is
888-627-6008
When we come back, I'm going to explain
A little bit in more detail
What that really involves
And if you have questions
About the important relationships in
Your life, feel free to give me a call
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Now as a relationship coach
I specialize in teaching people
How to come together
And stay that way
I've got to tell you
Ladies and gentlemen, technology
I don't think it's making the world
As improved
As we want to believe it
Is, yeah, there are certain things
We can do now that we couldn't do before
But they're not all these things
That need to be done
And when we take our eyes off of each other
To put our attention
On an electronic device
We're not only doing ourselves a disservice
But we're missing out on opportunities
To connect with people
Personally, make eye contact
Have a verbal conversation
With our actual voices
Yeah, let's go ahead
And look back at the
Synchronized to synergize
How can we make that happen
What are the elements
Of that event
Actually coming to fruition
But also, how can we sustain
Through difficulties
Because there are going to be challenges
As long as we have different people
As long as we have
A variety of personalities
Yeah, there's going to be challenges
Okay, so, but what I always tell people
Let's just start with the very, very basic
Of when you synchronize
You're doing things
At the same time
In the same way
For the same goal
The movements that you have
Are together
You have to be and stay together
Now, when I think about my ballet teacher
When I was a very younger
I started taking ballet when I was five
Yeah, she was
Kind of hard
To be around
She was very high standard
She wasn't really
Caring and sensitive and nurturing
Very English
And what she always said
Whenever we had to get together
In the group
After we warmed up at the bar
Because you needed to warm up your muscles
And your joints and get your flexibility
Going a little bit before you get any kind of
Routine going with the group
She would always say
Centered
Stay centered
Never balance
But think about it if you're on your toes
Even the ball of your foot
And your toes
To stay centered
On your body weight
That meant that the top of your head
Had to be in alignment
With the tip of your toe
Wow, wait a minute
Now, growing up
A little girl's body was changing
Every single day
You had to be aware
Not only of where your
Weight was
Being placed
When you raise up
A little bit
When you rise onto your toes
You raise your arms
You pull your leg out
To the side
Your weight is being pulled in a different direction
You still have to maintain that center
Internally
Because it's not about your arms
And it's not about your legs
Okay, now that's tough
That meant you had to be very aware
Of your body and what was going on
Inside of you
Not just around you
Because when you did get around other people
The other girls in the class
You were going to have an effect on them
And impact on them
And that was either going to make their performance
Better or worse
Man, that is a lot of pressure
Have you ever had
That kind of pressure
Knowing that
You know, wait
I don't know if I can do this
On my own
I can't even do this on my own
I don't want to do this with anybody else
Well, in life we still have to get together with people
Yeah, so we have to make sure
That what we're doing is high quality
I loved that my teacher would say
After she would give us a routine
And we would go three girls at a time
Right? It was maybe a two minute routine
It was across a 16 foot
Space, right?
From the back of the classroom to the front of the classroom
You know, she would actually tell us
You need to get out of the group
Here you need to get
Over to the side and re-center
Stop doing this activity with us
Go to a separate place
And re-center
Okay, yeah, let's figure that out
Re-center is about getting back
On both of your feet
And getting to the base of your core
Know where your weight is right now
Get it back to the stable center
Of your being
Now your weight is going to be what you
Move around throughout the class
Around the other girls
Sometimes girls would get to perform solo
Right? They would do something by themselves
But for the most part
It was just a matter of
Mastering the execution
Of the steps
You had to do it right
Perfectly right
Time after time after time
And all of the girls had to get it
Absolutely right before we would move on to the next thing
Okay, that's a lot of pressure, too
Do you feel
Obligated to make sure
That what you're doing is high quality
When you are with people
Let's get back to the numbers
Oh, and again, if you want to call in
The data is 886276008
Okay, so now let's use another example of numbers
Let's say 3, 5, and 7
That's not just two numbers
If we've got three people
Who need to synchronize to synergize
Now, this is very important
To understand that when we combine with each other
We have physical and mental
And emotional elements
That with our spiritual energy
Create a very real physical experience
If, let's say, one person is a three
One person is a five and one person is a seven
Only one of them will be the exponent
The other two will combine to be the base
So let's think about all those different possibilities
3 plus 5 to the seventh power
Okay, that's 8 to the seventh power
That's different from 5 plus 7 to the third power
Okay, well how about 3 plus 7 to the fifth power
Who should be the base and who should be the exponent
What are those numbers?
The difference in those numbers
Well, 12 to the third power is 1,728
10 to the fifth power is 100,000
8 to the seventh power
It's 2,097,152
Do you know the impact that you can have on people
Who should be the base
Combining and who should be the exponent
Now, this is where
Knowing what you're each really really good at
In dancing you needed strength
You needed ability
You needed flexibility
And you needed endurance
Some people in life are very flexible
Some are very strong
They're very skilled
Yeah, they have endurance
Different people
So what you would do
Is make sure that if you understand the situation
What needs to be done
Who has different abilities
What are their different abilities
And how can those abilities be utilized
In any particular situation?
Yeah, this is when I
As a very young girl also had an amazing experience
When I had my personality profile
Because I understood that I happened to be a weird person
Yes, that was okay
Because my personality
Being weird that it was
Was amazing
I had gifts and talents and strengths and abilities
That people just didn't understand
Unless I explained it to them
But that meant that when I explained it to them
They were very impressed
I was an INTP
It really threw me off that I was an introvert
Because I didn't want to be around people all the time
But whenever I was with people
I could pretty much make everything work
Anything
I just didn't want to do it all the time
And that's okay
So what I am going to explain in the next segment
Is how to determine
How to determine different people's skills
And abilities
How to maximize all of the resources
And tools that they have naturally
With their personality
So that in any situation
You can find out who should be the mental
And emotional foundation
And who should be the physical exponent
That manifests that
Capacity for amazing
In the actual activity
That needs to be done in any particular situation
So again the number to the station is
888-627-6008
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In silence
There's a reason
In the chaos
There's a meaning
Every soul is speaking loud
If we only slow it down
No more guessing who we are
We've been brilliant from the start
When we see with open eyes
We don't divide
We unify
We unify
The power of synergy
Breaking walls and setting free
Every voice in every mind
Finally seen finally aligned
It's the power that truth we couldn't see
Now it's right in front of me
Not just people destiny
Welcome back
To the power of synergy
On BBS
I am Gabrielle Cardona
The number of decisions is
888-627-6008
If you want to ask me any questions
About what I am going to be discussing
This segment
It's going to be a little bit
Potentially confusing
I usually explain this over a two-hour period
So trying to condense it into
A shorter time frame
Is going to be
A little bit difficult for people who weren't already familiar
With personality
But I'll make it as simple as possible
Because it's not
The specific activities
It's the principles of the
General MO
Right of different people
We have different levels of functionality
And so the principles of functionality
Are some things are just going to be very easy
For us to do
They're going to bring us a lot of pleasure
To do them
And we're going to be really really good at them
Those are our dominant function
And there are things that
They're not automatically easy
But we're good at them and they bring us pleasure
That's your auxiliary function
And there are things that
Well, okay, they're not automatic
And they're not always
Bringing you pleasure
But you can do them well
That's your tertiary function
And then there are things that
They are hard
They are very unpleasant
For you and you're horrible
You're a dominant function
Now think about this
If you are with people
That have an inferior function
Of a certain activity
That happens to be your dominant function
Do it! You can be the one doing it
And then you can let them do something else
In a situation that needs to be done
That for you is a dominant function
Know who you are with
And know what they are good at
But more importantly know what you're good at
And what you're bad at
Because that way you can say to them
Look, this is what I have to offer
To bring to this situation
And I'm willing to work with you
If we synchronize
We can synergize
The art of aim
Appreciating, respecting, and trusting
Is about abilities, intentions, and motives
If we know that we are going to be
Co-operating at all times
We are going to be working together
We will be on the same page
That everything we do
Will manifest in a healthy way
And in a productive way
To everybody's fulfillment
And gratification
As well as
With the reward
The tangible reward of a product
Or a result
That the entire world will experience
As a result of our positive energy
When we have come together
And we have stayed together
Yeah, you know what?
Things are going to come up
Challenges are going to come up
But we stuck it out
Because we knew what we were doing
We knew who we were with
And we were able to synchronize
Now, the different activities
They're sensing intuition
Thinking and feeling
Okay, now
Let me just say first of all
That people really don't
Understand intuition
That's probably the most misunderstood
Of the four activities
Because it is a mental activity
It requires a lot of thought
But it's not the same as the thinking function
Intuition is the opposite of
Sensing
Sensing is about being involved in your environment
It is being active
With all of your physical
Facilities, right?
That's your eyes, your ears, your nose, your mouth
Your skin
When you have those physical body parts
That are making things happen in the world
You have to be engaged with your environment
Intuition is about being engaged
In what's going on inside of you
To the
Just neglect of your external environment
Now, it's okay to be aware of what's going on
Around you
And not necessarily paying a whole lot of attention
To what's going on inside of you
Because that's in a totally different place
And it's okay to be aware of what's going on inside of you
To the exclusion of your surroundings
If it is going to be
Proactively productive
For the people that you're with
Now, if you understand as an intuitive
That when you make these
Determinations with connections
And understanding of profound wisdom
Then whatever will happen in a sensory way
For the world around you
It's going to be high quality
It not only will affect right here right now
But it will have a lasting effect
In a positive way
On the situation
Well after you've left it
Okay, that's really good
That's encouraging to remember, right?
And again, the number of the station is
888-627-6008
But now the other two activities
Are thinking and feeling
Now, in terms of the personality
Feeling is about taking care of
Other people's personal needs
And thinking is about making decisions
That are logical and rational
Okay, well yeah, thinking and feeling
Are both about making decisions
But one is about
Wanting to be logical and rational
And intelligent with
Analysis of the information
So being objective
In that kind of
Decision making process
Is prioritized more for thinkers
Okay, but
Feelers are about
Understanding human needs
And the individual variables
Of every different person
And that every person is
Very important, their personal happiness
Is going to be the source of the good experience
You know what, for a feeler
It doesn't matter if it doesn't make any sense on paper
Because you know what, if the numbers on the page
Are causing people in the world pain
There's a stupid thing to do
For a feeler, okay?
Now, the question is
In every situation
Sometimes you got to do the sensing
Sometimes the intuiting
Sometimes the thinking
Sometimes the feeling
How much of each of those things
Should be done in each situation
Well, you know what, bottom line
Ladies and gentlemen, it just depends on the people
Of that particular circumstance
Now, if you have a variety of people
With these different abilities
Yeah, let's say we're getting ready for the wedding
Okay, we have to get ready for the wedding
We're leaving in about a half an hour
We got to get everything ready
In the car loaded up
We have got to get dressed
We got to make sure that we pick something up along the way
Because the bride left it
At her house
Okay, so that's time management
That's
The organization of all of the different items
Yeah, we got to make sure that
Everybody who is going to this particular place
Knows that there is going to be a time frame
Okay, we have to have certain things done
And there's only one bathroom
Okay, so let's figure out
How we're going to have five people
Using one bathroom
When we're talking about a situation
Just like that
It's important to remember how each person is different
Some people need to spend more time
Getting themselves ready
Some people don't
I don't take any time at all
Another person in my family
Who were remaining was
Really does need to have that extra time
To make themselves
Comfortable
Physically comfortable for a formal event
Okay, so if we know
That certain things are going to have to happen
In certain ways
The person who's going to be driving
Can take care of all of the things
You know what?
They can actually go pick something up before
Well, we're all getting ready
There we go, see
And if we talk about it
And if we plan it out
Then everything is going to be done
Successfully done
And people are going to be happy
By the time it is done
Everything is complete
And we're on our way
We're all going to be in a good mood
Because we all got what we needed
In the way that we needed
Yeah, and then when we know
That we're all feeling good
Because we supported and facilitated
And encouraged each other
To have that good experience
That's when we have a solid connection
Yeah, we synchronized
We synergized
And that positive energy is going to make the wedding
And even better event
When we get there
Okay, so we're going to take another break
Over the number of the station again
It's 888-627-6008
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Feel free
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Same words
Different meaning
Same moment
Different seeing
You think it's them
They think it's you
But there's a deeper
Point of view
You said it straight
They took it wrong
Now you're wondering what went on
Same sentence, different way
Now you're standing in debate
You call it honest
Welcome back to the power of synergy
On BBS
I'm Gabrielle Cardona
The number to this station is
888-627-6008
So let me ask you
When you think about the people in your life
That you love very much
You just can't be with them
They drive you crazy
Or you drive them crazy
But that doesn't change your love
If you knew how to be with that person
If you really understood their personality
And you could not only say to them
I understand
And I accept
That there are just going to be certain things
That are difficult for you
And that's okay
That doesn't mean you're a bad person
And I want you to know also
That there are going to be things that are just
difficult for me
And have nothing whatsoever to do with you
Yeah, wouldn't you like to have that good
Positive connection with someone
Even if they're not like you
They may be very very different
That may be what actually attracted you to them
Or attracted them to you
In the beginning
And then it's just a matter of
Once you got together
How can we make sure that we stay
Synchronized
In order to sustain that synergy
Well, okay, then again
Let's go back to the
You have to be centered alone
You have to be
Healthy by yourself first
Before you can invite other people into your life
Because again, if there's no neutral energy
You are either positive or negative
And I always tell my listeners
Ladies and gentlemen
In difference
Is not neutral
When you say
I don't care
That's actually negative energy
And you hurt the people in your life
When you tell them
I don't care
Because you know what?
As humans
Again, we're not like animals
It's not about survival
We want to be together
And we want a high-quality connection
And a meaningful experience
To make the world a better place
We have the capacity to do a lot
And that will either be good or bad
When we have a mindset of
Proactive instead of reactive
We're not functioning on survival
Survival is about having
Doing, being, more, better things
Okay, well, that's nice
All those things are nice
But let's go to the source
Of your soul
That produces the cause
Of the activity
That will create the effect
Of whatever manifest in the physical world
If you know
That you have the emotional
And mental
Quality state of your soul
Then you don't have to have more
And do more and better
Well, better than other people
Or other situations
Or better than yourself
No, you can stop competing
You don't have to compete
You can co-operate
Which means
We don't have to compare ourselves
To each other
Yeah, when I tell people
That I never had a favorite child
I have three children
And they were each my favorite
Just in different ways
For different reasons
A lot of people didn't believe me
But I knew as their personality
They were so different
My oldest was my favorite food
My middle son was my favorite movie
And my daughters like my favorite song
How can I compare my favorite food
To my favorite movie
To my favorite song
They're completely different
But they are very, very profoundly important to me
In different ways for different reasons
So if you look at people
Sometimes I'll use body parts
Like a heart
Or a brain
Or a muscle
Or a bone
And you say to the people in your life
I really appreciate and respect
And trust
Your abilities and your intentions
And your motives
Because I know that what you're doing
Is very high quality
From a source of
Unselfish trust
Yeah, okay
So high quality
Trust
That surrender
It's giving more than you take
You know what, look
Even if it's not a large amount
As long as you are giving
More than you are taking
That's another principle
Of a good quality soul
I hated when people would say
The flight attendant
Presentation of you
Always put the mask on yourself first
Well, yeah, but that's when you intend to save a whole
Plain full of people's lives
Okay, then you can say
I'm going to neglect your needs
For my own first
But you have to have the motive of giving
Back once you have taken whatever it is
That you're depriving someone else of
To make yourself
Good quality, a better state
Than what you would have been
Had you not done that
Then you can say
With a clean conscience
Yeah, not only was what I did important
It was necessary for me to do
Because my ultimate motivation
My intentions were going to be to
Give to you a high quality
Either service, activity, product
Some kind of physical object
Yeah, maybe it's just my time and my attention
Yeah, I'm going to be in a good mood
While we're doing it
Do you know how many people would actually say to you?
No, no, I don't want you to take care of yourself
I don't want you to get in a good mood
I don't want you to be a high quality
Mentally and emotionally
State being soul
Yeah, they do
They really do
And especially if you say
Look, what I'm taking care of myself right now
It is going to be worth it
The return on the investment
I promise you because
Ultimately, in my heart
I want to be better quality for you
Okay, let's get back to the numbers again
Let's say the difference between 3, 5 and 7
And if you say to someone, you know what?
I think I can get up to 8
Let's make it 3, 5 and 8
Okay, what's the difference between 3, 5 and 7
3, 5 and 8?
If you're a person and you're saying
You know what, I'm only 7 right now
3 and 5 people here
I will be back and I will be in 8
Maybe a while
What's the difference?
Okay, well, let's see
So with 3, 5 and 7
8 to the 7th power was
2,097152
Okay, so what's 8 to the 8th power?
16,777,216
Do you believe that one
Just if you are allowing someone
To improve the quality of their being
It's not just the
The impressive performance
It's the source of their thoughts and feelings
That will be displayed in their performance
That can really and truly
That's almost unbelievable
The improvement that can be made
Do you believe that the world
Needs that kind of sacrifice
To say, I will give up
Maybe an hour or two for you
To be whatever it is that you need to be
With yourself, for yourself, by yourself
To get to one, just one number
Better than what you were before
Because I know that when you come back together with us
We will be exponentially better
As a group
Do you know that when we are on technology
And we are in a group of a million people
We're still alone
Ladies and gentlemen, do me and you a favor
Be with people this week when you go out
When you are in a public place
If you're standing in line, talk to the person in front of you
Or behind you, make a joke
Or ask them a question about something that you may have heard about in public news
Yeah, I think the other day there might have been a shooting over on Thomas or was it McDowell?
I don't know, but the buses were all detouring
So I made a joke over in the Dollar Tree that
Yeah, the fact that I was watching the bus
Literally half a mile away
Stopped there and I ended up being an hour late
Because he had to detour around where our bus stop was
And you see stuff like that when you have a conversation with people
And you're looking at them and you're talking to them
They can feel your energy
You just made the entire store a better place
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What really does this mean on a daily?
Every day life basis
We'll talk about it when we come back to the power of synergy
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I'm Gabrielle Cardona
The number is 888-627-6008
IF you have someone in your life
That you want to synchronize with
You can't quite make it work.
There's something there that you either have a consistent struggle with or a challenge
that you face or maybe an impasse that you reach where you just can't make any progress.
More better.
Yeah, you still want to try.
Please go ahead and give me a call.
I've been a relationship coach for over 20 years, but people actually hire me to be their
coach when they see me with my husband or with my kids.
And they say, wow, you actually look happy.
How many mental health professionals in this country, their divorce, marriage counselors,
their divorce or family psychologist, psychiatrist.
Yeah, they don't like their kids.
They don't speak to their kids.
You know what?
The principles of what I teach people, they're very simple principles, but they're not easy
to live by easy standards.
You have to be able to not only be honest with yourself, but honest with the people
that you are with, but you have to do it in a humane way.
There is no neutral energy.
That means that you can say any message that you need to convey in a positive way or a
negative way.
You can have that good, healthy energy with them or you can hurt them.
I can even take a good message and I can deliver it in a painful way.
One of my favorite scriptures is it's better for a husband to sleep on the corner of a
roof alone than in a bed with a woman who likes to fight with him.
Women make men crazy when they won't stop fighting.
So that was one of the standards that I had and that I literally tell my clients part
of the reason why my husband and I are still like boyfriend and girlfriend after 30 plus
years, we've been married 32 years in July because that scripture meant a lot to me
as an eight year old when I just went, wow, even God thinks it's better for a man to be
alone than with a witch.
Okay, then I'm never going to be that way.
Or the other scripture was don't deprive each other of sex.
You know what?
I'm sorry, but feminism used it as a weapon.
This was a weapon and when I knew that the Bible said, yeah, no, if he needs it, you've
got to go ahead and give it to him.
That's okay.
And you can say we still need to talk about something, right?
As long as you say to your husband, yes, we need to talk.
I will take care of you.
But when we are done and you feel better, okay, then we're going to talk about something.
We are going to talk in a way that isn't going to make you want to live on the corner
of a roof.
Okay.
Yeah, that's that's about discipline.
And again, when my ballet teacher called or dancing a discipline, the first thing I thought
that meant was she was going to hurt us, physically hurt us with some kind of corporal punishment.
No discipline is mastery of a skill when you have self discipline, then you can say to
the people in your life, you know what, I know that this is going to be tough for
me, but I'm going to do it.
I'm going to stick it out.
I'm going to put in a really good faith effort, quality, emotional and mental energy into
what I'm doing.
So my physical performance, it might only be a three or a two.
But you know what, if I get myself up to a four, yeah, that's going to be better.
Just financially when I get together with you, I may be better alone.
Yeah, definitely in my own life doing stuff on my own with myself by myself.
It's good that when I have more people combining with me and I say to the people that I'm
with before we get together to do something in particular, let's discuss what what is the
ultimate goal that we're trying to reach?
How can we get there in the most organic way for us when people asked me as a relationship
coach as a life coach, what do you teach people?
I say, I don't I don't try to fix what's wrong because most of the time people are not broken.
They're just misinformed.
If you know where you are going specifically, you have a destination and you know exactly
where you are right here right now, you can make that line that trace that that roadway,
that pathway to your destination based on where you are.
There are a lot of different ways you can get there.
Make sure you go in the most natural way for your personality.
Then you have tools and resources like maybe you'll need a shot in the arm.
Maybe you will need emotional support from someone in your environment.
Maybe you will need to regroup and actually take a time out for yourself.
Wow, maybe you will need to maximize and utilize your negative emotions.
How about learning about anger and fear and anxiety when you can say to yourself and to
the people around you?
I understand that anxiety is about what could potentially go wrong.
Fear is about what is going wrong and anger is about what has gone wrong.
Then when you communicate with people and you synchronize and you synergize and you can
say, what was the actual issue?
Wow in this situation, why was there a problem?
We were cooperating.
We had a specific goal in mind.
We were all starting together in the same place where and route to our destination.
Did we disconnect from each other?
Let's get back to that place.
Figure out what in that situation was it because one of us was off center or was it because
one of us was doing one of our lower function activities and someone else should have just
been doing that?
Or is there something in that particular situation with many different elements, with
many different factors, with many different people that aren't even necessarily part of
the group that is synchronizing here, right?
Synergizing, there are people in the situation.
We need to be able to take a look at that.
That requires that communication.
We understand not only the topic but the issue but the problem.
That's the source of the cause of the effect.
Then we maintain that appreciation and respect and trust.
If you know that you appreciate others' abilities, that means you not only value those abilities
but you are really grateful for them.
You know what?
I don't know why.
I just started thinking about my kids.
I've only got three minutes from my show to be over.
When you appreciate, you are genuinely grateful for who people are.
They can feel it.
It means the world to them when you actually say to them, my life is better because you
are in it.
You respect people's intentions.
You don't have to agree necessarily with their belief and their philosophy in life.
You can say, I respect, that means honor and dignity for what matters to you.
We can have differences and peacefully coexist.
When you trust people's motives, you know that why they want to do things, not only
what they want to do their intentions but their motives, why they want to do it, you
can surrender and say, you know what?
I'm going to trust.
I'm going to let you have the control in this situation and I'm going to cooperate
with you without undermining you and without questioning you and without judging you.
Then you maintain that positive energy.
You have that good synergy with people and other people being around you are going to
absorb that and you will make the people that are around you while you have synchronized
with other people better quality souls.
Now my website is life- synergy-coaching.com.
I have my books out now.
I have the Embrace Your True Nature.
It's about your personality profile, the Self-actualization workbook and till death do us part.
I just finished this book about marriage.
Yeah.
You do want to get married again.
If you want to know the keys and the secrets, go to life- synergy-coaching.com and you can
get any one of those three books.
Thank you so much for listening to the Power of Synergy on BBS Radio.
We'll see you here.
Same time next week on BBS.
I'm Gabrielle Cardona.